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I think it's great that he is saying that. At least try regular labor. A family history is not you, since you've never had a child. I mean this in the nicest way possible. I would have said the same thing if I was your doctor as a c section is MAJOR surgery!

I would be furious. This really should be your decision to make. I expect my Dr to give his opinion and advice but the decision after that should be mine. Good luck with the birth - all the best!

I think it should be your decision which option you want to use. I had an elective C section on the 23 of June 2005, after a long 6months of debating it with my midwife who wanted me to try normal labor first. I was definite from day one that I wanted C section which was communicated clearly but for some reason she felt obligated to try convincing me otherwise. My partner ended up outlining to her that it was quite rude of her to keep on second guessing my decision.

A C-section may not be the Easy way out you hope for...You can't drive for 6 weeks, most insurance companies won't cover you for 6 to 8 weeks. You can't get out of bed the first night. Very painful to get out of bed for the first week. Even in hospital with the thingy hanging above the bed to pull yourself up on. Although the scar might be neat and almost invisible you're left with a parcel of skin hanging over it (My 6 weeks aren't up yet so hopefully this'll improve when I can start exercising). Oh yeah, the first couple of days you feel like you need to carry your abdomin in front of you so it doesn't slap onto the floor when you get up. Don't be fooled into thinking it's a more graceful way to go. Good luck

I think you have a right to have an elective c-section if you want...it's your body, you should be allowed to deliver your baby the way you want. I went through the same thing you did. I had my daughter by elective c-section on Feb 14, 2005, but it was a fight to the finish to get it. I also had a family history of both my mother and sister having long, hard labors only to end in c-sections, I was terrified of having to go through the same thing. I found a doctor who agreed to do the elective c-section, but only if the insurance would approve it. We found out three days before the c-section was going to happen that they did'nt approve it because it was not medically necessary. My husband told the doctor we didn't care, but to go throught with the c-section anyway. I had the c-section and was out of the hospital in 2 days. I was up cleaning the house and doing laundry in a week. I had absolutely no problems. As far as the insurance company, after fighting with them for 2 months and reporting them to the insurance commisioner, they paid the c-section. If you want to have an elective c-section, have it.

I went to see a consultant in hospital back in may,explained I'd seen the doctor twice before last year,finially admitted I'm frightened of giving birth.It was agreed I could have a c-section,but I have still cowered away from it.I think I'm a genuine case of tokiphobia as its been a very long time,I've been with my man for 20yrs,and am just too scared,poor man he's always wanted children but have said it has to be a joint decision,I get his hopes up like talking about children,seeing the doctor and consultant then scared again!