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Our relationship was one of those that moved on very quickly. Everything happend fast. At this point, I don't think she would tell me IF anything else is going on with her. UPDATE: Yesterday I got a phone call and she asked me to sign papers stating I was the father. I told her that to my knowledge I needed to have a test in order for it to stand in court and figure out child support/visitations. She totally turned it around saying that I was denying that it was my baby. After that I couldn't get a word it. It was screaming match only she was the only one doing the screaming. I try to keep it civil but this seems to make her angry. She twists things I've said to make me look bad. I am trying sooo hard to keep the peace and have a good relationship for the baby but she is making it hard and has even said that I think everything is going to be ok in the end and its not. Can this be the pregancy talking? I'm more hurt than mad and I continue to make excuses for her.

Its a rude way of going about doing things, but try and record all conversations with her so that she can't use anything against you.

I'm wondering what about people who you both knew or were friends with together? Do they say anything about what might be going on with her? What about her parents? I think is more than hormonal personally- seems like wayyy to many really strong choices she has made or somewhat permanent decisions ....

All of our mutual friends are confused by her behavior. They knew how much she loved me in the begining and how happy she was. Her dad stays out of it and her mom says she stays out of it but I have my doubts. I try to talk to them but they want to stay out of it. Once while I was living at her house, she had her new born cousins over and wanted me to hold one. I made a remark about how I was affraid to hold new borns. She took that as I had a phobia of babies and now throughs that in my face saying how is she going to depend on me when our baby comes. It's like she makes a big deal out of the smallest things. I held the baby by the way and told her I knew if would be different when my baby came. I have been around babies but she feels I am totally clueless. She feels my job is also a problem. I work 4 nights out of the week and make good money but she says I won't be around enough. Things like that are what she says is the problem. I have not spoken, dated or even felt the desire to have a relationship with someone else. I LOVE HER. Nit-picking on the smallest things makes me believe that it is hormones. It's the onle thing that explains it for me. Maybe it's just wishful thinking. I don't want to give up on her. Not yet anyway.

I too know what the hormones can do to your personality. But I have to say they aren't soo powerful to make me leave my husband. No matter how terrible I feel about stuff and bitter things get, hormones sure won't cause something that drastic. I think you maybe have some deeper issues going on and you might be giving her excuses. Trust me the hormones aren't THAT bad.

Well maybe she never really loved me and she figured it out too late. Like I mentioned before, nothing major happend in our relationship that two people who truly love each, couldn't work through.

Hey man i'm with you all the way don't give up on her as a person and as the mother of ya'lls child but at some point you have to be ok if she doesn't want to be with you. The baby is your first priority. Really it's not about what you or babies mom want in each other it's how you can work together for the sake of the baby not yourselves. Keep us updated

Yeah- don't give up on her.... Maybe have her long for you though? Maybe give that space ( still being loyal ) and let time go by and see how she is at that point.... Yeah those examples are little things and could be hormonal.... I just think you all NOT being together is too huge to be hormonal but I suppose it actually could be...... Lorie Ann

First off, the pain I had when I first posted and the pain now is totally different. I owe it all to this site and the people who care enough to post their advice. Thank you so much. Not to say that I'm am not hurting. I just have a better handle on things. I do have an update, She recently got in touch with me and wants to see if we could work something out with out getting lawyers involved. I told her I would be willing to talk about it. Atleast she is showing signs of being civil. I have kept my distance. Haven't seen her in over 2 months. I miss her but I try not to think about it so much that it takes away the energy I need to get ready for my baby girl. Still can't believe it. I"M GOING TO BE A DAD!!!!!! Can't wait. Anyway thanks E-ROCK and Our Greatest Gift. I am doing much better. I will keep you posted.

"Work something out without getting lawyers"? YEAH- sounds like she wants to talk...... :) Definitely keep us posted and I am happy for you- atleast you will be able to see the belly bump- possibly feel the kicking or movements and get a good idea of where your love is coming from or where she is going with this..... Restaurant might be a good meeting place? One definite idea i will pa__s is if SHE gets a lawyer YOU get a lawyer- believe me I learned hard way with my X- husband...... Please take care..... Lorie Ann

Un-Be-lieve-able!!!!!!!!!!. Well I hadn't talked to her at all. The only way she seemed to be able to talk to me was over text messaging. So in the last 3 weeks I'd been texting asking her how she was. Mainly because she is due in a couple of weeks and the thought of her having the baby and not telling me, ran through my mind. Anyway, there were never any responses to my text. So I couldn't take it anymore and decided to call. She answered. I asked how she was and she gave short, cold answers. I asked her to tell me where and when she would be delivering. She said she didn't want me there and that she would call me when the baby was home. I WAS CRUSHED!! I had to stay calm and simply asked if she could at least tell me when she went in the delivery room. I got a no on that. I can't believe this.

i am so sorry, i can't imagine what you are going through. i was terrified my bf would miss my delivery cause he'd be drunk somewhere (he finally went to rehab and all is well) but i mean it gave me nightmares. i will pray for you, that almost made me cry. i really hope things get better for you, and delivery is a special time, but your babys life is the truely important part and i hope you know you have every right to be part of it so long as you are a good parent. i hope you fight for this. good luck and god bless.

Thank you. She has taken so much from this experience. I am trying to stay stong but easier said than done. Thanks for the support.

UPDATE!! I am the PROUD father of a beautiful baby girl. Things are still the same between me and the mother. My baby was born on May the 6th but she didn't tell me until the 16th. I know. Anyway she let me see her and I just fell to my knees when I saw my beautiful baby girl. My tears of joy were non-stop. It was the most incredible feeling. I'm a daddy. And to top it off she looks like me. Anyway, I'm rambling. I am so happy. Just wanted to let everyone know.

Hun i think that you should forget her and fight for your baby.. get a lawyer like melissa30 said and take matters into ur own hands..

A lawyer is in the works. Thanks for your support.