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Well, I am not one of those die hard c-section bashers because I think that when you need a c-section, you need a c-section and that's just the way it is! I had two C's and have two gorgeous healthy children, so really in the long run have nothing to complain about. VJR and others who think c-sections are positive experiences - do you only have one child? Besides the medical complications that occured with my 2nd c-section (my incision would not close for 7 weeks.. what a horrible experience!), trying to care for a jealous 3-year-old and a newborn while recovering from surgery was really not pleasant at all. I think the ease of my first C made me totally fearless about my 2nd C. And the experience of my second C was so bad that my husband got a vasectomy a couple months later because we are both so terrified to ever get pregnant again! LOL!

Nerdy girl...yes this is my first. i was a naany for 10yrs and the kids (4 of them) were all 18months apart, and as a young healthy not post csection woman i had it rough so i cannot imagine going through what you went through LOL! At this point getting preg. again is far from my mind i was an emotional wreck while i was PG almost caused my DH to want a vasectomy also!! I don't want to pretend i know everything i just wanted to get some positive info out there, and i know chasing after another child no matter how you gave birth is HARD and i respect all women who do it. Anyway i figure it doesn't hurt to share... :)

If you look up some of my old posts from 13 months ago or more, you can see that I used to be a lot more positive about c-sections. That was because at that point I had only had a good c-section! :)

vjr, I'm happy for your sake that you seem to be recovering just fine from your c-section. As for me, it's been 16 months since mine, and I've healed physically, but I'm not sure I'll ever recover from the emotional and psychological impact of it. Yes, I love my daughter, yes I'm grateful she's healthy, but no, I don't believe my c-section was necessary - at least, it wasn't necessary until my doctor decided to interfere with a perfectly normal labor. To say that the happiness of giving birth will override the emotional trauma of major surgery is actually very insulting to me, and to others who feel the way I do. (And there are a LOT of women who feel utterly violated by their c-sections, and betrayed by their doctors and bodies.) It implies that we are selfish, or self-involved, because while we are happy that we have our beloved babies, we are UNhappy about what happened to us. A healthy baby is NOT the only important thing; Mom's health and wellbeing matters too, and to imply that it doesn't is just plain mean. I'm going to go look up a link to an essay that I think every woman should read, whether you've had a c-section or not. It will help you to understand those of us who are very traumatized by what we went through.

birthtruth org/grateful htm Periods go where there are spaces. Please take the time to read this essay, it's not long, and it says so much.

I'm not by any means a c-section basher either ....I mean if you need one, you need one! I needed one in order for me and my son to live, so obviously they're a pretty useful thing! I've just had a HORRIBLE experience with mine and it's still affecting my life in a large way, so when people come on here asking for opinions and stories, I'm going to tell them mine. If people ask, then they deserve to hear stories from both sides of the spectrum. If I can keep someone from having to go through what I'm going through my giving them some information, awesome. I know my story isn't how everyone's C-section goes, but I know it's not that rare either. I just feel like first time mommies who are thinking about having an elective C have the right to read about some of the risks.

C-section's not a 4 letter word? I thought it was....PAIN lol.

jamie i apologize if you feel i insulted you by my post, i did not mean to imply anything about you or anyone else, i was only trying to state my experiance and get some positive info out there...sorry

I had to have a c-section with my 3rd baby because i carried her to almost 42 wks and she over 8 lbs and would not come through the birth ca___l and i labored as long as my dr would allow.then with the next pregnancy my dr made me have a repeat c-section because he beleives in once a c always a c and now that i am pg again he is making me have another c-section.I dont mind having c-sections i mean my recovery from them both had went pretty smoothly.I just always fear of my stomach busting open.

Hey ladies.... i said POSITIVE stories!!!

I just don't think everyone has happy, happy, joy, joy c-section stories. I wouldn't say mine were really bad or anything and I'm glad to have my kids (and that they were born safely), but my sections were painful and exhausting.... why would I rave about it? C-section or v____al... birth is one day of your life (per child lol) and a means to an end IMO.

I had a c-section on 2/8/06 and am pregnant again and plan to have another in April, I would have a c-section any day of the week, forget stretching my stuff out I like it the way it is, my daughter was big and that wouldv'e caused major st_tches in my sensitive areas, no thanks to ever having a vbac

sahmof3 my point is share your story if its positive, there is plenty on here about what isn't good about csections, the reason for stating this theard was to have some positive stuff on here as well! So if yours wasn't happy happy joy joy then you didn't have to share on this thread, i'm not telling you where you can interject but at the same time why ruin the positive thing i was doing? Kendall AMEN!!! Finally someone who agree's with me, my daughter was small 6.5 but i was perfectly happy with her coming out of what is now a remote and almost un-noticable scar, I to would have another csection if we have another baby, it was so nice to not have to wonder things like what if i'm driving home, what if i can't get ahold of my boyfriend in time, what if my water breaks in public.... I knew that day my daughter was coming and we were prepared. I had no stress or anxiety about going into labor, which i don't think you have to do in order to be a "real" woman. My daughter would have felt my stress and could have caused us both harm had i not had a planned csection. I had other reasons for doing it (personal and valid reasons) but even if i just wanted to have one because it was my choice i think its 100% ok to do so. The medical field has come so far and csections are done every day, and yes i know things can go wrong but things can go wrong with v____al birth to!! And as for my stuff yeah i didn't want st_tches, i didn't want to tear, i didn't want to have to pee in a tub for 2months... As I said before i was able to have s_x 6days later! And yes i wanted to have s_x!! Anyway lets keep this thread positive please, remeber the old saying "If you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all"!!!!!!

Ahh, rose-colored gla__ses......

When I had my first daughter I wish that it wouldv'e been a planned c-section, but when I went into labor at about 10am on a Tues and by Wed at 2:30pm she still wasn't here, (7lbs. 13oz and sideways) my cervix was swollen and everytime I had a contraction her heart rate would drop, they finally said lets take her out and at 2:53 after 29 hrs of labor she was here, I would bypa__s all of that with a c-section to have my babies in the world so much faster and without the contraction which I must say were UNBEARABLE, unlike the quickness of the c-section....and this time I get to pick the day that my baby will be born on (have to stay away from family members b-days)

I had an elective c-section when the docs told me he would be a big baby (my first daughter was 5lbs and tore me up) My section was a dream. Unfortunatly I DID go into labor 6 hours before my sectionand was i labor for 5 hours (terrible labor by the way) until everything was ready for my section. It was wonderful. I was out of bed within 12 hours, in the shower within 24 and home within 48. My doctor was AMAZED at how well i was doing. SHe almost had a stroke when she read my chart and saw that i hadnt had anything at all for pain, I didnt feel that i needed it. I went home 2 days early (my doc usually requires 4 days in hosp) and i never had any problems at all with anything. I am looking forward to my next section. I would take that over my v____al delivery anytime