I Want A Baby But He Doesn T

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Kristanna - June 8

I am 27 and have been with my partner for four years. I have wanted a baby for the longest time and as the years have gone on my desire to have a child has increased, particularly in the last year, my sister and friends have given birth and have been in shorter relationships and I've been feeling so jealous and left out. It's hard for me to approach the subject with my partner as he already has a son from a previous relatinship. I have mentioned the fact I want children and he would push it aside telling me he wants to be sure and ready the next time he has kids and that since his last relationship he hasn't really thought about it, telling me it's obviously not as important to him as it is to me. I went through 3 years of this and then left him as I didn't think he was ever going to commit and felt we both wanted different things in life. We were apart for about a month, I started seeing someone else and he spent the entire month begging me to give him another chance, telling me he wanted to get married and have children with me. It's now 6 months later and there's still no telling when he will finally want to try and conceive with me. I stopped taking my pill after 11 years as a friend told me it may take years after coming off the pill to fall pregnant. I'm worried I'll never have children. I feel that my clock is ticking. When I was 24 I was diagnosed with a high risk hpv infection and it was recommended I have the abnormal cells burnt away, when I researched this procedure I found it could lead to infertility or increase of miscarriage so I decided against it, having children is one of my major goals in life. It also upsets me that he already has a child with another woman and sometimes it makes me feel I aren't good enough. How do I convince my partner that now is the right time?

 

mimik - June 9

My dear, if he really loves you he should be the one begging you to have a child for him, by the way has he proposed to you, does he want to spend the rest of his life with you, if yes why is he wasting so muchpopping the question. i once had a guy whom i dated for 5years 5 solid years and he always avoided the 'M' word he never was ready to commit ut i was blinded by love eventually he told me someone was carry his child and that he needed to be with her, thats how i was saved from years of uncertainity and pain, today i am happily married to a man who adores me. so you guys need to do some serious talking else Yours might just be hanging around somewhere. Good luck let me have a feedback on the outcome hugs + kisses

 

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