No Heartbeat An Update To All Post 2
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TO: All of the wonderful strong women on this site.....I found you about a week ago when I 1st began spotting. You have been the most encouraging and comforting people I've known through all of this. Thanks for your support and suggestions. I feel as if we are living through each other sometimes. I just wanted all of you to know how much I appreciated your stories and kind words. UPDATE: As many of you know, I began brown spotting on Fri. (5/28). Saw Dr. and had u/s Tues. (5/31). Baby measured 5wks 6d, saw my baby's beating heart, EHR low, 91 - 95, HCG 8,962. Began bleeding heavily, like period, yesterday (6/2). Today, I should be 6wks 1day, but after u/s tonight (while vacationing out of the country) I found out that I my baby's heart had stopped beating probably yesterday, exactly 6wks. I am passing dark RED blood (with lots of clots), but I am not cramping, and I have not lost the baby inside me. I do not feel sick or anything. I see my doctor again on Wed. (6/8), and I do not know what to do. Should I get a D&C? I do not want to continue to bleed for weeks. I have such high anxiety each time I go to the restroom not knowing what I might see, but I have been told that with this early of a m/c that it is probably better to m/c naturally. What should I do? I am so sad, all I think about is this baby. This was my first preg. after trying for 2 years. I have been working with children for 13 years, since 15yrs old, and now as a 6th grade teacher, I thought finally it was my time. I would have one of my own. I love my baby so much and I always will, but I think I knew something was not right from the beginning of this pregnancy. I guess a mother knows. Now I am not sure if I can continue to carry it mentally, or if I am prepared to let it go medically. Which is BEST? or does anyone really know? What about for future pregnancies? God be with all of you! Healthy Baby Fairy Dust to us all!
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Hi, Amanda, I just read your story. I have three children, but, was pregnant four times. I had a miscarriage the first time I was pregnant at 6 weeks. I was feeling okay, but, knew something was wrong. Well, at work one day, I started to bleed. I went to the doctor and was told that if I was miscarrying there was nothing they could do about it. The next day I went to the ER and they took blood for hcg levels and I got a call from my family doctor and my obgyn later that afternoon and was told that my levels had fallen and I was miscarrying. I was devasted for the whole summer. Thinking what did I do wrong. I went through my times of feeling sad and crying, but, I decided at the end of the summer that I was ready to try again in September of 2001. When my husband and I tried for the first time, I got pregnant and now I have a three year old son, a two year old daughter and a one year old son. I say keep your faith, remember there is nothing that you did wrong to have the miscarriage, and when the time is right, you will know when you are ready to try again, and remember that when you conceive again, that all pregnancies are different. Because when I got pregnant with my son, I was very anxious, because of the previous miscarriage. But, everything turned out fine, and he is healthy and a very smart little man. If you need to talk, I am a stay at home mom and check my e-mail regularly. You can e-mail me at squeen@hotmail.com. God bless and I send baby dust your way as well!
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Hey Amanda...its me Katie...oh I don't know what to say besides I'm so so very sorry. I decided on a D&C because I couldn't carry it mentally and my doctor wants to speed up the process so I can start trying again right away (remember I'm 42 and I had no spotting at all & no heartbeat). I to want to try again and I sadly but readily agreed. It still didn't make it any easier. At the hospital...right before they took me into surgery I felt the tears and tried to hold them back. I couldn't, finally I put my hands over my face and sobbed. My doctor gently touched my arm and I let go of my baby (mentally). I hope this isn't too sad to hear but it might just help to know you are not alone.
~*~*~*Healthy Baby Fairy Dust~*~*~* back to you and your family. Love & Hugs.
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