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Lisa- I was just wondering if u r b___st feeding or not, cause u've noted that u've been crying alot ( understandable ) and that bub is upset and hard to settle at times, well ur emotins will come thru ur milk, so if ur upset then it's going to go thru ur milk and bub will be upset, any kind of stress will. Thought that might help abit if u r b___st feeding, all the best anyway.

I am in all day today too Lisa. I have the health visitor coming out between 10 and 12. I am full of cold. Where do your parents live? I'm about 8 mile from my mum and she never visits me :-(, but yet she will go all the way to stoke to see my brother. It annoys me.In a couple of days you will be on top of things and everything will be ok for you. You never know this month break might put things into better light and you will know exactly how you feel, and know exactly what you want. I hope your friend does go round to keep you company. It is best to be round ppl that care about you than be on your own. Evan if its just for a couple of hours.

thanks sheree and lesley, yes i am b___stfeeding and trying desperatly hard not to let my emtions get the better of me and forcing myself to eat (hard) i also had health visitor today, how did it go lesley? my health visitor is nice but not like the midwifes at the unit, ive got a docs appointment this afternoon as the mast_tis is back (fun fun) and my midwife who looked after me my whole pregnancy who went on holiday the day before jasmin was born is comming to visit today which will be nice, im going to go into town in a min (trying to keep busy) it was so painfull watching dh say goodbye to jasmin, finally he realised what he was doing, he dropped to the floor in tears saying what am i doing, but he booked hos ticket, spent all his money quit his job and my parents were in the car waiting to take him to the airport so he has to go, i think this will really make him realise,

Lesley, have you told your mom how you feel about all her outings/visits with her other nieces and nephews? Is there a reason she's not paying as much attention to you and your kids? Try to talk to her, I feel like it's really bothering you and that can't be good! Lisa, glad you're going out and having some visitors today, you'll see, things can only get better!

Hi again! I seem to be on here alot these last couple of days but it's the only place I feel like I can talk to adults! Health visitor came and weighed Ben. He is now 9lb 14 and a half ounces. And I was worrying he wasn't gettin enough food! She is referring him for a hearing test and I should get that appointment within the next couple of weeks. I have my midwife out again on Wednesday for the final visit. I like my heath visitor. She was Adams (my oldest son) and is still Leigh's (my daughter) so I know her. I wouldn't have anyone else come out. Ranya, i have spoke to my mum and she doesn't see what she is doing wrong. It doesn't bother me most of the time, but now and again I get myself so worked up about it. I sent her down the town for one of the kids' presents today. I think I am going over there tomorrow for a couple of hours to see my grandma. Haven't seen her since last Tuesday. I love grandmas! They the best. Lisa. what are you doing about money now you husband has quit his job? Do you get maternity pay from an employer?

Sorry I have been out of touch, life here has been less than perfect. Breastfeeding is proving to be a huge challenge and Jaime keeps us up most of the night, so we are sleep deprived big time. Also, things with dh are no good. I just realized that all this time I thought I was special to him and I was mistaken. I am not special and that hurts so much. I am not sure what he feels for me, but is not the love I though he had. I feel so heartbroken. The fights that we have have gotten nasty. He has called me names, which he has never done before. Anything I say to him he takes it the wrong way, he thinks I am criticizing him no matter what I say or how I say it. I feel that he resents me and dislikes me most of the time. My heart hurts worse than my b___sts. I feel tinny, weak, insecure and scared, with a newborn in my arms who I have to be strong for. These last 2 weeks have been so hard, so humbling. Sorry to vent out.

Oh dear... everyone seems t be falling out with their husbands. I know having a new baby will put a strain on your relationship, and getting no sleep won't help Mary but please try to work things out with him. This is the most testing time you will ever go through. Your hormones are all over, you are very emotional. Your husband will most likely be jealous of your realtionship with your son, most men feel like that. What type of name calling is he starting? Abusive relationships don;t work, wether its physical, mental or emotional. Is there noone that can help so you can get a couple of hours sleep during the day? Have you tried Jaime with a dummie (pacifier). I didn't want to give Ben one but it was either that or have no nipples left haha.

Ranya, do you think you have postnatle depression?

oh dear, sounds like we all have problems, its so conforting to realise that were not alone. today i feel more posative, Jasmin had a fantastic night sleeping from 10-5.30 had a feed then we went back to bed untill 8 in the morning, i think someone up there was looking down on us, i sure needed a rest and an easy first night on my own,my m9idwife came and was so nice, even though im not under there care anymore as ive been pa__sed to the health visitor she said if i feellonely or just want a chat that i should just come down to the maternity unit or call her and she will come see me, it almost makes me cry how much they have supported me, i cant thank them enough, mabie instead of running birthing cla__ses they should run cla__ses for partners/husbands in "how to care and understand what your wife needs after birth" anyone on here got a caring loving husband who helps out? they seem to be few and far between, sometimes i just think its this generation of men they want it all, family life/freedom/their money, i always compair my dh to my dad who was fantastic, lesley any luck talking to your mum? oh my money! my parents are paying the bills this month (no other option) they are too kind. ranya what is painfull with b___stfeeding for you, nipples or b___st pain? ive had lots of probs with both but am now on antibiotics for mast_tis and the nipples are healing, usually it doesnt really hurt now, mabie we can help? Mary, dont take to heart what names your husband calls you, im sure he doesnt mean it, he probably just wants attention, men just dont realise that that will make you hate them even more and if they were nice youd give them more, i find it easier to think of men like kids, they sure do behave like them!!! i find my dh more ha__stle than Jasmin who is a little angel, have a nice day everyone

Hi everyone! Spent a day at my grandmas. I enjoy going over there, she is nuts! I did speak to my mum about why she took the 3 nieces and not my oldest, and her reply this time was it was their birthday presents. (There birthdays are 13th and 15th nov) But it's adams a week on thursday, so thats still not the right reason. I have just give up on it now. She is on about taking him to Disney World next year, but I don't think I could manage with him being over 3000 mile away for 10 days. I would worry far too much! My partner is not much help around the house, but he does do a lot. He helps with the kids. Changes nappies, irons clothes, cooks. It's just the things he does is small and I don't notice them. All I would like from him now is for him to get up earlier and go to bed at a reasonable time. It's not a lot to ask is it? I have last midwife appointment tomorrow.

wow, mary and ranya. i know there's a light at the end of the tunnel, things will get better. that's what i tell myself when i get really frustrated. i know this sounds terrible, but whenever i get upset i get all teary eyed and then my dh does watever i want. lol i get frustrated because i feel "trapped" alot of the time too. i feel like i can't do much of anything with the baby. i'm only free to do things about the house when she's napping and forget about doing errands by myself. then when my dh finally gets home she's starting to get cranky and he gets frustrated and can't watch her for 10 mins so i can bake a fricking pie. anyway, things will get easier when she's not b___stfeeding and needing a good nap every couple hours. i seriously don't know how i'm going to be able to go back to work at this point, i don't think my dh will be able to handle her by himself and i worry about having enough milk pumped for her, since she wants to be on the b___b all the time and won't take a pacifier. i had a couple bad days where i just cried off and on all day, but those are long gone, thank goodness. i hope things get better for everyone!

Hi ladies, how's everyone today? I'm feeling better after a horrible night. My b___st with the blister was engorged and I had no way of relieving the pressure because it was too painful to let her suckle for too long. I was in so much pain, I burst out into hysterical tears. I had left my pump at my mom's so I drove to her house at 5 am to get it. Luckily she only lives about 10 minutes away by car. So I finally pumped for the first time and I'm actually very happy doing it and at least I know now that my supply isn't bad. I feel bad complaining about dh because he's usually quite nice and helpful, but he has to grumble all the time while he's helping out. I also think he believes that taking care of the baby is not that big of a deal compared to him having to go to work etc...and earn money to support us. Lisa, way to keep your chin up, if you just take one day at a time and keep as busy as possible, I'm sure the time will pa__s and you'll feel very good about yourself. Gotta love your parents for helping out, God bless them! Lesley, how old is Adam? Maybe she'll take you to Disney as well :) Shannon, husbands have no patience, my dh always complained that he didn't get to feed Zein etc...since I'm giving her the b___st, but today I gave him a bottle of expressed milk and he got bored after 1 minute of feeding her!

Hi... I'm still on the 3rd trimester board, but remember all of you from when you were on there. I know I'm in a totally different place than you are all at now (37 weeks) but was hoping maybe you could give me some information? I'll only bug you once or twice... I promise! :-) Ok- my question is about dilation and effacement. I'm 2cm dilated, 90% effaced and at 0 station. What were all of you right before you went into labor? I know everyone's pregnancy is different and there are no set rules for labor... just thought I'd give it a shot and ask some women who have already been there. What do you think? Also want to congratulate all of you on your new babies. I know it will be hard when it is my turn, but at least I know it can be done. I can see that by reading your posts. Thanks in advance for your input!

hi Ca__sie, i went to my 40 week apppointment (which was the day after my due date) and found out i was 2 cm dialated. my doctor offered to strip my membranes so i said heck yeah! then like 30 mins after my appointment my water broke. good luck with your labor!

Hi Ca__sie, I waent 15 days over and before I went into labour I was nothing really. 3cms dilated at 11pm, but I was also 3cms dilated the saturday before. But he is my 3rd baby. I had membrane sweep 4 times and it didn't work either time.

Hey Ranya.... Adam will be 5 a week on Thursday. I can't believe how fast these 5 years have gone. They are not babies for long are they :-(