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personally I think they are rude to ask, I would wait till I was offered, baby things have emotional attatchment too, your being totally reasonable, just say what you said to us, about the condition etc, as for holding your son too much, that just sounds like typical mother in law stuff, we were laughing at our b___stfeeding group, the midwife said she was thinking of writting a book on all the comments made to mothers by their mother in laws!!! milk not being good enough, not let them cry, make them cry on own, just stick to what you believe.

I understand, and i would do the same too. i woudnt part from my stuff if i new i needed them again, as picky as iam, iwould get too mad if some of the clothing would come back a little stained or too worn out, and it would make an even bigger fight! so not lending them would be better, BUT i would shop around used stores and buy them a couple of things, and i would look through your stuff and see if you can give some away, those that you didnt like very much.

Thanks everyone. It's not like they don't have money. My brother in law is always calling our house and telling my husband that he needs to get a real full time job. (my husband works two part time firefighting jobs and my brother in law is a full time paramedic). I can't even believe my sister in law would want my cloths. Definatly not the same taste. Oh well, they can get over it. I'm not giving them to her. I'm not giving out my baby cloths either. We see his doctor tomarrow to see what maybe wrong with him not being able to hold his head. I kind of think that maybe it has something to do with his sight. He seems to do it when he trying to focus on something.

Keep us updated about the doctor's appointment - I hope nothing's wrong!

If this is their first child they will probably get some of their own stuff from a shower. I see no need to loan out your stuff. If you plan on having more children I would simply tell them you need your baby things, besides your baby is only 6 months I'm sure you are still using your stuff. I also wouldn't let them borrow your maternity clothes if you aren't comfortable. I spent alot of money on mine and I wouldn't lend them out unless you know for sure you will get them all back and that she will take good care of them. It was their decision to have children if they aren't prepared they shouldn't have gotten pregnant. You can't hold a baby too much.

My Mother In law is always watching me like i dont know what im doing..I am only 18 and this is my first baby..but i have been around babies my whole life and i live with my mom who is an expert of 5 children and the eldest of 7 ..she only has 3 kids and when i see her handle the baby she acts like im incompetent to her I KNOW WHAT IM DOING...now that i have technical in law ties...I HATE IT...your inlaw mother is just trying to control something that she cant...its your baby and you can NEVER SPOIL HIM BY GIVING HIM ALOT OF ATTENTION AND LOVE. And about your belonings...If you dont feel that they should not have to buy their own things like you did then that is how you feel do not let people make you feel bad because you dont want to repurchase everything when your ready to have another child! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. I DO it everyday with my MIL AND MY family on my moms side! Go Hold your baby!! HE NEEDS YOU!! :):):)

THATS NOT NICE KATHRYN. NOT NICE AT ALL TO NOT LEND THINGS TO FAMILY. JOIN IN THE CHRISTMAS SPIRIT. YOU GET GOOD KARMA BY GIVING OUT GOOD KARMA. I DONT LIKE YOUR FUTURE OUTLOOK BY THIS SELFISHNESS. I AM A CLAIRVOYANT AND NO GOOD COMES FROM SELFISH LADIES.

To Hello - learn where your caps lock b___ton is, and then try and find yourself a good doctor. Clairvoyant? Really...do you even know what the word means?

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. I think if you are planning on having anothe child, then it is inappropriate for them to ask you for your stuff. But, they asked and you are ent_tled to your feelings and your response. If you really trust them to take good care of your things and give it back to you when you need it, you may consider loaning out some of your things to them. If you don't think you'll get your stuff back in good condition or at all, then don't do it. My friend most likely won't have another child (she has MS) and I offered to buy a few of her things from her, but she cannot part with the stuff. I totally respected that and am not going to make a big deal out of it. Maybe you can host a shower for your SIL when the time comes. You know, to keep thing nice with her and to help them get some needed stuff for their baby. Just a thought.

Well Nathan had his 6 month infant well visit today. His doctor said that he is developing fine and that his neck is caused by it being tighter on one side. He showed us some exercises to do to loosen it. To hello-get into the holiday spirit and stop judging people. Thanks Jamie.