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You apparently only read half of my post, Harry... I dont have a low s_x drive, my hubby and I have s_x frequently and with pa__sion. It just didn't happen when I was pregnant or recovering, and had nothing to do with my love (or lack thereof) for my hubby. It had to do with fear of losing my child - at first it was justifiable as we had complications with the pregnancy, but after we had been given a clean bill of health I still wasn't comfortable risking the life of my baby - which is how I saw it, even though the docs said it was fine. Then I had to recover from the birth, and it is a recovery, you know... and a big step to resume s_xual relations. We are sore, we HURT "down there" - our bodies dont look right, or feel right, and it is scary. Your needs weren't met, but you weren't swollen and tired and overwhelmed and to add to the mix, you aren't now taking care of a little one full time while dealing with the demands of a man who is willing to leave you rather than giving his wife time to heal... You write that you are a great father who takes care of your son and family, but nothing about what you write backs that up.... a man who takes care of his family doesn't leave because she isn't giving it up less than three weeks after birth... and six weeks is the earliest, not the latest time to resume relations... it takes other women longer. You say you are attentive to your wife's comfort yet you consistently call her an ex-stripper - as if that means she should be some kind of super s_x charged vixen for the rest of her life. She's different now, you changed that... she's a mom and a wife and human... all I am saying is that throwing ultimatums at her doesn't show care or love or kindness or empathy - it shows "my way or the highway, you ex-stripper who wont take care of me!" And if you think you are caring for your son by doing that, you are really mistaken. Give her time to heal, I doubt it was ever an issue of not loving you, until your behaviour made it so... Try being kind. Try telling her you are sorry for being selfish and putting your needs ahead of hers, and tell her you are willing to wait until she is comfortable and ready... Isn't your marriage worth a few more weeks...? Your s_xual needs weren't met during your wife's pregnancy and immediately after birth, so you left. Is that what you are going to tell your family? What a lousy reason to walk out on your wife and newborn son, all the while professing to care for them.
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I don't hide the fact that I'm a pig. But there is too much to the story to put it here. People who are close to the situation know the real story and all her friends tell her that she has treated me very unfairly. I'm bitter. That's my problem. We only knew each other 3 weeks before we got married. I have given her and her son all of me time, compa__sion, and money. I never left her side through any of it and I’m not giving her and grief now. It's not worth it I don't have the time to go into it.... Just because a woman gets pregnant and has a baby doesn't mean she loves the person who did it to her. I don't feel she gets a get out of jail free card for the things she has said and done to me just because she had a baby. There I said it flame me for it. Women have been having babies forever that are what there here to do speaking of nature. I know women who work up to having the baby and then jump right back to work sure it's hard but do any of you actually think that she is the only one up at night feeding and watching the baby. Or who was feeding and watching the baby when she went out to get drunk with her girl friends that she is more s_xually attracted to than me. But your right I don't have a leg to stand on because I have a p___s and can't have a baby. I guess this rant isn’t so much about my wife won’t have s_x with me and more that my wife doesn’t love me.
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I'm 14 weeks pregnant, and I find myself forgive the inconsiderate things my baby's father is doing so I CAN have s_x with him. I have heard though that some women do loose their libidos, however, I'm not one of them currently. Now granted, when I have a huge belly, and can't get any affection without giving some first, that may chance. Talk to her, and find out what's bothering her.
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personaly she needs to tell you whats in her head, s_x is a part of marrage but you do need to be considerate of her needs and her recovery right now and wait to see if things return to normal before making threats of leaving...... but i do agree that if she is refusing s_x later on when things are ok and in the clear that there is a problem intimacy is part of marrage, do remember though that s_x does not const_tute what makes love
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normally I have a higher s_x drive than my husband does. I'm usually stalking him for s_x a couple times a day! However since I got pregnant I haven't had any interest at all. It's like my body decided that the mission is accomplished and that's enough of that! I spent the first few months trying to avoid any contact that might give him the wrong idea.....but now that I'm 8 months I think the feeling is mutual that we aren't in the mood. I love my husband fiercely, and s_x is a big part of our normal relationship (and something we are looking forward to enjoying again soon), but by no means is it the gage of how much we love each other. There are so many other ways to show love when the situation just isn't right. As your wife gets farther along she is going to feel very strange about her body too (at least I did)....it's hard to feel s_xy when your shaped like a beach ball...and feeling s_xy is important to women enjoying s_x....=) Don't worry you'll have your wife back in about 27 weeks!
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it takes my hubby a little more to coax me then normal , prepregnancy. I'm 8weeks and the only reason I don't feel like having s_x is..well I don't feel s_xy.. I has pretty bad morning sickness..and just feel bloated and not s_xy.. but I must say.. when he does catch me in no sick moment..the s_x is fantastic! I'm way more sensitive because of the increased blood flow down there..due to the little one..! my suggestion if you want to get a little loving.. suprize her! book a hotel or get some roses, light some candles, get her a warm bath for two...tell her she's s_xy.. that should work.. good luck!
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hi harry no she does not hate you ok is just us and the hormone,i am driven my boyfriend crazy one day i love him another i hate him n after s_x i dont want him any more ...so dont worry is the changes give her time..
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