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I respectfully disagree on several of your points:) I am not naive, but my perception of what's naughty and spankworthy probably does not match yours. I do not think that anything is spankworthy....Parents are so often on a short fuse w/ their kids, its really the fault of the parents. Children are not mini adults and they will test behavior until they find out what is appropriate. That can be accomplished without punishing them via a method that you would forbid them to use on other people. Not spanking is a belief system and one I intend to practice in my life. There are families that never hit their children and I know that is hard for people who spank to admit. It will not mean my child has the upper hand. If a parent can't discipline with success prior to using corporal punishment, there absolutely is something they have missed or are not looking into further. I am not on a soapbox over this issue and realize that every parent has a right to parent in a way that they see fit, unless the worst is happening that would sadden us all... I am not saying Aja will never be naughty, but knowing myself and my husband and the way we interact, plus the useless degrees in psych that we both picked up a while ago, we have a pretty positive outlook on raising our son. If I raise a brat who people want to spank, I only have myself to blame.

I just wanted to clarify something.. not all of us 'spank' because we are angry. I don't agree with that either, but I do agree there are times where it MAY be necessary. A regular schedule is a better strategy than even time outs (which I do think work wonderfully) and is the best way to avoid tantrums all together. Tantrums are always caused by something, where it is because they are bored, tired, hungry, stressed out, unable to communicate, or whatever.. my point is there is always a way to resolve it or prevent it without spanking. That said, I agree with 'to narcissus'.. When it comes to your childs safety and all other options have failed or do not apply, a spank MAY be necessary. Children spend the first years of their lives testing their boundries with their parents and they need to learn that some area's are just not testable. Like I said, time out do work great, but they take time and more often than not you are giving time outs for the same things over and over again.. I don't want my child trying to do something that will hurt him over and over again, especially if it only takes once for him to get seriously injured.

Well, whatever our opinions may be, it's nice to have a debate with people that is not full of insults and anger :) I'm off to watch a movie so happy Saturday night to all the moms and dads!! Aja's in bed and it's our time to hang out. Maybe I'll get that spanking I was due a long time ago??? hehe ;)

LOL @ Narcissus!!! Get your spanking tonight!!! :o) I am a firm believer of not spanking and do not spank my daughter and never will. I have a great communication with her and always have, and I have never had to spank her. She follows the rules, is respectful, and does the right thing. Not bragging or anything, that's just the way she is. :o) Anways, I am a corner fan as others have posted here. I don't want to spank if she does not listen to me, because I don't "spank" adults when they don't want to listen to me...(except the dh on special occasions...) Anwyays, I feel that if you set rules as they are growing up and you are consistent with them, you, for the most part, will not ever really need to spank. But I a__sume and know that all kids are not the same. I'm just giving my experiences on rasing my own daughter. When she was little, I would always redirect her to something else to do when she was naughty, and she would usually find something else to do. Now that she's seven, tv is a great thing to take away as well as any other electronics. Works wonders in my home. I also think that when she gets older taking the phone away is going to work....that's what my parents did and boy did it suck!! Anyways, I think that each person has their own opinions on the spanking matter and they have their reasons for it, so I am certainly not going to call someone and bad parent for spanking occasionaly. I will, and do, have issues with parents who spank their children for every little thing they do...like my SIL. Her poor child constantly gets spanked and he is now eight years old, and has severe issues because of it. And mind you, these were not little swats on the b___t, but full on belt spanking among more that actually caused my MIL to call CPS on them...Anwyways, have a good night to you all and enjoy your Saturday night!!!