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Sometimes you just have to show him who is boss by FIRMLY SAYING NO!! If he doesn't listen then a warning do you want a spankingor smack whatever you want to call it. If he still doesn't listen then follow though with Giving him a tap on the bum just enough to feel it but not leave any red marks. I bet you do this a couple of times during the day he will remember Mommy means business and he will listen. Hope this hepls you might not agree with me or somebody will likely not agree with me on this behavior but what choice do you have.

You dont hit an 8 month old. I dont think the kids is going to know what no means at that age.

Actually, I have tried a little spanking on the bum. But he still does it. I don't think its too early for discipline. But I don't think in his case he understands what spanking is. Normally when I tell him no firmly he stops whatever it is he is doing. But in this case he won't listen to me.

All I can say is keep trying to do the displine on the child. I would also add after the tap on the bum I am your Mom and you listen to me. When your childdoes listen praise him for it. It could take several days before he will not squirm or roll while changing him. He learned this behavior now you need to be patient with him to unlearn the behavior. Sometimes I had to give my child two taps in a row in order for him to listen.

Tiffany you're wrong . I don't spank my kids because it is just a form of bullying and hate doing it but spanking is necessary and not as a form of punishment . It is simply a gesture to get a child to wake up and smell the coffee so to speak and yes an 8 month old does know what a spanking is . Noone should spank a child with anger or out of anger it is simply a form of restraint and it sounds like Alisha did the right thing . Babies are smarter than you think ! Babies have three authentic cries (communication) p__sed off , hungry and in pain . of course Alisha and husband already know the oh oh you're going to dress me cry amongst happy cries , hold me cries and what ever unique crys she has learned along the way . Unfortunately it sounds like a matter of backing off and trying different things ie I don't want to get dressed yet so lay me down on a big blanket to roll around naked for awhile ..... or try different clothing material because the clothes irritate me with itchyness or are too small and or uncomfortable and you always put my diaper on too tight . Keep track of what the baby likes and dislikes but don't give in too much the baby isn't stupid . Avoid the spankings if possible (nothing wrong with them but they ain't gonna make you any happier)

I completely agree with you... babies do know what "no" means at 8 months... And a smack on a "well diapered" behind does make them think twice. But, do try some different diapering techniques, and getting dressed techniques. Some babies just prefer to be naked. You just have to be patient and firm (not overbearing). Its hard to do because there is a fine line. Try letting your baby run around in just a diaper until you are going out of the house, then dress him. As for him being stronger than you are... I seriously doubt that. I think you are just afraid that you will hurt him. Kids are really resilient. I'm not saying "force" him into clothes, but don't be gentle either. He won't break if you are firm with him.

Have you tried changing him on the floor? That way you have a little more room for him to wiggle without worrying that he'll fall off the changing table. If you don't react when he wiggles, he'll get bored after a little while, and stop to look at you. Then you can put his clothes on in a hurry. You can also make a game out of getting him dressed, like putting your hand in the sleeve and making it "talk". I used t-shirts and little pants so I wouldn't have a ton of snaps to fight with. They also make sleepers with a zipper and a snap at the top. Unless it's cold in your house, you can let your son wear just his diaper unless you're going somewhere. It makes it easier to clean up after his meals, too.

What is wrong with you people? You NEVER strike a child let alone and 8 month old!!!! Also , you hold your child down with your leg? Oh my, you are a real winner.. Get a life!! Someone needs to call social service on you. Shame on you. Most kids don't like diaper change time.. Please don't have any more children. Have a little paitence. Go to a child care cla__s. Give the kid a toy or something to distract him while you are changing him. But, For God sake don't hit him.

We are not talking about BEATING our children, simply about establishing the parental role in their lives. I am simply talking about a light tap on the bottom, but I fear that you are envisioning a rash of rage-spurred beatings with a belt, club, or other implement. I will admit, I am a believer in the "spare the rod, spoil the child" addage. I believe that you have to establish who is boss early on, so that there are not questions later when it matters. Now that my daughter is 19 months old, and she thinks that a tap on the behind, or a smack on the hand is a joke, I have taken to flicking her nose. This is more of an annoyance to her than anything, and doesn't cause her any real harm. She still knows that her mommy and daddy love her. But, a child has to have some type of structure while growing up. Otherwise, they end up as teenage runaways, gang members, mafia hitmen , you name it, they'll do it... Parents need to be more interactive in their children's lives starting from the time that they are infants. I was raised with the law of the rod... I think I turned out fine. I am a tax-paying american, upper middle cla__s, hardly in debt, with a loving husband, and a wonderful daughter. I love my parents, and I don't hold any negative feelings towards them for the way they raised me. What I got was a little bit of tough love. But it was more love than most kids get. I think you were raised in a bubble, a bit of a baby boomer, are you??? Read Dr. Spock's book? Meet the real world.

don't worry ... spare the rod spoil the child ? you don't have to hit children or anyone but you are making a false statement and social services would disagree with you unless it really is physical abuse and injury with malicious intent ... don't worry you'll have your lights punched out by your own children eventually for not

I still in no way am going to hit my baby over something like that. It just does not seem right.

I doubt very much that i will ever have my lights punched out by my children..I DON"T HIT MY KIDS THEREFORE i am teaching them that that is not what you do. You people are the ones that will be visiting your children in a Jail. Studies show that beat children grow up to be beater's..Also studies show that increased behavioral problems occur when children are spanked.. IE: hitting other children in school, ect. You only spank your children to make yourself feel better because you are angry!!! Your children deserve better.. I don't want a p__sing match with you people but facts are facts.. I was never beat as a child and i also am just fine!!! You can show them who is Boss in another way. But come on an 8 month old PLEASE..Don't hit your kids..We all have our beliefs and i'll bet this will never come to a conclusion. Good luck Ladies. I will not be responding anymore it is not worth my time or effort to try to change anyones mind. But lets talk in a couple year's i bet mine will be very secure and have great jobs and loving parents. Our chilren are our future..:-) Happy Parenting

E-mail me in those two years. bohnwin@hotmail.com

What are you talking about 2 years? I have a 2 week old and a five year old? Whatever lady. What are you in your 40's?

good we are happy to hear that and you're right ! we all hope you won't have to because none of us like doing it as much as you don't like the idea but keep in mind that infants children and adults all need to test their environment ... it is a nesessary part of growth and if there are no limitations a child will hit and maybe even kill if no limitations are set for them . Hugging a angry screaming freaking out child until it calms can be more abusive than a wake up and smell the coffee spanking . any child psychologist will tell you this . Alisha hates the battle thats why she came here . I think somewhere down the line Alisha may have to show the baby her really mad face . But when people come and make threatening statements it makes people like me and maybe even Alisha really really angry

I'll bet you're lieing !