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ani is such a freak.

ani's a total nutcase. always praising her hubby on here. he must be a total a__s to have married you. ''as bad as one another''

It takes two people to make a baby. Birth control isn't 100%. If you don't want a child you too have to take those steps. It's not just a burden of the female, it's the male too.

OK, why can't she finish school and why can't you travel? Even if you do not want to take the baby along, are there gradndparents or family that would be willing to take the baby for a week? i am working on my master's now and it seems likely that we concieved this month. If you guys just schedule your schoold nights on opposite days when you can, it shouldn't be a problem. The little gys sleep so much at first anyway. it won't be easy, but if your education is important to both of you, you can find a way to juggle everything. she should not have stopped taking her shot without consulting you, but they are only 98% effective anyway If you were really worried about it, you could have used condoms too. Do you love her? Do you want children, period? If you do want kids, and the problem is this just doesn't fit your schedule, life changes. Embrace the gift that you have been given and work towards a reconciliation. Has she ever lied to you about anything else? People have behavior patterns that they follow. If this is really he only thing you think she has lied to you about, maybe give her the benefit of the doubt. Trust is a hrad thing to lose, and harder to regain. Also, if you do not love her and do not want her, it is worse for the child to be in a home envronment where the parents do not like each other than come from a divorced home. The child will learn to model her/his relationships from what it witnesses at home. There are some really good child development books out there on this topic. Good luck, but bottom line, you ARE having a baby. Work it out with you wife and remember you love her.

Life throws us curve b___s, sometimes the b___s might be messed with, but never the less, a baby is involved. It is not weak to forgive her. My husband always told me he wanted children, 1 year into our marriage when i was ready, he said he changed his mind. It nearly destroyed us, I felt very betrayed, we had discused it and made plans. I tried to live with it for a year, after realizing I could not live without a child, I talked to him, after a long long....long talk he realized he was scared to be a father. He is a father to my 11 year old, but he is already here, so he was afraid to have a child that ws not made. It did not fit into his "plans". Well let me tell you, plans are R$&$*, God does not give us a rule book full of plans. It seems your wife would be about ready to give birth soon, how are things? Hope they turned out ok.

I think you should let it go. Five years is a long time to throw it all away, because she wanted to get pregnant. To get through this i think you need to sit down with her and explain to her how you feel and what she did wasn't right. Once you get that out of the way you need to talk about your options with what to do with the baby, such as abortion adoption or placing the child ina foster home untill you guys have completed school. If worse comes to worse and the child grows up with divorced parents, its nothing to worry about as long as the child knows who his/her parents are and that they love him/her unconditionallly. I hope this helps some. : )

I am pregnant i never missed a day of my pill so some times the pill dose not work. it was are falt to not use a condom but no birthcontrole is 100%

Ummmm... Maybe she felt that you would never agree to her getting pregnant and she really wanted to but was scared that you would get mad at her. so... she did it herself. Its your choice to be there or not to be there. but really? I think your probably a selfish man just like every other man.

Derek how can you say a divorce is the wrong thing to do? his wife who he believed he trusted for so long, has blatantly tricked him and questioned his trust, hardly a very nice wife is it? extremely selfish woman morelike! if he is really unhappy with it and the way she went against all his trust, then yes he should not be made to feel guilty if he decides she is not what he thought he wanted.

honestly if you want my opinion men should be just as involved with Birth control as women. Women cant be held responsible for it all, yes we are the ones that carry the child But it is also the man that gets her pregnant. There must be a huge communication issue of some sort, over the 10 months you never remembered to ask her if she is still on it? Yes i beleive it would be hard to forget to go in and get the shot after taking it for 5 years, but then there was a wedding she had to plan and may have been preoccupied with that. I wouldnt just throw away your marriage because you think she tricked you into getting pregnant. Why would she trick you into getting pregnant anyhow? You guys never talked about it so she obviously didnt know how you felt about it. Women tend to want to talk about everything. Now if she knew you didnt want kids, then I would think differently.

thanks, i would love to here what you did in that situation... my friend that is really close to me is in a similar situation. could you help? Do you love her?

I personally feel that people that feel the way you do about this situation should have never gotten married. You obviously don't love her, that you put it all on her and are selfish enough to think you are blameless, when birth control is not 100%. Your wife the women you love and are suppose to care about and believe in tricked you??? I can see you saying this if she was found in bed with your brother or something. This is sick to me, you should have never gotten married if you feel the way you do. if you guys are in your 30's now is the time to have a child, if your going to have one... best of luck to you... and I hope the best for her, because she may need it having to be with a selfish man the rest of her and you child's life.

Come on look at the date of the question the kids going to school almost. Any problems this chap had with his wife would be resolved by now one way or the other Keith Dad of 2

3 sides to every story...HIS..HERS and the TRUTH. I've seen that typed often enough, so I thought I'd type it too. Perhaps she didn't trick you at all 'thanks' perhaps she knew this was the only way she was going to be able to have a baby with the man she has been involved with and in love with for 5 years now. You're both in your 30's. Timing is everything.The baby may not have figured into your plans of getting your degrees ( you can DO both, btw) and you can also travel, but instead of as a'couple' as a family. When your baby is old enough you can make plans for trips and leave your son or daughter with a trusted family member, who I'd hope would be happy to care for this blessing. It's all how you put the spin on this situation. Perhaps you don't love her enough to want to stay married and you want an out? If she was that deceiving and conniving , I do think you would have seen this side of her in the time you've been together, thanks. IMHO. I think that whenever a couple is blessed to have a baby... maybe the timing is 'right' w/o you even knowing it is. Think about it and best of luck to the 3 of you.

Oh. so it's been almost 3 years since the original post ( just seen the post by KEITH) So if 'thanks' stayed with is wife and child.. the boy OR girl would be almost 3 yrs old now. Too bad we don't know if this was a happily ever after story.

yeah yeah i know its old but i just have to say that if you marry someone and neither one of you ever talked about having children your stupid. seems like conversation that usually comes up when people are dating. not to say serves you right cuz im not but come on!