Not Sure Where To Post This -pg118762985725
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My boyfriend and I have been together for along time now. I am 25 and he is 23. We have two little boys already. Well, my problem is that he cheated on me back in June of this year (2007) and it was with the girl twice. The girl has since told me about it and told me last week that she is pregnant and is pinning it on him even after saying she was with him and 2 other guys in the same day! I don't know what to do?! I am giving him another chance and forgiving him. We have a house and kids together already. Well, I was 8 wks pregnant and have since lost my baby due to what doctors are saying is all the stress...I am not sure if we should be helping this girl out because she has come to us for money and what not and keeps tells us that she is going to get us for child support and in the same breathe she tells us that she is going to give the baby up for adoption like she did with her first one. She knows what my boyfriend does for work and knows he makes awesome money (Directional Driller in the oil fields) and she has made comments that the child support would always be a nice "chunk" of money for her. She don't have a job and he don't have any sort of contact with her...I am not sure what we should do or what we shouldn't....Can anyone give us some good advise on this one please?
I have told her that we wouldn't help her with anything since she has admitted to having 2 other guys in the same day after she had s_x with my boyfriend...I told her that when and if she is truely pregnant that we will do whatever we have to after a DNA test can prove that it is his child...She told him that she was on Depo and then has since told him that she was tricking him to get money out of him. I guess I am just really confused and he is feeling guilty enough because I have lost our baby that we planned and were very excited about bringing into this world and now he is hoping and praying what she is trying to say isn't true because we do love each and already have a family. He wants to try again at having one last baby together but, I am so nervous and scared about this other girl because I am hoping it isn't his baby either. We won't have a problem with paying child support and having an active role in the babys life but, we just want it to be proven to be his before we fork out and over all this money for her and she is trying to make us feel guilty because we won't help her....PLEASE HELP WITH SOME ADVISE PLEASE I AM SO CONFUSED!!
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First off don't promise her anything and certainly don't give her any money. You need a DNA test done asap and I know you can have CVS around 13weeks and this can also determine who the father is. It sounds like he is the best out of the bunch that she has been sleeping with and with a good wage sees the money rolling in. Any idea how far on she is saying she is? Also get dates off your boyfriend and off ehr and make sure they are the same. As for feeling guilt in not helping her - would you help me if I said your boyfriend got me pregnant? You have no proof that I am pregnant and even less proof it could be your boyfriends. Same goes with this girl. She can;t get support from you unless it is proven she is pregnant and carrying his child. You have no responsibility to this woman or her child (at least for now) but I would be seeking legal advice on where your boyfriend stands should the baby be his on support and visitation and also enquire about blackmail and entrapment - she has deliberately gotten pregnant (by your boyfriend or someone else) in order to get money from him. Also make sure the DNA testing is done by someone you all trust and that you are there for the results. I wouldn't have any further contact with her until you get these answers.
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