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McKitt, I agree with you, I watched p___n tear my parents marriage apart at the seams.(technically my mom and step dad, but he was my step dad for 11 years). Addiction... the word is so commonly attached to drugs and alcohol, but with p___n, it's like people are scared too. Like women are scared to admit that their husband could be addicted to other women's bodies and in some cases much darker s_xual things. But the truth is, it is so common and I believe it is getting even more common. Some boys, teenagers, college kids get addicted to p___n while they're growing up and then they drag it into their marriages and if the woman isn't willing to live with the addiction, it kills the marriage. My husband knows how I feel and he looks away if a girl is even in a swimsuit on TV because it makes me feel better, I check the computer history to make sure he hasn't been into anything, and when I'm home he has to ask if he can get on the computer. Some people might think that it's horrible that I keep him on such a short leash but it works for us. He knew before he married me what my parents divorce had done to me and that, quite frankly, on stuff like that I don't trust him, or anybody for that matter. But I do satisfy him in bed and I do let him take a lot of s_xy pictures of me and videos of us so he has something to look at if he wants. I am a very dominant person and he is not. He has no problem with my rules or my routine checks and questions. We are both Christians and believe that lusting after another person is cheating on your spouse and he is so wonderful about not doing anything that would bother me. people say if we put side blinders on them that they will resent us? I gave him an ultimatum, marry me and recieve a lifetime supply of sideblinders or don't marry me and look all you want. He chose to marry me and we are VERY happy. And expecting our first child I might add, lol. Porn might be ok for some couples, but for others who are wounded by it in the past, directly or indirectly... you will not convince us that it is good or even right,

Thank you, Erica. I’m sorry to hear about your story too. I'm just amazed at the people that do not want to hear the ugly truth. And then on top of that, these same people have att_tude against the ones that have lived through the BAD side of p___n because they dare to SPEAK about it. They want to stick their fingers in their ears & yell “LA LA LALALALLALALLALALALAL I’m not listening!!!!” and "I'm sorry what happened to you BUT..." BUT WHAT? Don't educated you? Don’t bring up hard core FACTS? (No pun intended.) Don't rip your blinders OFF & try to warn you of what DOES happen each & every day to REAL people & what COULD happen to YOU as well? Don't disrupt your “FUN”? Yeah … that whole FACTS on p___n thing IS kinda UGLY & I guess it does kinda take the s_xiness out of it, doesn’t it? Well, big deal … ask me if I care.

MORE FACTS: The adult film industry keeps getting bigger from year to year. Some 6,000 p___n movies a year are filmed, most of them in or near Los Angeles, grossing several billion dollars a year. Computer-users, including children, can download hardcore s_x acts, bestiality, bondage and domination, sadomasochism (including the torture and mutilation of women for s_xual gratification) and child p___nography. Many of the women used are trafficked from former communist countries and forced into p___n and prost_tution by the smugglers. Another $10 billion is made from the illicit smuggling of some 200,000 girls and young women per year to strip clubs and brothels (legal in some countries). http://www.physorg.com/news9088.html ************************************* Harmless? Hmmmm … I wonder WHY this business GROWS every year? NEWSFLASH! It’s called supply & demand. If there wasn’t such a DEMAND for p___n & BILLIONS to be made … You’re right. Makes no difference. It’s just fun. Go ahead. Keep your blinders on. Stick your fingers in your ears. It’s just someone’s child(ren), sister(s) & loved ones we’re talking about, RIGHT? The ones that aren’t “forced” are JUST, well … disposable. Aren’t they? Runaways. Strippers. Drug addicts. Prost_tutes. Who cares! Not your problem? Not your fault? Well, SOMEBODY is paying for this c___p! Collectively, those that support this industry ADD UP! You "supporters", like it or not, ARE the reason someone's loved one is making this c___p. You supporters don’t want to admit to the FACT that some REAL people are being FORCED into a sick & twisted world they NEVER wanted to be a part of. I don’t CARE if you don’t want to think of it that way. Those are the facts. Now run along & go have your “fun” at another’s expense. Then try to explain to me how you can look at yourself in the mirror afterwards.

well id like to add to this that my boyfriend and I of 4 years with a 2 week old son are in the middle of breaking up right now, since i got pregnant he stoped coming to me and turned to p___n, well i thought things might get better and back to normal after i had the baby, but he would rather turn to p___n and satisfy himself. I also have become cold towards him for that reason. I talked to him about the way i felt about it and it was to late, it meant nothing to him. I just dont think he gets how i feel about this. Why didnt he just tell me what he needed instead of making me feel like i wasnt good enough. im sorry but i dont think if your in a relationship you should watch it, why not just come to me for what ever you need? It just made me feel like nothing. But now im at a loss and hurt from this i dont know what to do.

Listen, I'm sorry if you are offended by the fact that I dont mind p___n, but that still doesnt change my ideas on it. I am truly sorry that some women have gone thru what you have gone thru. I've never said that I/he watches p___n every night. We watch it occa__sionally. We dont have a computer at home so he cant download the stuff, maybe I have it easy on that part. I understand you want to educate people on the hard facts, but do not jump down my throat because I think it is ok for a man or a women to watch p___n sometimes.

I posted on this thread a while back, and I think that the only issue that people are having with you McKitt, is that you are (or seeming to) put those who do watch p___n or think it's okay once in a while down. I know that there are tons of familys and lives that have been ruined, not to mention credit scores as well by s_x/p___n additctions. So I certainly can see where you are coming from and I feel badly for those, including yourself who have had life changing events because of the addiction to s_x. Anyways, it seems that the easiest thing to do on this thread is for everyone to agree to disagree...

Yea … great … I’m “sad” too. Thank you so much for your “sympathy”. No, snickers. I don't think I'm ultra intelligent because of that. That was just some simple Google search action. It’s not hard to find the truth if you bother to look. I just think it's beyond ignorant to ignore these facts all so someone can keep their “fun”. (That is SICK.) I have friends that watch it too, I don't hate them but I don’t approve either. And they know NOT to bring the subject up with me unless they want to get an ear full. In case you haven’t noticed, I'm not the least bit politically correct. It's not the PC thing to do to step on people's toes either. And … GASP! Ohhhhhhhhh MAN, I don't care. If c___p gets covered up with a sheet it still stinks. Might as well air it out and/or clean it up, ya know?

I felt the same way about p___n. When I first met my X (before we got married) I wasn't turned on by it but would watch it with him thinking -- OK I will be open-minded to try to keep things excited. But the fact of the matter is after 2 kids and 7 years of marriage if got worse and more jaded. I know that p___n desensitizes people. They start off watching normal p___n and then with the explosion of the internet they can watch anybody having s_x with anything. I truly believe that it led to my Ex husbands affair. Looking back I know that p___n and the internet sites with God knows what cause men to have unreal expectations and there are plenty of women out there that will reenact much of the degrading behavior that is seen in p___n. I am by no means a prude (FAR FROM IT) but it has led to world that we see every night. Children molested, women raped and held captive and all kinds of other demeaning acts. And yes before I realized how out of control it was I watched it with him!!!

not at all

I think p___n is bad., My ex-husband started watching it and then started pressuring me to do some of the thinks he would see on those movies. At first I did but then it got worse. He wanted to have 3-somes and do s_xual things that I refused to do. Then it turned into, if I wouldn't do it, he would find someone who would. Well, he did.

Ok have been reading this thread and some of you are saying. "hey yes the p___n industry is bad, but I can't stop that I am only one person and i only watch sometimes" What if men like Schindler had said hey I am only one person what can I do. Knowledge is power for god's sakes get a brain if everyone stopped watching this stuff it would not sell and there would be no reason for s_x slavery for the p___n industry. I fell a large majority of p___n is degrading and belittling to women and we need to take back the power and say hey no more. Men watch these movies and develop unrealistic and unattanable expectations from women and when we as their girlfriends and wives can't deliver they do progress from p___n movies, to online p___n to chatting online and eventually meeting other women and even as Beloved pointed out then expecting us to participate ion threesomes and moresomes. You may think het we just watch a little bit of p___n now and again BUT THAT IS HOW IT STSRTS. You are not just damaging your future relationship you are also damaging the lives of many innocent women who get dragged unwillingly into this industry. Think about it.

go to www.familywatchdog.us If you type in your address it and push the "show map" b___ton, it will bring up a map of the s_x offenders in your area, how close they are to you, their pictures and what they did. There are people in there that I GRADUATED with! It's scary. You think these people just thought one day "hey I'm gonna go rape someone" or "I'm gonna molest a child" or "I'm gonna look at child p___nography" NO most likely they started out with the playboy magazine and slowly but surely moved on to hard core degrading p___nos. But soon that wasn't enough for them, it got to the point where other people and other people's little kids were their prey, not the women on videos. Because at first it was good enough to look, but was it good enough for your husband to just look at you? No, after looking he wanted to touch and one thing leads to another. just like it does with p___n. It creates a fantasy world for them, one that they want to make real. And these men(it was all men where I am at, there may be women on yours) on this website...they made it real and it cost the people they preyed on so much.

Not trying to get womans votes here and I'm not gay at all... Just want to say that p___n is for little boys that have nothing else better to do. I have a wife, she pleases me.. what do I need that for? I am a man sitting here saying to some of you ladies that you don't have to force yourself to watch it or agree with it just to get bonus points from your man. I know too many the guys I work with watch it and say (sometimes) that they think of those woman all the time when they get off with their wife, or else they cant. Like they have to look at it earlier to enjoy s_x at home. I've been married for years, and if it ever came to that.. I would leave my wife. I would rather a real relationship, then fantasy. So, something is wrong with looking at that. And that is something that needs to be investigated. Maybe you need it to "spice" up things.. but there are other methods. It will only get worse!! Don't fool yourself!!

got a question.... I understand that there is different kinds of p___n an all.. but do you think its bad if you are pregnant and your hubby is away masterbating at work and you later find out on the computer that he's looking at "woman masturbating to pregnant woman" etc.?? I told him that I should be the only naked pregnant woman he sees. So what its on the computer... but, thats just not right!? Also.. once again I understand some of you think that your hubby only watches this to get off but not actually looking at those girls... well, what if you lived in China and have a hard time dealing with asian girls because your American and don't have that body and your hubby keeps telling you that he doesn't like the way they look at all.. then one day you find all this asain p___n on the computer... how would you feel?? I am going thru all this right now and dont know what to do. He always told me that he NEVER looks at p___n, etc.. and I just found all this on the computer. My heart sank!!! He thought he deleted it, but he didnt. I am going to have a baby in a month now.. and I feel like I cant to a creap... I also, found that all the subjects were "young girls" "16 year old doing her 17 year old brother".. and some c___p with a girl and a horse... I was stunned!! Oh, not to mention... "asian girl masterbating to pregnant woman"... its like.. Holy c___p!! Not the man I thought.. Oh, should I add.. that how bad it makes me feel that I am getting old (well, much older than 16).. and ALL the girls were real young. He wasn't just getting off.. he was actually "looking" at them.. why else would he type that in for the search.. the whole asian thing. Now that we are living in asia... I am always feeling insecure when their is a bunch of asain school years in the uniforms in front of us. I get real heated. I don't know what to do

KathyB - (Or anyone else who worries that their husband has a s_xual addiction) Email me please. I am not an expert. I only have personal experience with a husband that struggles with a s_xual addiction. And I will try everything in my power to help you. Kathy, girl, I'm so sorry. IsYourHusbandNext@yahoo.com

http://www.kxan.com/global/story.asp?s=4482657 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Technology has opened a new world of options allowing you to find anything you want including p___nography. Experts say p___n can turn into a serious addiction and ruin relationships. KXAN brings you one man's story about how he became addicted to Internet p___nography and how it tore his life apart. For most, viewing Internet p___n might consist of just swapping e-mails of risque pictures among co-workers. But it's not a subject that's openly talked about among friends especially not with one's spouse. You are about to meet "Steve" -- a former addict who wanted to share his story in hopes that it might help someone else. The Internet -- for many, it opens the world of online p___nography. Twenty-five percent of search engine requests come from people looking for p___n. It adds up to more than 1.5 billion downloads a year. For most, it's just looking every now and then. For others, that's not enough. It becomes a daily addiction -- an addiction that can wreck families and tear apart marriages. "Here I lived in surburbia. Had this management job at this hi-tech company. Had this beautiful wife, but on the inside, it was like if anybody ever really knew," "Steve" said. "Steve" asked us to not show his face or use his real name, but wanted to share his story. A story of living a double life with a dark secret. "I had perpetual fantasy in p___nography," Steve said. A fantasy that started as a teenager with adult magazines, but then came the Internet. "The Internet really helped accelerate things," Steve said. He says his fantasies became an addictive, daily habit. "I was fueling myself with fantasy. More and more p___n on the Internet. It was like, 'Ok. I have this block of time,' and I would spend hours, and then later in the day, I would do it again and maybe at night at home, I would do it again," Steve said. But those fantasies began leading him down a winding road -- a road to real life problems. "It led me into an affair. I contracted herpes. My life was in shambles. I had quit this job. Going through this divorce. I was getting more and more isolated. I was quite frankly suicidal at that point. I came very very close, close as I could have gotten," Steve said. He's not alone. "I have had clients that get on the Internet using p___nography for six, up to 8 hours a day" clinical counselor Seth Houdeshell said. Houdeshell sees the problem more and more among his clients. "Addiction to Internet p___n is going to have harmful effects on a relationship because of the time involved and the amount of energy and attention that's given to that use of the computer," Houdeshell said. So how do you know if someone you love is addicted to Internet p___n? Houdeshell says look for red flags. "A decrease interest in intimacy. Decrease communication as a couple. Secrecy like a change in pa__sword. Decrease interest in other activities. Hobbies he or she used to enjoy more," Houdeshell said. After fighting a 17-year addiction to p___n, Steve started talking about his problem with a counselor and entered a 12-step s_x addiction program. "What do I think of p___n today? I think it's stupid. I think it's very stupid," Steve said. It took eight years of therapy and still Steve says he's wary of the power of p___n. "Obviously, we are never cured," Steve said. He's says he's now living a healthier, happier and more balanced life. "My recovery is between me and the guy upstairs so to speak. What is life like today? It's a far cry from those days," Steve said.