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1st off let me tell you my planned c-section has to do with my past and reasons which i will not post on here, not becuase i'm vain! Further more i went to school to be a doula (which I am currently with 6 births under my belt) so trust me I've done PLENTY research (chem400), however personal experiances to me can speak louder than text so i figured why not ask. I have a healthy relationship with my boyfriend of 11yrs and yes I want to know when we can have s_x again...sue me for enjoying my s_x life and my partner. i will say i want my child here safely and understand the issues that can arrise no matter how you give birth, lastly I will move to another forum (no skin off your shoulds i'm sure!) because some of you seem just a little to judgy for me...see both chem400's response, and susan j's...its nice to know you both jumped to conclusions about me, without knowing a thing about me...high horse i think you'd both know more about that than me

you know i wasn't going to say anything else to chem400, and susan j, i have a couple last things to get off my chest. I will in fact post my reason for wanting a c-section "so many months in adavance" (which if you did your math is actually less than 3months) is because i had a horrible experiance with being molested as a child and raped as a young adult, so you 2 will forgive me for not wanting a bunch of strangers around me while my v____a is out in the open...maybe you two can pa__s some judgement on that, i'm sure you've got it in you. so yes I am choosing to have a c-section because i don't want to have extra anxiety around the birth of my child, but i'm sure you 2 wouldn't understand that either. this is suppose to be an open forum, and it's sad that the likes of you would force someone to go elsewhere...maybe you'll stop and think next time! but i doubt it!

I disagree with the statement by a previous poster that unless it's an emergency c-section then it's elective. Elective for insurance purposes maybe but "elective" also implies that the woman chose to have the c-section even though she could have delivered v____ally. I'm only 9 weeks pregnant and my ob/gyn has already told me that my "bony structure" (I'm guessing she means my pelvic bone area) is far too narrow and she's sure I will need a c-section. So my choice is what? . . . . try to deliver v____ally and put my baby at risk of death-what kind of choice is that?!! Yes, I'm choosing the c-section but my other option is not a good one so there's really no choice at all.

To VJR: I am so sorry that you felt you HAD to share your horrible experience with us. I have a friend with similar experiences and have been with her for both of her births to give her piece of mind. I do hope you don' t judge everyone on this form the same. You go right ahead with a c-section and you will probably feel a lot better for it. I wish you well.

To susan J: Yes, I had NO bleeding. My doctor did a complete clean out of the uterus. I don't know if its different here in Canada but I had no probs with bleeding at all. My first period was 15 months later. I have many friends who had no bleeding after either and they were with different doctors.

hey perl and shauna thank you both for sharing, i really need to hear that feedback. I don't mind sharing my experiance if it could help someone else down the road (and shauna I'm sorry your firend went through what i did, its not good), I'd like to keep posting and sharing here and its nice to know you can get positive reinforcement. thanks ladies!!! I feel a lot better!

To VJR-you started the animosity, by calling people "judgemental". That was the start and it can also be the end. I am so sorry for your past abuses, as a mother I can only cry for the little girl you were and being treated so awfully. I hope you can get through your birth with as little post-traumatic stress as possible. I was taken aback by your response, a bit edgy you must admit, but never would any kind-hearted person NOT consider your "elective" c-section a medical decision. A delivering woman should be treated holistically, not just a sum of all functioning "parts". Good luck to you and your baby. My little sister was kidnapped, raped and nearly strangled to death and she attempted suicide 3 times, while she is in recovery now and has had 2 wonderful, VERY PRIVATE v____al births, I can understand somewhat why you came to your decision.

shauna your c-section sounds like it went as smoothly as possible i hope you don't still feel like a failure giving birth no matter how it happens is a miracle and a blessing and never a failure, but it sounds like you've gotten past those feelings, good for you. I'm happy to hear that you were comfortable with your birth after the fact, although I've red as much as I can and coached 3 women in c-sections 1 emergency 2 elective i am so hungry for inforamtion for a personal level... how did you feel afterwards was it day or weeks before you were up and moving, and how long if you don't mind me asking before you had s_x? did you breat feed, and if so were the pain meds a concern for you in pa__sing via b___st milk? any words of advice from anyone are greatly apperciated.

What bugs me is when people have them for no resion at all. Vjr i can totaly understand why you would want it that way and perl has a medical resion. I think what a lot of people are tring to say is when some one is able to give birth normaly with out a hitch or any thing like that why put your self through it all. The docs in my area in australia try and push for a natural birth rather than a c section. I so personaly think some docs can get a bit greed as the longer they spend working with you the more money they get so they push for it but thats a minoraty. I was shoked one day when i heard one young woman say i want a c section when i have a baby, when asked why she stated that it was because all the "stars" are doing it and look at them they look great!! Oh and hubby and i had s_x about two three weeks after we asked the doc and he said it was fine and he is one of the best in my area

To Mongosmrs- I am astonished to hear of your terrible experience with your first baby and the c-section. I am so glad you got through it though. What an experience. I had an emergency c-section myself, under similar circ_mstances, my body having stopped dilating after 12 hours of labor and the baby's heartrate was dropping. During my c-section they gave me medication through my epidural and I felt like I was going to die because it was such a high dose, so I can sympathize with your story. I had to make sure I didn't fall asleep. On top of that, the medication didn't help the pain... Although I didn't feel any incisions, the pain of them wrenching my baby out of my uterus was unbearable. To add to that my arms were tied down so I felt completely helpless. I really wish I could have had a vagiinal birth.

to vjr: I hope you have a great experience. No, I don't feel like a failure anymore. I was under alot of stress at the birth of my son. I had just left my bf after told me my friend was pregnant too if you get the drift. My son's half sister is 4 months older than my son. Jerry Springer here we come. To add to my stress my baby's heart rate fell to 56 after 10 hours of labor, he needed out. I understand that this was not my fault. My nurses had me out of the bed and into a chair (next to the bed) at 2 days. I had my son at home at 5 days and no help. Not to sound like this was easy, my son slept next to my bed or in my bed for 2 months so that I didn't have to get 'up' so much in the night. The s_x thing wasn't an issue cuz like I said I was single. I wanted to at 2 months and feel I could have around then too. I did b___st feed for 11 months and I didn't notice any problems with my son due to drugs. His apgars were 7 and 8 at birth and 8 and 9 at 5 minutes. Breast feeding was definitely the right choice for me because like I said I didnt have to get up to make or heat a bottle in the night. I hope your recovery goes as well as mine.

I know this is not to do with this forum but just have to share about an email I just got today. There is a toy called MAGNETIX that has very small and very strong magnets in it and one child has died and another is in serious condition not because of choking but because the magnets in different parts of the kids bodies are 'sticking' together and cutting off the bowels and intestines and causing toxins to fill the body. There are clear warnings on the box not for kids under 3 but anybody who swallows the magnets could die of these problems. Beware!!!

chem400 i'm sorry to hear about what your sister went through, but happy she was able to have the birth experiance she wanted. Being a doula right now on a pro-bono basis means most of my cases (all except one) have some sorta of drama surrounding the birth/pregnancy and it makes me so sad these girls aren't able to celebrate the life they have created, so to hear positive stories makes a huge difference, i know no matter what my birth experiance will be my own but as i said before I thrive on all of this information good and bad. shauna thanks again for being so honest... is your babys dad taking care of his resposibiltys as a dad? It's hard when people ask me "why on earth would you choose a c-section" and it's someone who i don't want to share my true reasons with, i always feel like they think I'm less of a woman or something... anyway thanks again everyone, i hope we can all keep talking.

to vjr: YES, his dad supports both 'moms'. He moved to Ohio 2 years ago and we live in Saskatchewan Canada so he only see the kids once or twice a year. Oh yah when are you due? Ive been meaning to ask? I really enjoy talking to you. Are you on any other forums?

shauna i too enjoy talking to you, I'm not on any other forums i'm so new to this forum thing I don't really know where to look... are you on any others? I'm due July 10th, and i'm counting down the days until i meet my daughter! happy to hear the dad is doing what he is supposed to, to often we hear about men that don't. do you have a son or daughter?

A SON. He's 8. I am on the TTC forum as well. I have been TTC for 5+ years. I am happily married now for 3 and 1/2 years. yes we were trying before we got married. Wow July is just around the corner.