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I've just returned from a very pleasant evening with friends, 2 of whom are pregnant.
For anyone who's not seen my other posts, I suffered a blighted ovum in December, had a d&c shortly after, first period (af) was on the 8th Feb but and since then, hubby and I have been trying to conceive despite all the ovulation tests saying negative.
Anyway, as much as I'm happy for my friends who are pregnant (and their numbers are growing) I cant help but feel jealous, upset, angry also!! Conversations are solely centred around all-things-baby or bump! It's so hard to sit there and listen or get involved when I feel the way I do.
I appreciate things are still early for me and for all i know, I have conceived but too early for any test to pick up, but how does one get over the envy, how does one carry on enjoying life and conversation with pregnant people or people with babies without staying home to avoid it?
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I totally understand. I have been TTC since November with LO number 2. EVERYONE is getting pregnant or just had their precious baby and I am getting SICK of it. lol I don't even like getting on facebook anymore because I am so jealous. lol. I think a good way is to just avoid facebook, or just don't ask them how they're doing for a little while. Focus on your baby making efforts. I honestly can't be friends with them right now. I even cried when my husband told me my sister in law was pregnant AGAIN (I'm getting mad writing this. lol) Just ignore it all, honey. Focus on you and your husband and try not to think about it... distract yourself somehow. It's very very very hard to do, I know. I work in a daycare as well so it's hard for me every day. You will get pregnant, just relax and know that if it's meant to be, it will be. BABY DUST!!!!
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I read your post and it was like reading my mind. LOL!
As much as i would love to avoid facebook or my friends, the sad truth is that I can't, not without drawing attention to myself. I hadn't spoken to one pregnant friend for a while and she emailed asking if all was ok (she knows about the mc), when I told her I wasn't, she told me that she understands how frustrating it must be for me, especially as "she fell pregnant so easily"....yeah gee thanks!
It's more frustrating to hear of people who dabble in drugs, smoke and drink all the time and they conceive so easily, whereas Im relatively healthy, I exercise, I eat the right foods, I don't smoke, I have the odd drink and I miscarry? They weren't kidding when they said Mother Nature is a b*tch!! LOL
My hubby was away this weekend so I took the opportunity to completely consume myself in planning his surprise 30th party and it really helped, I didn't once think about babies or anything - except for Friday evening where I was in the unfortunate position of being surrounded by 2 mum's to be! But party planning did help, but as hubby is due home tomorrow, I need to find something else to occupy my mind when Im around him!
I've tried hypnotherapy mp3's for relaxation and it's helped a little...now i just have to continue hoping
Baby dust to you too!
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