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J, I am sorry you are still suffering, give it some more time. I am not very post_tive, but I am suffering YEARS later from my c-sections and so are many people I know. There just is no easy birth, but at least with v____al suffering you can pin-point where the problem areas are and try and remedy them without more abdominal surgery to find what the problem is. I hope you get better soon but I still can't in good conscience say an elective, non medical c is a good option.

I just read today that the leadin cause of maternal death in the U.S. is complications from c-sections. The good news is that only 100 women were reported ro have died last year, which is tragic, but is also a relatively low statistic when you figure how many babies are born in this country each year, but still... I can't stop thinking about all of the things that could possibly go wrong and am very frightened. My father went in to have a very minor surgery performed and almost died after developing a staff infection. He was in the hospital for over two months and can barely even walk anymore, because the infection settled into his feet. I don't think a lot of women who are electing to have c-sections that are not medically necessary, take into consideration all of the risks that are involved; not only with c-sections, but with any type of surgery that involves being cut open.

I agree, I don't think a lot of people are thinking about all the risks inherent in surgery. Perhaps if they do their research or are more informed by their doctors they will, but I still think that a person should be able to decide what is best for themself. For myself, I haven't decided what I would do if I have the choice one day. Another child at this point may not even be an option anymore. There are risks and benefits of each way, its one's responsibility to know them.

I agree as well about the risks of c-sections. I have had 3 and have no problems at all and feel very lucky. The plain risks of surgery in itself are frightening. Blood clots, infection, etc. I am struggling over taking that risk one more time to have our fourth and final and those risks are weighing very heavily on my mind. For myself personally, I WOULD NEVER "choose" a section just to have one without great medical concern.

u guys r getting me scared now, since IM HAVING TRI[PLETS, and most likely will need a c section, i absolutely do NOT want one, but whatever happens happens i guess, does anyone know if theres a way to make sure that all babies heads will face down???????

Today is my first visit. I am really disappointed that grown adults are putting down a woman for her birthing experience. My C-section was an emergency and I felt like a failure for sometime but I would likely not have a VBAC for my next child unless my doctor says I have to try. I had a really great birthing experience. I too LOVED the experience. I had no tearing, bleeding and I got great drugs for 5 days. I think that some people have aweful v____al deliveries and some people have great c-sections. And I do agree that there sounds to be more negatives about c-sections than positives so anybody 'scheduling' a c-section hoping for a BETTER experience may be very disappointed. I look forward to your stories and mostly would like to hear from woman with VBAC stories good and bad just in case I need it someday.

I am going to try VBAC in August provided everything still looks good. I had an emergency C last May so my kids will only be 15 months apart. My doc lets you try as long as the births are more than 12 months apart. I trust the docs and I trust myself to callit off if during labor I feel like things are going down the tubes. I had a great C-section experience but even w/o the complications it took forever to recover. My son is 24 pounds so I want to be able to care for him properly after I deliver.

I think "glossed over" is YOUR opinion, why couldn't it be that these women are making an informed decision? As for surrogate motherhood, are you saying that c-sections are not really giving birth? Must be nice living in your judgemental bubble.

To vjr, I noticed you posted on another thread about having an elective first c-section and that you want to know how soon you and BF can have s_x. Hmmm....thought you were informed? Clearly you don't respect the opinions of those who have actually HAD a c-section delivery enough to have already asked this question whilst doing your research. It was you who said some women are making "informed" choices so this should have been uncovered in your exhaustive research. If not, you have not scratched the surface of what real c-sections can entail. Rather than say b__wn away is in a "judgmental bubble" why don't you get out of yours? At least b__wn away has had this type of birth and has the right to say why she is aghast at c-sections done unnecessarily. So unless yours is necessary for a true medical reason (and that would be interesting considering you still have months to go), perhaps you should get off your high horse and allow someone to speak of this who actually has credibility. There are women out there who don't agree with choosing a c-section from their own personal experiences and you have no right to dismiss them, especially since you don't know at all. And as far as the surrogate motherhood thing, I think it is clear that many (not all) choosing c-sections without need are thinking they are getting away with something, or booking their kids for convenience, or think they are somehow preserving body parts by sacrificing other body parts and if that is the case, why be pregnant at all? Just let someone else do all that nasty birth stuff. By the way, c-sections hurt a lot also, and many times for a lot longer, oh, and the adhesions you can get can ruin your s_x life as well. I normally don't get into these little tiffs, but your post really irritated me after I saw you had already scheduled an elected primary c-section months in advance and your other question was about s_x. Kind of gives one an idea of your personality.

I agree with you Chem400. VJR can have a elective c-section if she wants, she might be unpleasantly surprised, but she shouldn't call Blown Away judgemental when she is being so. I too, noticed that said poster was asking about s_x and getting back in shape. While those things are EVENTUALLY important, lumped together with the elective primary c-section booked months in advance does give one the impression of a self-absorbed personality type. Sounds like a Britney Spears thing. Shauna, what do you mean no bleeding? I bled after all my c's and was told the delivery method makes no difference in that respect. Plus, a lot of women bleed during the section. Anyhow, just curious.

Hi. I am 16wks. w/2nd baby after a C-section. Dr. says I will need another C-section or most likely. The last time I needed one b/c of failure to progress. She said it would be likely I would need one again at least according to reccent studies and also that community hospitals aren't equipped to do them b/c they don't have the staff for an immediate anestisiologist. Has anyone heard of this ?

There are lots of reasons women may want to choose one method over another. Neither way is risk free and both are potentially danger and can affect your quality of life. http://www.babycenter.com/comments/baby/physrecovery/2434?i=0

I agree that it's a little out there to want a c-section when it's not medically necessary, but honestly if a woman wants to take on the risk of surgery then that's no one elses business. Although I've never heard of any doctor performing a c-section based solely on a womans preference. Except in cases where a womans had a previous section. Also I want to add that I've actually been admonished for saying that I have to have a cesarean. When the case is that I have a plattypelloid pelvis and it would be virtually impossible for me to give birth v____ally. And to attempt to would pose a greater risk to any baby I would carry than a section would. Forgive me I don't know how to word this since I'm not currently pregnant, I learned this during my pregnancy with my son. But see no one I've talked to waits to hear why I say that I would NEED a c-section, I just get jumped on and I don't think it's fair. I'm beginning to feel that there's a stigma attached to this procedure which is insane to me. Why does it matter how you bring your baby into the world? As long as you aren't endangering your child what gives anyone else the right to pa__s judgement? I don't get it.

let me just start by saying each to there own. But i beleave that unless a medical condition is there people should try it naturaly first. i am a mum of 2 the first a healthy 9 pound 3 q boy i had him naturaly with just a tiny little tare. And he was a big boof head. My second i had a emergancy c section due to the cord beong prolapsed (for those of you who dont know what that means it meant the cord is coming out first and can hugely endanger the life of the baby, as if the cord gets squished against any thing it cut of bubbys qxegan) and that she would not drop down!! I was fully knocked out for mine but i sware to this day and for ever i heard her cry and them say ohh she has got her girl! I sugest any one wanting a c section please recarch it heaps first and talk to those who have had them!! I found (as well as my mother in law who has had nine kids 8 normaly and one c section) that the recovery period for a natural birth is sooo much quicker than a c section, and i know there are exeptions there to! But opt the natural way first then if it doesnt work for you go the c section. ohh one plus side of the docs i had was i have such a tiny scare you can bairly see it and the doc loved taking my belly b___ton ring out lol i had managed to keep it in the whole to pregnancys haha

ohh i should say that in ways i am happy it worked that way cause she was born on my dads 60th (in the same hospital) and she now is nearly two and a very happy bubby girl. The docs even said that when they started to cut normaly the bubs heart rate goes up but they were amazed at hers it staid exactly the same a calm relaxed rate she just didnt want to come out and she would have been the easier one cause she was under nine pounds haha plus she was nearly two weeks over!!

1st off let me tell you my planned c-section has to do with my past and reasons which i will not post on here, not becuase i'm vain! Further more i went to school to be a doula (which I am currently with 6 births under my belt) so trust me I've done PLENTY research (chem400), however personal experiances to me can speak louder than text so i figured why not ask. I have a healthy relationship with my boyfriend of 11yrs and yes I want to know when we can have s_x again...sue me for enjoying my s_x life and my partner. i will say i want my child here safely and understand the issues that can arrise no matter how you give birth, lastly I will move to another forum (no skin off your shoulds i'm sure!) because some of you seem just a little to judgy for me...see both chem400's response, and susan j's...its nice to know you both jumped to conclusions about me, without knowing a thing about me...high horse i think you'd both know more about that than me