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s_x doesn't equal love. She probably just doesn't feel well. My DH always likes to have s_x a whole lot the first month or two when he knows I'm preg. Then we'll have s_x about 1 time a month until after the baby is born.

1st trimester I neevr wanted it! I was always tired and couldn't be bothered with anything! 2nd trimester was easier for me. I could manage s_x about 1-2 times a week. The 3rd trimester is killin me! I am always tired. Even after a long sleep. I also have 2 other children, one of which, is 15 months old. I think it is totally unfair when men expect s_x all the time.

Women will never understand.... Ever since those empowering commercials that spout "S_x does not equate to love" and they all bought into it, dude. They don't understand that s_x to a guy is more then just the act - if it was just the act then mary and her 5 sisters would be enough. Women... Unless you are a high risk pregnancy, please don't use pregnancy as an excust to not have s_x. S_x is important to a man more so then women. A lot of men have the idea that s_x is a means that they can show their love. Especially to a guy that has a hard time showing emotion. To completely cut him off because you are tired tells him that he is not worth effort from you. If he isn't worth that effort, how can you expect him to help out more around the house? He will put in as much effort as you...

I am 25 weeks pregnant and my husband and I haven't had s_x for 11 weeks. I havent been h__y since I was 12 weeks along. At this point I would be happy if I don't have s_x for the rest of my pregnancy and some time after that.

17 weeks and still no s_x.

i feel so sorry for all you guys that ain't gettin any. wow. i told my dh about this. some selfish women out there. i'm weird, i guess. i've found that these killer headaches i get at 15 weeks can be gotten rid of by do'in the wild thing. yeah, there was a period that i was feeling terrible and throwing up several times a day and at night before bed, but that only meant we had to get it on as soon as dh arrived home . . . all i can say is . . . these wives are selfish!!!! ~ a preg wife who realizes dad has needs, too ~

Every one is different, and you are ignorant. Some women just don't feel good, and that is selfish for a man to make a woman do what she dosen't want to do. There's other ways to satisfy your man besides intercourse, did you know that????

call me ignorant . . . i probably don't know alot about this. all i think is that there is give and take. it's not all about being in the mood. i mean, i could be sick and tired and it be physically and mentally impossible for 3, 4 days . . . but 17 weeks??? i think for a while there is reason but then after that it's like "i can't believe this jerk is still ask'in!!" who knows - i'm probably the only woman who sometimes gives to my man when i'm not particularly feelin wild. mostly he don't ask for it - i just know how bad he needs it after a couple of days. when i touch him and get an instant reaction - it's like, duh! he asks for it and i ask for it so its not a one-way, selfish thing. i can't do too much, i have other complications so i have to rest alot, but just going outside and talking to dh while he washes the car makes him happy, as well as the once a week dinner i struggle to make. he can be a cuddly guy and sometimes it's like, go away! but i have to remain aware that i hurt him sometimes. i know i'm a b*^%ch sometimes but just cause i'm preggers doesn't mean i can't apologize. that's all i'm saying.

I have the exact opposite problem. I am due in 2 weeks and the father of my child won't even kiss me now. We have made love MAYBE four times since I got pregnant and then it was only because I had cried and made him feel bad so he gave me a pity lay that lasted until he got off and rolled away. I have developed a huge self-esteem problem due to this. He used to want me, he used to love me and now I don't know what he feels but apparently he finds me repulsive. I thought most men found pregnant women s_xy. I don't ever want to have kids again, I don't ever want to feel this way again....

Well, I think from all the postings it is pretty clear that everyone is somewhat different. The big thing to realize is that your s_x drive for the good or bad is likely to change during pregnancy. So both people need to talk about what they are feeling. My s_x drive tanked after about week 6 when morning sickness kicked in. I am at 13 weeks now and desperately waiting for it to come back. Harry, talk to your wife about her feelings on the subject. Not as pressure to do the deed, but just find out if she misses the intimacy, and see if she is open to some alternate suggestions. I have been feeling more energetic this week, and though the libido is not back, my husband and I have been getting up in the morning and showering together. No anticipation of s_x, but the kissing and caressing is fun, and I know he enjoys it. I am as eager as he is to find the day when I feel that extra bit of excitement again. In the mean time it is just nice to be intimate.

Found out I'm having a boy.... 20 weeks and no intimacy and no s_x

Hey Shay I know how you feel, only my guy told me he found pregnant women disgusting. Gee, could have told me that before! I'm due any time, but he hasn't touched me for about 2-3 months. It's not like I gained 100 lbs or anything, he just says pregnant women make him shudder. Makes me wonder how he's going to feel after seeing our baby born. Can anyone say, "Elvis"?

I was a s_x maniac during BOTH pregnancies but every woman is different, morning sickness or not we still get hormone overload and her body may just be dealing with it differently. I doubt she hates you though. talk to her in a non threatening way. ask her if she's though about making love at all? but definitely dont treat her like a piece of meat. make sure she knows you love her and think shes beautiful whether she's pregnant or not. if you make it just about s_x... thats a sure fire way to be sleepin on the couch for a while.

I didn't want to get any when I was pregnant. I think it's the hormones combined with the changing self image. It is hard to think s_xy thoughts when you realize that you are soon to be a mother. Hard to join the two. Hang in there and realize that it's not you. She just needs to have you be the loving, cuddly, supportive, affectionate hubby you can be, not the h__y, lascivious, leering hubby she's used to. Best of luck and congrats on the little one!!!

In my first trimester I was feeling terrible, you men just have to learn to sacrifice, just like we women do, stop thinking about yourselves!! Her losing interest in s_x is just the tip of the iceberg!!

I wish my bf had the s_x drive i do.. its not all pregnent women.. trust me, if i could get it on a daily basis , i wouldnt complain.....Jen .btw..i am 8 weeks..