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Gee, did I, or did I not, say "for whatever it's worth" - and "supposedly" I never said, american baby said this, and you must do this! .....god women can be so friggen catty. There was just no point in you commenting.

Casey- I picked up a copy of that American Baby you mentioned. I read the article last night while Ben was dozing off at my b___st again- LOL! I thought it had some inteesting advice and I am going to ask our regular doctor about it today. It sounds like the first three months don't matter as much, but I guess it is better to start forming good sleep habits earlier than later. It's just so much easier to let him fall asleep and stick him in his crib. :)

maybe you're just hormonal right now, i don't know. but my "well..." post was not meant to be catty. try reading it from my point of view as someone sighing about all the new sleep ideas that come out every month. it was the point of view from someone understanding your point, just not agreeing with it. goodness. for another point of view, dr. sears offers this: "I let my 18-month-old fall asleep with me on my bed and then transfer him into his crib. Is this setting up a bad habit? No, it's setting up a good habit. Remember that the goal of nighttime parenting is to create a healthy sleep att_tude so that your baby learns that sleep is a pleasant state to enter and a fearless state to remain in. Falling asleep snuggled up next to mommy or daddy is a wonderful way to transition from a busy day to a restful night. You may worry, or may have heard, that if you let your baby fall asleep in your bed he will never learn to sleep on his own. This concern is based upon the theory of sleep a__sociations, which means that the way a baby goes to sleep is the same way a baby goes back to sleep. So, if baby goes to sleep in your arms, yet wakes up alone in his crib, he may not be able to resettle himself without your a__sistance. While there is some merit in this sleep a__sociation theory, think of it this way. Nighttime parenting is a long-term investment. You are creating memories. Your baby is learning to a__sociate parents with comfort rather than being forced before his time to soothe himself off to sleep, even with a variety of personless props. As long as your baby sleeps well in his crib, then continue your present arrangement. In this way, you and your baby enjoy the closeness of cuddling off to sleep together, yet baby gets used to his own sleeping space in his crib. As an older toddler, he will eventually learn to go to sleep on his own in his crib or toddler bed. Yet, realistically, most toddlers enjoy the nighttime ritual of rocking, being read a story, and being parented off to sleep rather than just put to sleep. If your baby could vote, he would naturally choose to fall asleep in your arms or at your b___sts rather than behind bars alone in a crib. The attachment-parenting way of going to sleep is especially valuable for busy babies who have difficulty winding down at night and letting sleep overtake them."

What's the easiest thing for "you" to do? Do you have any particular problem with letting him fall asleep at the b___st and then placing him in his crib? or are there just those pesky little voices in the back of your head telling you that "doctor says this" and "studies show that". Lesson #1 of being a mom is learning how to tune out those voices and listen to yourself and your baby and determine what's best for both you. I'm not patronizing you at all. it's extremely hard to do! but once you get it down, you'll wind up a much happier person and your baby will be much happier as well. good luck to you and let that sweet baby fall asleep where he feels comfy! :-)

Do what you feel and know is right for YOU and YOUR BABY. You know, I put my first baby to bed in his crib from day one. Second baby I cuddled him to sleep. And now I SO MUCH regret not doing that with the first - they grow up so fast and you really realize how much you miss things. Hes not a little baby anymore and doesn't want to be cuddle to sleep. I wish he did!!!

Well, I talked to our regular doctor about it today. He doesn't see it as being a problem. He said if I am using BF'g to make the baby sleep, that is an issue, but if baby dozes off at the b___st, so be it. I am actually fine with how and what we are doing right now, so I am not going to worry about it anymore. "I AGREE" is right- they are only babies once. One of these days, he may not want to kiss me or hug me, so I got to get the cuddles and closeness while I can :)