Deceit Not The Way It Should Be
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I very recently discovered that my girlfriend/ex-girlfriend (we are severly shaken) might be pregnant. Without detail she told me that she had tampered with her pills in some way. Listening to her I realized that she might have been trying to confess that she did it to keep me, which infuriated me. I have made an appointment for a pregnancy test at a center and am now considering all my options based on the outcome. Does anyone know of the legal rammifications in Florida? The options we possess together or individually? Please help...
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First I would like to say that I am very sorry that this happened to you. That was WAY beyond wrong for her to do that to you. I am not sure of the answer to your question, but I would like to give some thoughts on your situation. Even though this is not planned and trickery I suppose, what has come of it (your child) is not any less beautiful, so congrats! I hope that you are not considering abandoning your child in any way b/c of the mother. This, although you may not be ready, this is still a very wonderful and beautiful blessing on your life. As far as the mother, perhaps she should consider seeing a therapist or something. It sounds as though she may be having some serious dependancy issues. Try to be there for her and atleast keep a civil relationship for your family. Any stress that she goes through right now, so will your baby. I hope that you both move forward from this in a positive direction whether together or not. Good luck to you, and once again, congrats!
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Remeber too, that it does take two to tango. Before jumping to conclusions make sure that she didn't just slip up on her pills resulting in pregnancy. No matter how careful anyone is, there is still always a chance....
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There is no jumping to be had...if you read my post I said that I was told that the birth control was tampered with (i.e. not taken w/o my knowledge, messed with to be rendered ineffective).
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there is possiblilities that you can fall pregnant even if you are on the pill, and take it correctly. she takes the pill. i know couples where the male also wears condoms for the extra safty of not falling pregnant
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I understand your probably angry with her but you also seem to be hinting your not sure if you want to be a dad either. Think twice before you abandon her and the baby, you might get just what you ask for.
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Regardless of the state you live in.. laws are laws.. even if you didn't want the baby and she tricked you and she admits to that, it's still her choice whether or not to have the baby, keep the baby, or put it up for adoption. If she keeps the baby, trickery or not, you still have to pay child support.. it's just the way it works.
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I'm not trying to be rude, but I don't understand why it is always the woman's "responsibility" for TWO people not to get pregnant. I cannot wait for the male pill to come out--it is in development now. ! There is no excuse for her actions. However, I got pregnant and my boyfriend blamed me! I was taking B/C pills and he decided not to wear a condom. I didn't slip up either. So I would consider it to be selfish that you would think she tried to get pregnant (which is what my boyfriend did to me) without talking to her. IF you two can't be completely honest with each other, than it wasn't meant to be anyway. One piece of advice though: be part of the pregnancy as much as you can--I've known many guys that regret not being more proactive. It's difficult, I know when two people aren't on the best of terms (ie she lies to you or you don't want a baby). But trust me, take some time, clear you head. and then be part of the pre-birth (and of course the after-birth). Good luck.
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