Struggling W Decision To Have 4 C Section
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Hi there
I have 3 children born in 95,01 and 03. I had c-sections with all of them. I have history of preeclampsia with #1 quite severe, and #2 was much better but still delivered at 35 due to it and with #3 all was great and had c-section at 38 weeks. I recovered fine and have no lasting effects from them, that i know of now. I am just turning 37 yrs old and have a strong desire to have one final baby. My o.b is at a high Risk Clinic and we met with him for a consult. He warned us of the risk of placenta accreeta being 1/20, possibly of blood trans 1/10. He also warned of the regular surgery complications of blood clots, infection etc. I asked him about adhesions and he said mine were "moderate:" upon last c-section. When I asked him well green light or red light his words were "think of what you already have and proceed with caution" The desire is definately there along with fear and concern about what if something happens- what about my 3 children and husband. I'm open for any feedback and info and am wondering if many of you ladies have had 4 successful c-sections and what your dr suggested? Thank you for your advice, i am really struggling over this decision.
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i know that placenta accreeta is a risk with any repeat pregnancy after c section. and blood tranfusions, clots, infection, ect. are risks everytime you have a c section and like you said you have made it through 3.. you are the only one that can make that decision to have another one, but i think you have to look at the big picture yes you have alot to loose but thats a risk no matter what whether it was #2 or #3 so i think you have to do what feels right for you...good luck in whatever you decide!
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lovemy, there are women who have had more c-sections than yourself,but you really have to take the word on the doctor,and listen to his advice for your own situation,and that applies to anyone giving you advice.The thing is,I know this maybe little consulation as you have a desire for another baby,but you have three children, more than a lot of people. There are those out there whose partner may not even want children,yet the other does,so someone has to give. I would just think that 3 was enough,also what if you have another and the desire returns, where do you stop? At least now,you are healthy and like I said,not one,but three children,is that not enough?
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marcie-how can you tell a person what is enough?
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Amy I do not think marcie meant it as hard as you thought. It is true that at least she has three kids will it be one more or will the hormones start off again. Lovemy I think you should go with your heart and do what you want but you also should consider your health and the family that you already have. If it was me then I would try and put that desire to one side and turn my attention to my life as it stands.
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Thanks everyone for your advice. Its funny, if I were answering my own post i'd say the exact same things. Look at life how it is now. I am really blessed and thankful. Its just how the heart feels vs the brain i suppose. Its easy too see the answer logically, sometimes just a little hard to accept the facts. In any case, thank you. My prayer is for the desire to be removed and for my husband and i to have peace in our decision.
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