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I delivered in December and had an episiotomy. TO be honest I was very uncomfortable from it, I was swollen and sitting upright irritated it a lot but they gave me pain meds and it only lasted a few days. I was most scared of that first bowel movement and even with stool softeners hurt like hell. As far as peeing after, they tell you not to wipe and gave me a squirt bottle to rinse off real well and they gave cold and hot compresses to help comfort the area. People say different things about tearing vs. the epis. I think that a lot of doctors cut before they need to because its easier for them, so I asked that he not unless it was necessary. My little guy got stuck and they had to vacuum him out so he cut. I don't think there's a scar but who's going to see it?? I had s_x 3.5 weeks post birth and it was a little uncomfortable and I bled a little but I was stil bleeding a little anyway. Don't worry about it. Oh yeah and the 6 week check up was not painful, I was completely healed by then. Good luck!

This will be my fourth birth. I tore clear down to my b___t with my second baby. I was st_tched, but you can't see a scar. You are going to feel so uch lighter, and better once the baby is out, the discomfort will be miniscual. Good luck.

I also delivered in Dec. I had a second degree tear. My baby was 8 pounds. It wasn't that bad. I was sore, but not in terrible pain or anything. I was uncomfortable sitting on a hard surface and itchy! When you begin to heal it will itch. Honestly I had more pain from the hemorriods I got from pushing my baby out than from my tear. It didn't hurt for me to pee. They will give you a peribottle to squirt warm water on yourself as you are peeing. It feels great. I used my bottle for about 3 weeks, also it helps to keep you clean with all the discharge you will have. I had my 6 wk postpartum check today and it was no more uncomfortable than it usually is. I was able to have s_x at 3 wks post partum. again it was uncomfortable but not painful. Just use lubricate and go slow. This was my first baby and honestly nothing was as bad as what I was expecting. and like Erika said it feels so good to have that weight and pressure off of you after you have the baby. Oh and I don't think you can see any scar from the episiotomy or tear.

You ladies are AWESOME! thanks

klm - wow 3.5 weeks with an episiotomy! I was so afraid to do anything down there for so long. This time I was natural, and am still scared of s_x at 4 weeks. With the epsiotomy I felt normal after the six weeks, and I asked my husband if I have a scar, and he says he has never noticed one.

I tore when i had my 1st daughter and i found it to be very painful. It was swollen and i even found that walking really made it ache and sting. I found having salyt baths to be very soothing. That was 3 1/2 years ago and occasionally during or after s_x i will start to hurt right where my st_tches were. I didnt have st_tches after i had my 2nd daughter or my son, the midwifes said i tore a tiny bit but now enough to warrant st_tching.

when i had my son i didn't tear, thank god, but here they don't like giving episiotomy's because you have a higher chance of tearing that more then if you didn't have it done at all. i mean think about it, if you tug on a peice it won't tear until a surtain point, but if you already have a tear in it, it will rip apart... i waited until the bleeding stopped until i had s_x... and even then it was a slow process of making sure everything will be ok.

I delivered in August and I had a 3rd degree tear. They told me it was better to tear b/c the tissue has not been cut straight across, and the fibres can rejoion more easily. Whatever....it hurt like hell! I was really sore for about 4 days, then it started getting better. By my 6 week appointment, it felt SO much better, and wasn't painful. We held off until 8 weeks to have s_x (I got sick), and it was a little bit painful, but gets better everytime. I do have a scar....but who's going to see it besides my husband and when I get waxed?? I'm not really concerned. Good luck to you!!!

Hi, I had a v____al birth with an episiotomy to my rectum which was quite tender for about a week...completely painfree and healed by 2-3 weeks. Second baby I had to have a c due to breech baby, the episiotomy was NOTHING compared to the c-section pain! Peeing hurt because they had put a catheter in for surgery, taking a BM was nearly impossible because my stomach muscles wouldn't let me even try to push, like they were preventing me from hurting them! The pain and exhaustion from the c-section took much longer to go away. I don't know about a natural tear, and I don't think I have a scar down below too, at least hubby hasn't mentioned one.