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some people think that they got "cheated" out of the whole natural, "normal" labor ordeal. A c-section is not easier to recover from, but you don't have to have the labor pains that you do with a v____al birth. So some people feel that they "wussed" out on the pain and had to have an "unnatural" birth. I am 3 months with twins and there is an 85% chance of C-section, so I am trying to already tell myself that I am not cheating my babies out of a normal birth - it's really up to them to be in a position where they can come out or not! I'm glad you are okay with it though - that's excellent. Hopefully I will be too :)

I had a c-section 4 weeks ago and I do not feel bad at all. My baby's heart rate was dropping and a c-section was needed to ensure a healthy baby and that is what is important. I have been surprised by a few reactions after I tell people I had a c-section, but I know it was the right decision and I don't think I cheated pain considering my abdominal was cut and I had a longer recovery. The majority of people are very positive towards my experience. Given the choice again, I would definately do another c-section.

well, i would feel cheated if i missed out on my home birth. it was hands down the most exhilerating experience of my life. yea, if a c/s had become necessary, i would have done it, but i would have sure as hell tried to do it v____ally next time.

I had an emergency c-section after a failed induction. They tried to induce for 36 hours, and during that time 7 women had babies in the room next to mine. So I felt like a failure, because everyone else was having their babies without a problem. Also, my daughter had to spend 10 days in NICU...the doctors told me that was common with c-section, because the fluid in the baby's lungs is not squeezed out as it is during a v____al delivery. So I felt guilty that she was in the NICU. I'm having another c-section in aug. and I don't feel bad about this one, because it's planned and I've had time to get used to it.

For me, I felt like my body was failing me. I could carry my child, but I couldn't deliver him. I looked at it like, if I can't even push him into this world, how am I supposed to be a mom? It may sound dumb, but that's how I felt for months. Now that's he's almost 2, I've realized I am capable, but it took a long time and a little Paxil to help me along. And I knew from the beginning that there was nothing I could have done differently to avoid my section (fetal distress, cord wrapped around his neck) but it didn't change how I felt. For a while, I didn't tell too many people outside of family how I'd delivered because I was ashamed of it. But that was why I had a lot of problems after my section.

I had a section three years ago and am still bothered by it. I was in labor for 26 hours before and I had to be put completely under for the section so my experiecne was not good. I was so out of it from being tired from labor, the drugs wearing off and then post partum I was a mess. I felt cheated that I did not get to hold my baby right away and have that instant bonding experience. I did not get to hold him for about 4 hours after he was born because I was so out of it. I am having another section in October and have already talked to my Dr. about things we can do to make it a better experience.

I had my baby via scheduled c-section on Mar. 11 2005. My daughter was trasverse breech (sideways) so there was no option. I thanked my Peanut because I was scared to death of a v____al delivery! My sister was jealous too! lol I have absoltely no guilt because that's the way dd wanted it to be. If I have more children they will have to be c-sections too because they made a vertical cut instead of a horizontal cut due to her position. The procedure scared the hell out of me but the recovery was no problem.

hi all,I have had a C section with my first child and feel very good about it.First of all it is safe for the baby I mean baby is not suffering as if like during v____al birth and for woman it is also a good option as she will save herself from v____al pain and of course for private life with husband which is also very important.I have many friends who have given birth naturaly and all of them complaining on the pain and s_x life.So dear women dont feel shame,and remember you are not cheating on anybody you just do the best for you and your child

i had an emergency c-section. I felt the same as some others here do, I felt like my body failed me. I tried so hard to give birth v____ally, but the baby went into distress and it had to be done. I don't regret it in the least, but i felt like i was missing something. My husband didn't get to cut the cord, and that was dissappointing for both of us. I didn't get to hold and feed my baby for HOURS afterwards, and i felt i had lost that bonding oppertunity. I had many friends who delivered v____ally, and they were able to have s_x within weeks of giving birth, I on the other hand, was in too much pain to do anything arousing for almost two months. The contractions of an orgasm pulled at my internal st_tches and i was rolling in agony afterwards. Besides, with a husband as 'endowed' as mine, a little stretching down there would have been a benifit!

I totally agree with you i dont understand why women feel bad specially when they have to have a c-section because something is wrong with the baby or the labor isnt going right. i think as a mother you should be worried about what is best for your baby and to get it delivered the safest and best way, who cares if you think you got cheated out of pushing those women would have a whole different feeling if something bad happen to their baby if a problem occur just so they didnt get cheated out of having their baby naturally.

I have three boys and three very different birth stories. My first was born v____ally. He weighed 5lbs 8ozs, and popped right out. No problems at all, no tearing or anything. My second was also born v____ally. He weighed 8lbs 6ozs, not so easy as the first. I had to have an episiotomy (sp?) and I tore. I was st_tched from end to end. The recovery was aweful, I felt like the walking dead for two weeks, I could barely move. I am lucky my scar healed really well so I have no pain during s_x. My third was just born on June 7th, by emergancy c-section. He weighed 9lbs 5ozs. We knew that he was going to be a big boy, and I was terrified to deliver him naturally. While at the hospital we decided to have a c-section, not five minutes later he decided that it had to be an emergancy. His cord was in a knot, and wrapped around his neck. I don't feel bad at all!! I am just so thankful that he is here, safe and sound. If it weren't for the c-section he wouldn't be here today, thank god for modern medicine. We plan on one more, trying for a girl, and that will be a planned c-section. I guess another reason I don't feel bad is that I've done it both ways now. I'm very happy with my c-section, and with the sizes of my boys will be very happy to have another.

To brandi, I think it is very sad that you are so judgmental. Until you have been there you have no idea how you would feel. Of course we are all glad that are babies were deliveried safely, but that does not take away emotions of dissappointment and sadness about how it happened. You also have to consider post partum and the role that plays in the scenario. I hope you never have this experience, but if you do I hope you are not judged as you have judged others.

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I have been there i had to have my twins delivered by c-section. to clear things up you dont know my situation either so you are being judgmental also. I wanted to have them natuarally but had to do a c-section and i knew that i had a really good chance of having on naturally and on c-section but i understand how you feel post partum trust me i had to deal with alot of that and many other things you wouldnt have any idea about so before you start pointing fingers about someone being judgemental

It's not that I feel cheated but rather that I cheated. I'm okay about it because I know I had no choice, infact if it were left to fate perhaps I was meant to die during childbirth. Anyhow yeah, I kind feel that I cheated and skipped that first major initiation into Motherhood. I look at my baby and am amazed that she come from my body, maybe it'd feel more real if I'd had her naturally. Yes I am strange I know ;o)

Me again. Also I did get to experience labour as I was 2cm dialated and had to have emergency C. This could have a bit to do with not feeling guilty. If guilty is the word.