Sex Question Off The Subject
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Ok i know this is the Labor page, but i find out more things on this page than any other page! I am 36 weeks(which is very uncomfortable as it is), recently got bit by a brown recluse on my arm(they gave me amoxicillan, which caused a minor yeast infection) and im super tired all the time. My fiance keeps dropping hints about s_x and being intimate b/c it has been over 2 weeks. I just get SOOO angry becasue he doesnt know what it feels like to be pregnant, infected, and wore out everyday! I'll tell him im too tired AND it hurts when we have s_x b/c im so big now. He thinks that i just dont want to and keeps saying little things like "well since we are never gonna have s_x again.." and "you dont even like having s_x with me anymore..." And i tell him over and over again i love having s_x with him, its just painful right now and he needs to back off! Is he the only guy out there like this?!
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My husband was a little cra__s when I was preggo with the first. We didn't have much problem when I was pregnant, but about a week before I gave birth he heard my doc say no s_x for 6 weeks after. On the way home he said "but you can still do stuff to me, right?". I was 2 seconds from screaming at him "are you $%&^ kidding me?" Instead I said "well you've just lost any chance of that, so if you can't hold on for 6 weeks after I've been pregnant for 9 months, then we have more serious problems" You know what? After he watched the entire birth process, he was so much more understanding of what my body was going through. This time around I am on v____al and bedrest and he doesn't nage me and says as ong as you and the baby are ok, I'll wait (which by the way makes me want him more!!!!)
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Tell your husband he is lucky it has only been two weeks!! What is he going to do after you deliver? If it hurts I would imagine it is also a warning to stop what you are doing. I don't know how you have the patience because I would have told him he was sleeping on the sofa and to back off and stop being so selfish! I think I was lucky in regards to husband but he had a warning off my Consultant not to touch me! We had a bleed at 29weeks with my first baby, got married when I was 32 weeks (NO s_x STILL), delivered at 34weeks (22nd Aug) and the marriage wasn't consummated until the end of September!! I still wonder why I didn't file for and annulment.....
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Hi mellisajane, my husband has smart comments as well. And he reminds me that: "Cara, was h__y all the time with all three kids" Cara is his exwife, his kids are adults, all of them. I am 20 years younger than him, with my first (his fourth). I don't stress much about it, there will be day, we will have good s_x again. And if I am not worth waiting, he can move to living room and I'll rub my back myself. Men are sometimes very selfish, but I believe once he sees me in labor, he will become patient and stop being smart a__s.
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Hey yeah im 36 weeks with my second child and honestly my husband tries every night...he knows nothing is going to happen but he still tries...i honestly have learned to live with it lol...i mean he SOMETIMES gives me the pity party thing but the other day he told me he didnt actually want to have s_x because he didnt want to induce labor...and so even though he still tries...he is mostly aiming for me doing things for him...which isnt happening anytime soon!! but anyways...my husband has gone nuts because in my first pregnancy i couldnt keep my hands off of him...but with this one...i dont want anything at all to do with s_x or any s_xual contact!! i just think all guys are the same because they dont understand why we cant have s_x even though we are the size of a house lol.....good luck with everything...just tell him he'll eventually get something...he just has to be patient...good luck! :)
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Maybe I'll be slapped for this, thankfully my husband has been really understanding, though we also have been active right up until 39th week and my membranes were stripped and dr. said no more. But my first trimester I left him high and dry, and he really was pretty good about it.. I don't think there's a man out there who won't make SOME comment when they're getting none, but overall he was pretty understanding, and didnt even request any "favors". I know where you're coming from as far as hurting goes though, somewhere in the 8th month s_x became really painful, BUT once my cervix moved into the anterior position and started to efface it became a lot more comfortable again. Maybe you could pacify him with the thought that once that happens, he "might" get it again before the baby's born?
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Yes! I've tried explaining that I can't concentrate on the actual s_x because of all the pain. He thinks I'm just making up excuses and starts to beg. It's really quite pitiful and I feel terrible for the first few minutes before I start getting mad that he can't seem to get it through his skull! I just can't wait to tell him that when the baby's born, he's not out of the woods yet =). Lol!
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