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Maybe you should give up on the relationship but FIGHT for YOUR child. Please don't let her take your chld away from you. As the father you have rights. My brother went through pretty much the same thing, he didn't fight for his child and the other day he ran into his 12 year old daughter and had to hear her call another man daddy. It broke his heart in so many ways. You sound like a good person so please FIGHT for your child.

P.S. HIRE A LAWYER!!!!!!!! Don't go by what she says her lawyer says, get your own.

Yeah, she isn't worth it...you need to do what you cans o you can take part in your childs life. Maybe after the baby comes she will seem closer to you and feel happy that you gave her this child, maybe not. But back off a little with the relationship thing. I do commend you for being such a great friend to her and taking part in your childs life. If she don't come around do what you can to get your baby.

First of all, Thanks for replying. It really helps. I hated thinking that I would have to fight for my baby but it is something I am considering now. The comment that Melissa 30 made about her brothers' daughter really scared me. My friends say I'm being to nice and maybe I am but I still have hope. The person she was and the person she is now doesn't make any sense. I'm afraid to make any major decisions as far as attorneys in fear that it my be hormones and may want to work out. I understand that I'm in the middle of the street and if I don't move soon, I'm going to get run over. Just don't know which direction to go. Thanks again for your comments. God Bless You.

I am sorry I didn't mean to scare you, I just don't want anyone else to have to go trough what my family went through 12 years ago. My neice doesn't even know my brother is her father. Good luck.

Melissa30. No need to apologize. It made me think and maybe toughend me up a little. Most of the time people tell me what I want to hear and that probably is more damaging in the long run. I appreciate your comment. Thank you.

Just stay strong...if she don't come around after the baby is born then start to think about attorneys and fighting for the rights. Maybe it is hormones...I love my husband more then anything in the world and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for him. I know that love grows stronger by the day...but I know when I have the baby it will be stronger and I know I will owe him everything because he gave me the beautiful baby...sometimes babies can make miracles happen. Maybe she will realize what is most important. Just be there as a friend for her now, give her time on the relationship and I know I'm repeating myself just in a longer version, but I'm sure if she sees how wonderful of a father you will be and how wonderful of a husband you will be she will come around. If she don't, by all means do what you can to get the baby...its only 2 more months and I'm sure you can hold off now until then...I just hope she comes around, and if not that you get the rights you deserve.

*lostandhurt* hey man you and are in very similar situations. My ex is also 7 months pregnant and i don't now anything about what's going on. The only communication I've had with her is through a lawyer...first i agree with what these women are saying hire a lawyer...and file for paternity as soon as possible. She can't take your rights away unless you are deemed to be an unfit parent...But that is loosley define i know of people who are in prison and still have the rights to their children. Just keep your head up i still maintain the hope that i will get back together with my ex. Also go into the single and pregnant websites and read through my two threads "i'm sorry" and "let it go" it may help a little. Give me an update later. Eric

Lost and hurt- sounds like she is going through more than hormonal? I am pregnant and I know when I have had a hormonal meltdown- at least afterwords and it nothing SOO extreme ever.... Usually just crying a bit more, or sad, or even super happy.... That is my case anyways..... Did something else happen that is making her re-act this way?

Nothing major happend. I did notice a change in her before I moved out. Or rather kicked out. She distanced herself from me. The night before I left, I went out without telling her because I couldn't take it anymore. Her att_tude towards me was so drastic. I needed some space to think. I called her and told her what I was doing but that same evening she told me not to come home and to pick up my stuff the next day. Ever since that day, I feel she hates me and there are no signs of the feelings she had for me. I don't think that would be enough for all this but I am new to this. After all she has done I still LOVE her. I haven't seen her in about 2 months but my feelings are the same. I don't feel the need to move on with someone else. I pray and hope that it will work out but I know what I have to do if it doesn't. This is my first child and the experience is ruined by all this drama. I know I'm being selfish but I'm being honest. Will keep you all updated. All of you have been such a big help. Some of you know more than my closest friends. God bless you all.

Anytime! I'm glad there is good to had of it. There is not a reason behind why everything happens but it is up to us to derive good from the bad! Good luck.

Yeah just keep your head up...she isn't being fair and I can see how you and E-Rock both feel. For once two men are willing to stand up and be fathers to their babies and its the women standing in the way. Usually its the women who wish the fathers would grow up and take charge...it really isn't fair. But just remember you have to put the baby first. Don't worry to much about how you feel or how she feels, its the baby you need to worry about. I know you know that but it helps knowing you will be strong for your baby.

ooopppsss...wrong post!

But I do have this to say; no good deed is EVER overlooked. Even though it may seem that way at times. It is heartwarming to hear your dedication. Even if things are sour with her, you still have a beautiful baby on the way. Keep up your spirit! Sounds like this wil take a lot of strength, but don't just let her push you ou of your childs life. Do what it takes. You have just as many rights as she does!!! And when your child gets older. they will never forget the love an dedication you gave them! Good luck.

Lostandhurt- how long have you been together? Is this her first child? Maybe you should keep a journal for your records- or poss. a journal for how you feel about her and the baby? Is there a way for you to find out maybe through mail if there is something going on with her that you are not aware of - other than being pregnant?

Our relationship was one of those that moved on very quickly. Everything happend fast. At this point, I don't think she would tell me IF anything else is going on with her. UPDATE: Yesterday I got a phone call and she asked me to sign papers stating I was the father. I told her that to my knowledge I needed to have a test in order for it to stand in court and figure out child support/visitations. She totally turned it around saying that I was denying that it was my baby. After that I couldn't get a word it. It was screaming match only she was the only one doing the screaming. I try to keep it civil but this seems to make her angry. She twists things I've said to make me look bad. I am trying sooo hard to keep the peace and have a good relationship for the baby but she is making it hard and has even said that I think everything is going to be ok in the end and its not. Can this be the pregancy talking? I'm more hurt than mad and I continue to make excuses for her.