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it's wrong no matter how you look at it. wrong wrong wrong.

Sounds deceitful and unfair don't you think? I wouldn't even consider it, not worth the risk of the father resenting the baby. What baby deserves that?

to evelyn, lol That is too funny!

Well i have been trying without my husband knowing without any success. I did ask him if he wanted to have children and he said no, and that i should accept his wish.

This is horrible, how selfish can a person be? Likely what will happen is you will end up with a baby with no father.

have 3 kids and well off but the desire to have another is high. He isn't so sure so we just have lots of s_x. Using the withdrawl methods increases my chances. He occasionally uses condoms. Mother nature is very overpowering and I decided to tip the scales in my favour

I secretly got pregnant with my first child. We both wanted kids but my husband is such a planner. If i waited for him to come up with the right time it would have never happened. So i stopped the pill and a few months later i got pregnant. I told him the pill must not have been working. And once reality hit he was fine with it and we both love our son very much and it couldn't have been a better time.

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I was secretly not trying to not get pregnant. Get it? lol I started to feel guilty after a while and 'fessed up. He laughed at me and asked me if I thought he was stupid. He knew I wasn't on birth control and we weren't using any protection - just using withdrawal sometimes... Boy did I feel like a dummy. We're having a baby any week now and he's happy as a clam (the clam that isn't eaten i guess...) :)

yea im trying to get pregnant secretly at the moment.

Are u married or in a stable relationship at least ?

i know what u mean..as him if he when would he like to have children..at what age that is..hear what he has to say and if you know he loves you and supports u..well go ahead..but u should try living together first..

at least let him know your going off birth control...then if he decides not to use any, he knows what hes getting himself into. i very strongly disagree with tricking somebody into parenthood...it is a decision you both need to be a part of and im sure you would not be happy to know someone did that to you.

To Rose, I have told my hubby that i was going off the pill because i'm a very forgetful person and tends to take it when i remember about it , so it was pointless to take it.I told him " Just to let u know that i've stopped the pill, because i always forget it, so before u can blame me and say i've done it behind ur back " .He did not say anything ....at all, just made a funny comment about it.And we've been having un[protected s_x ever since.Is it trying behind his back do u think ? I was kind of hoping that if he was gonna disagree, he would have told me to go back on it right away, but as he didn't and as he agrees to get intimate with me anyway, i a__sume he knows what is the possible consequence.don't u think so ?

suzie, no i do not think that is going behind his back...you were honest about not being on any birth control and i am sure he knows that is how babies are made...lol...if this is something he does not want then it is up to him to provide protection (since it sounds to me that it is something you want) have you ever talked with him about children?

Suzie, While he may continue to have s_x with you without birth control, don't use that as his way of saying he's okay with having a baby. Men are men, and they don't have babies on the brain like women do. You should talk to him and tell him you want a baby, and go from there. While it's not deceitful to do what you're doing, you have one thing in mind when having s_x, and he has something completely different on his. I think you owe it to your husband to discuss children before you go making any.