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I don't really have any words of encouragement for you, sorry. I don't think its a very good idea to "change his mind" though. If he's not willing on his own to accept the responsibility or care for you, you can't make him. Attempting to "make him" do that could result in a worse situation down the road where he resents you and the baby for it. Thats a c___ppy situation. Sorry I don't have anything truely inspiring to offer. If you've gone through the majority of this pregnancy on your own, take pride in that!! Definately not something I could do! Good luck.

If he's in the military, contact his unit commander. It's in the UCMJ (Uniform Code of Military Justice) that he HAS to financially support his children. However, you'll have to have a blood test done to prove that your husband is not the father, and the father will probably get into a lot of trouble (possibly including jail time) as adultery is a huge crime in the military.

You will find someone else I'm sure, it sounds like you've had a few relationships in the past, there's no reason why you won't have more in the future. Try to stay positive and make sure you look after yourself, a good mom makes time for herself too. I found my husband with a one year old under my belt! It's pretty common, and I'm sure there is someone out there for you!!!

well, speaking as a military wife, you cnnot legally move in with the father that is in the military unless he buys/rents off of base/post. Also, you will get no medical benefits and cannot deliver at the military hospital. Also, it is not safe for you and the baby to fly after 7 months. I live on a military post in NY. And just because he's 23 and in ht emilitary doesn't mean that he has to be mature. I know A LOT of men that are way older and just as immature, one being my husband. :)

my hubby works for JAG. he's courtmartialed a lot of soldiers who have committed adultery. It's one of the crimes that has a harsher penalty than being caught with drugs, actually. But you haven't said if the father is married or not, so I don't know if that even applies to you or not. Also, DON'T contact his CO. It's one of the worst things you can do... try to work it out with him first.