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i think that this post should be erased. you don't agree with my life and that's fine, but its my life, its not yours, you don't have to live it so why not just drop it? its ridiculous that anything i say on here is criticized and sorry to say its not very "mature". if you want to believe that your life is better then mine then why don't you act like it? instead of coming on here and acting like a bunch of unhappy people that can only be happy by putting other people down. i do have growing to do but so do you, maybe you should think of getting a hobby other then putting me and all other different people down. i haven't said 1 inappropriate thing to anyone on here, but maybe if it really turns your stomach thinking about me being married so young, and trying to have a baby i should come on here and start talking about how great my s_x life is. and it is GREAT. maybe i should start talking to everyone like an immature little brat, but then i would lower myself to your level and i am better then that. if your going to continue this post, please leave me out of it because i don't want anything to do with it anymore. thanks bye.

Why should this post be erased? Carrie simply came on and voiced an opinion and there was nothing rude about it. You keep claiming that people are calling you a stupid teenager and I have yet to actually see a post saying that. You have been called immature due to your age, that is not the same thing. I don;t think you are stupid at all, I think you sound very intelligent. I think you are way to young to have a child but that is my opinion, it is your own life to lead. Does my thinking you are too young make my post inappropriate? It is simply an opinion. Personally I find your views, while completely different than mine, very interesting. Which is why I asked the questions I did in my last post. Not to attack you (and while I have seen one or two posts where people are rude to you, most people are not and just simply giving their view) but to know what your views are as I think you are very interesting (and not in bad way). Just because people (or myself directly) have the opinion you are too young does not mean that you are stupid or a bad person. It just happens to be a point we disagree on. And personally, I like reading all the different views we all have.

i think the entire forum should be erased, not just this post. the fighting and bickering and putting people down is not the purpose of this forum.we are supposed to be able to come on here and get support and advice and i dont see alot of that. and i can understand if most people cant do that for me because they dont understand me or they think i am to young, but on almost every forum it is the same way. this post wasnt started for support or advice or because she had a question, it was started because she cant understand other people and she thinks everyone should do it her way or they are bad people. well thats how i feel anyway.

I do agree that the entire forum should be erased. I mean, look at the t_tle "Best Age to Get Pregnant". There is nothing about that which would offer posts about support, just opinion. The "Teen Pregnancy" forum would be better for support. But I do find it very interesting to read about everyone's opinions and how different we are. I don't care for the attacks either, but I really don't see that many people being rude...just opinionated (two different things). I usually it the Poor Taste sticky when people are over the top.

Lets be fair,you only want this to be erased because you do not like the response you are getting,simple as that,and you have ran out of logical explinations on why it is ok for you to marry at such a young age,as been pointed out the Bill Wyman case...what age is not ok,10/11?? All these factors.I agreed with some posts who said you did show maturity apart quite obviously from your lack of seeing anything wrong.Your last few posts show frustration,and clear immaturity.Saying this forum should be erased,because you don't like it,saying that we are a bunch of unhappy people,quite the opposite,you are trying to judge me now,and nothing could be further from the truth.I am delighted with my life,I only come on here whilst at work,something to do.I must admit if you did'nt bite back I'd find it boring,you are making me laugh,at trying to be something you are clearly not...mature.It's amusing.

if you were so delighted with your life then you would not feel the need to put other different people down. why do most people put people down? because it makes them feel better about themselves and i think that this forum should be erased because just look at the t_tle of it "best age to get pregnant". for 1 there is no best age to get pregnant and the only thing that is ever on here is people fighting and putting each other down. i am not meaning to judge anyone but if i am then well everyone's doing it to me, why shouldn't i? you people seem to expect me to, i mean i am so immature that it would be the natural thing to do. quite honestly i think that you are the one that is not mature, thinking that you are better then other people, thinking that your way is the only right way, criticizing me and my decisions. it is not something that i do to you, i expect to get the same treatment that i give. do i think that 10 and 11 year olds should get pregnant? no i don't because for 1 their bodies arnt completely matured, for 2 they still live with their parents and i wouldn't want them to drop out of school, for 3 they don't have the money to raise a child, and 4 they probably don't have a stable relationship. nope your right the only explanation I have for getting married so young is because I love him. I have been with him for 5 years, I have been married to him for 3 1/2 and I am happy. and if you don't agree with it then that is fine, I don't care about what people think about me or my life. you want to continue putting me down well thats fine because it just shows how high your maturity level is and you are about 40 years old. continue on trying to put me down but guess what you and your narrow opinions honestly dont bother me.

Amanda,I love it,unforchantly I'll have to do some work soon,but love your responses.I am pointing things out to you,pa__sing on my opinion that is valid,thats not sad!So,you have stated reasons why you feel it is wrong for girls of 10 and 11 to get pregnant,all the resons I agree with and have been telling you,this can stretch further to the age of 14.You are still a girl,all of those things you said before.The only explanation for you getting married so young was because you love him,but there is no harm in waiting,marriage is a lifelong commitment,and at 14 it really is wrong to go into such a commitment when your body and mind is still growing up.As for being narrow minded,there are things in life that is as simple as being right or wrong,and at 14 thats one of them.Its as simple as beating someone up,stealing etc etc,all wrong.When you say you want to stay at home,not have an education,I have'nt said anything back to yo on that,because thats fine,its up to you,but over the yrs to come,I promise you that you will find you believe me when you say getting married at 14 is ok,in time you will look back and won't be able to believe you are trying to make an issue out of it,when you do have kids,be it with this person,or someone else,the thought of them getting married at 14 when they still wear a school uniform just does'nt seem.feel or is right,you wait.

well i am not 14 anymore i will be 18 in December and i have yet to regret it, if i end up regretting it down the road then i will have to deal with that. and comparing marriage at 14 to having kids at 10 or 11 is not the same thing. if they decide to keep their baby they cant take it back, while on the other hand I could get divorced if I wanted to. you make me laugh to, especially since you are saying that what I say is immature, you obviously don't read what you write. And its legal to get married at 14, if it was so wrong and horrible then it would not be legal. worry about yourself, your child and your husband and don't worry about my life.

Oh and thank you Louise, isn't it terrible? You would think that them being more "mature" they would have better things to do then put people down, I guess not. And Carrie if I was just rebelling against my parents would I still be with him? No, I would have gotten tired of it long ago. You think its wrong, I don't, difference of opinions, you have said what you wanted to say about me being married at such a young age but it is legal, Why is that? You don't have to agree with everything that is legal but don't put me down because I decided to take advantage of something that the law let me do.

Amanda,it may be legal whereever you are,but here in the U.K it is illegal....and why is that?Because what the ladies,or Carrie is saying to you is very true.She has'nt attacked you,she has explained very proffessionally why 14 is bad,and I support her.Why are you asking her to worry about her husband and family,when she just vents an opinion? Let me tell you,I am 25 yrs old,and she (or they)are very mature,you don't seem to be by being adament that its ok,and on the verge of verbally attacking her,when she is just explaining things.I had a baby 7yrs ago,at the age og 18,then again at 20.My friends were enjoying being 21,I was stuck with 2 kids,then the man I thought I loved,left me,we were too young to have kids,our lives changed,feeling changed,as Carrie is telling you I grew up,we may have drifted together,or apart,we did the latter.Here I am at 25 two kids,and when I meet a new man have to say I have kids,it is obviously harder when you have a family,finding a sitter etc etc.I was too young to have kids,even if we'd stayed together I still feel that I was too young.Being 14 and getting married to me is disgusting,as Carrie says,you are children,you are children because you are still going to school,wearing school GIRLS uniform...a junior,a schoolgirl,yet to say at that age you are ready for marriage,and all it entails,rubbish.Yes,its easy to divorce,costs a bomb,and not happy especially where kids are involved,but thats not the point.I'm not hugely a lot older than you,but while you still can,see sense,understand what is being pointed out to you, Carrie is not "sad"but is talking a hell of a lot more sense than you,and seems very mature in her outlook on life.

Well, in the US it is not illegal. I am not on the verge of verbally attacking her and excuse me but they are the ones that wont let it rest. I told them they could leave me and my life out of it because I didn't want a part of it anymore. did they? No, they didn't and of course I am going to reply if someone is going to put my life down. and I did not call her sad.

well here in the U.K it is illegal,and at 15,so I can fully understand why Carrie has said its wrong..Carrie are you from the U.K?As have already been said,at that age they are schoolgirls,not schoolladies,but girls.Yet,you fail to see anything wrong.As for leaving you and your life out of it,if you come on here you have an opinion,and others are free to tell you exactly what they think,if you don't like it,then why be on a forum list where different people has different opinions?I thought at one time you called her life as "sad"maybe I was wrong.I really feel like Carrie is not attackking you,or putting you down,just being blunt with you on why,and I agree wholeheartedly that it is wrong

and i can understand where you are coming from, but does that give anyone the right to put people down? no it doesn't and i do feel like Carrie is attacking me, i may be a little over sensitive but that's how i feel about it. i don't want my life being torn apart by people just because they don't understand me. i asked them to give it up, i didn't want to argue with anyone anymore but could they do that? No, they couldn't and they wont, I just have to give it up because I don't care about how wrong people feel my life is, its mine and its great and I wouldn't trade it for anyone else's. I hope that you people get happy and stop judging people just because they are not like you. goodluck ttc and with your pregnancy.

Hang on a moment,I can see where this problem lies,you feel carrie is picking on you,yet she keeps on,like I would saying why getting married,at 14 is wrong,that is not having a go at you directly,but as she,and now I am pointing out to you the reasons why any 14 yr old girl is wrong to get into heavy involvement at an age when she cannot have grown up values,because she is'nt a grown up,as you were 14 when you married then you fall into the catogry,and as you cannot seem to see why it is so wrong,the "banter"as she says is going back and forth.I say again,I promise you in time,whether you stay with your husband or not,but in time you will understand why it is so wrong to marry at just 14, which is illegal here,and for a very good reason.

Mandy,thank you for saying what you did.It is illegal in the U.K to get married at 14,and for obvious reasons.You know Mandy,maybe by saying this to these "girls"even though they are coming across as "whats wrong ,we are in love" etc etc,deep down it may get there,they may not admit,but hopefylly for their own sakes they realise that actually we are trying to give them d__n good advice,advice their mothers would,but like me I could never talk to my mother about anything.I would have hated to have rushed in so fast for a baby,these girls are not ready.

shame the girls have gone,I enjoy reading this,well done carrie,and the comments who followed,now then children..understand?