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I have been with my partner for 2 years and last week he suddenly said he really really wanted us to have a baby next year!! I have never wanted children, never looked at a baby or family and thought 'one day i wish that could be me'... finally i have met someone who is my best friend, lover, everything and we had talked about all the places we would go and things we would do. I am so upset... I either loose my partner or will be in a situation where i am forced to have someone that will emotionally and financially drain me for life that i DO NOT WANT .... I would do anyting for anyone, I am a carer for people in my job... but I dont see why people have this need to have babies, it is just not in me in any way, shape or form and it never has been... and that makes me feel like a freak but that is the truth. I am 32 and would be happy never to have kids, but that the cost of him leaving me..
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Please don't feel like a freak for not wanting children. In fact, I applaud people who actually admit it. Having a child is a stressful job to some people. Things in your life change dramatically. There are people who say that their lives never changed all that much, but really...I think they are in denial. I am 26 and pregnant with my second child and let me tell you I do not go out anymore, I have to stay at home all the time, I am broke, and vacations are something I dream about. Once my child was born I gave everything I had to him and still continue to do so. I am about to do the same here with my second. I love my children with all of my heart and I would not trade them for the world...but if I had a choice, I would have waited to get married and have children. However, have you talked with your partner about all of your feelings on this subject? You said you're 32, you still have time to have children later if you decide that is a road you want to take. It just sounds like it's not something you want right now (if ever)and you and your partner need to have common ground here. Now, maybe he is feeling like his time is out or he is ready to settle down and to be fair, he has a right to feel that way. You shouldn't feel pressured to have children though. It could be that maybe you two just aren't a match as far as all of this goes. Sometimes this happens with couples. It's a very big decision too. Ask your partner if he would mind giving you an extra year to reconsider. If he doesn't want to go that route, you can either give in to his wants or go your separate ways. It sounds so cold but there are enough unwanted children in this world. Don't go and have children if it's not something you are willing to be fully committed to. I am sure you already know this though.
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