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Hi thanks, I am so sorry that you have came acroos one of these females but there are so many out there out to trap a man. Females even have the intensions on one night stands and all the guy wants is s_x and she wants to become pregnant. Anyway i dont blame you for feeling the way you do you have all the rights in the world. She did'nt forget as you said she rememberd for 5 years. To answer your question do you think she could ever rebuild your trust? And would this be the only thing that will be makiing you want a divorce? If you can begin to trust her and and it is the only thing that has or is coming between you see then try to work at it. I come from a broken home and to tell you cause my parents both had chips on the shoulder i could not wait for them to split. I belive never stay with somone for the kids cause the if you do split later and say well i only stayed with her cause of you kids(my parents did that) then they feel as though they are to blame. I could say more but i wont so i hope this helps.

Nathalie -- It's not only her idiotic mistake, it's his too. He had s_x with her, it's not all her fault or all his, if he had unprotected s_x with her, he must have not been too worried about getting her pregnant. NO birth control is 100%

littlemama1022-- He trusted her. He was naive and she played on this in a very duplicitous under handed way. Have you not trusted someone only to have your trust betrayed? He stated the relationship was 5 years old I would imagine after 5 years and the fact he married her that he thought he could trust her. A lot of men put too much trust in women. If there was a male birth control pill how many women would trust men who said "don't worry I’m on the pill”? Not many I bet. Yet men are expected to take a women’s word on face value.(see my post Sep 25 '05 this thread).The start of this thread is over 12 months old, their child would be 1 year + by now. They may be still together (hopefully a least for the child’s sake). To quote from his post "I feel the she betrayed, lied and tricked me for the past 10 months" and "I was thinking about divorce". Would you stay married to someone you could not trust, or was so duplicitous on such an important matter ? If she did intentionally become pregnant, she is clearly a person who cares only for herself and she would consider the child as her possession and if they did divorce I bet you a house to a brick that she has fabricated a whole pile of bs to get a court ruling to deny him access to 'HER' child and at the same time is screwing for as much child support payment as she can get her dishonest hands on. It would very interesting to find out this couple’s current situation wouldn't it? Regards Keith

jackie123 The original made a number of references to 'birth control SHOT' and never mentioned 'missing THE PILL' once. I think it is safe to say that she was on "Depo Provera" (DMPA) which is given intravenously (I.V.) or 'SHOT' (read my post Sep 25 '05). Oops missing the pill once or twice is one thing but to forget for 10 months that you had not had your DMPA shot, I find that hard to beleave, don't you? regards keith ,dad of two

Keith- I do agree she should have told him and discussed starting a family, but you never know with some women. Maybe he isn't telling the whole story either, you really never know. All you know is what he said. I still believe he could have taken extra precautions to prevent the pregnancy, like pulling out or using condoms. Even if she was still on the birth control pills, the chance of becoming pregnant was still there as it has been proven that many women still get pregnant on the pill, shot or whatever birth control they choose. I mean I would have atleast tried to work it out with him, I can see your side too though. If a marriage is solid and two people really do become one, and they honestly love each other then they should be able to overcome it. That's just my opinion though, they could have even went to counseling for Family Counseling- atleast trying to move foward.

littlemama, it's nice to know that you agree that she did something wrong, but how can you call it an idiotic mistake for a man to trust the woman he committed his life to? If my boyfriend insisted on using condoms in addition to my birth control, based on the actions of women like this, I would be hugely insulted. You say that a good marriage should be able to overcome something like this. If I relied on a man to use condoms to keep me safe, and he ended up poking holes in the condoms to get me pregnant, I don't think I could get over that no matter how good I thought the relationship was before. And it's important to rememberthat a woman has more outs than a man. If I were tricked into getting pregnant, I could have an abortion. If I didn't want to do that, I could drop my healthy baby up to 6 weeks old at a hospital or fire station, no questions asked. What options does a man have besides staying married and supporting the baby, or divorce and still supporting the baby? This is truly a betrayal of the highest order.

littlemama1022-You wrote"the chance of becoming pregnant was still there as it has been proven that many women still" Fact The Pill is better than 99% effective (1/3 of 1% women on the pill fall pregnant) Depo Provera better than 99% effective; Condom95-97% effective;Spermicidal 90% reliable; Condom and Spermicidal used together 99% effective Diaphragm and cervical cap 85-94% reliable. -------------------------------------- 2.5cm x 2.5cm (1"x1") piece of foam rubber 100% reliable How to use :Place foam square on top of right knee hold foam square firmly on knee with left leg by placeing left leg on top of foam square.a__sertively repeat the word "NO" often to make your point. (alternatively say NO WAY, IN YOUR DREAMS, YOU ARE KIDDING, GO TAKE A VERY COLD SHOWER) It is a guarantee if you follow these instructions to the letter all the time you will never get pregnant ;-> Regards Keith dad of two

Why are people so vicious in here? "Thanks", it would be nice to hear from you and know how things are going for you. I sincerely hope you did not get an abortion. (Or rather, your wife did not get one.) Nathalie, abortion is one of the worst options there is. Carry the baby to term, give birth, give it life, and if you do not want to keep the baby, then give it up for adoption. There are so many couples out there that are not able to have a child by themselves and they have to turn to adoption. Why not give the baby a chance at a good life with a loving family, at the same time freeing yourself of the responsibilty, rather than murdering an innocent little baby that has done nothing wrong?

Right, because birthmothers are just broodmares for wealthy infertile couples. The desires of other couples for healthy young white babies to adopt should have no bearing on a woman's choice of whether or not she gets and abortion. She needs to do what's best for HER. FYI there are already thousands of kids out there who need to be adopted into loving homes, but too bad for them that they're black, disabled, or older than an infant. How about adopting some of those kids before advocating that more children be born. God, I hope she did get an abortion. But this is an old thread, so what's done is done.

this is why i love women, lol we are evil ;)

Hey thanks my bf has went through something like what you are when he and his ex wife were married. If you would like to do a live chat with him come on over to www.chillaxion.com he can help

This question was created May 20, 2005. I don't think this dude is coming back.

WHY IT IS ALWAYS THE GALS RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE BIRTH CONTROL. IF YOU DO NOT WANT KID WHY DID YOU NOT GOT A FIX YOUR SELF? SCREW WITH YOUR OWN BODY SCUMBAGS

BY THE WAY DO NOT THINK I HAVE A PAST BAD HISTORY, MY HUBBY IS A SAINT. HE IS THE MOST HANDSOME MAN I EVER SAW AND HE IS PERFECT AND ALWAYS SUPPORTIVE. WHEN I AM READING YOU GUYS STUFF I AM COMPARING THAT WHAT A LUCKY GAL I AM. THANKS A LOT GOD. THANKS A LOT GOD. THANKS A LOT GOD.

MY ANSWER IS TO ALL GUYS WHO THINK THEY ARE GREAT AND IT IS GIRLS RESPONSIBLITY TO TAKE ANY FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL AND IF SHE GOT PG IT IS HER FAULT.

ani is such a freak.