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KM Wiliams- I lost my son in August 2007 at 24 week (my first pregnancy), we held him while he was still breathing, but unfortunatelly he was to little to make it. It has been almost 5 months since that and I am not doing any better. I thought by now I will accept it and move on with my life, I did accept that I lost him and I have medical issue which I have to take care off before another pregnancy, but I am still crying a lot, thinking about him a lot, grieving a lot. I have really hard time around toddlers especially boys and pregnant woman. I am going to have a surgery on 24th full of "what if" and feeling pretty scared. But at the and I will know in my heart that I try to do my best to try to avoid loosing another baby during next pregnancy. No matther what will happened in the future I need to know that I did all I could to prevent this from happening again. So just wanted to let you know that your feeling are normal, I trully belive that each of us is going through this pretty scared, doubtful, confused, very very sad, depressed (especially seeing all healthy pregnant woman around), but it is what it is and I belive Good has plan for each and every one of us. So we just have to believe in him, believe in ourself and hope that at the end, one day we will be all holding our babys. :-) and appreciating them so much more. I am sending you a lot of love and positive energy.

Lid27- this message is for you. You had question about influence of red meat on fibroids. Just wanted to let you know, that before my pregnancy I was almost vegetarian (didn't eat any red meat whatsoever for 31 years) and I have one really big fibroid, so I don't know maybe it is just my body, but I never took birth control pills as well, I am in good shape (really sporty person) and anyway I have those "bugers", so who knows what really caused mine. I really belive it is heritage, or maybe just my hormonal system, but thats just my personal opinion.

katarina, I know your pain and so does others here. I lost my baby girl June of 2006, and had the myo march of 07. now it 08. The years make it seem so long ago but for me it still feels like it was yesterday. Some days are harder than others and you try not to let your tears show. I tell my husband that when I get home from work I'm so physically and emotionally drained from spending the whole day keeping up appearances. I work with a lot of women and there is always someone around that is pregnant. They don't know my story but I have to endure through all the baby talks, and planning, and everything right down to the baby shower and then the announcement of the new arrival sent out to everyone! For anyone reading this post for the first time please don't read in to it. None of us here are unhappy that anyone has a baby or will be having one, we are just hurting over our own lost, we are sad because we don't have our own. Back to my original thought, Kat, you will go the rest of your life feeling that lost. As time goes by it will hurt less, you will think about it less, but you will never forget and sometimes it will come rushing back like it happened yesterday but you have to be strong. Where is Hopeful and MsMonet..Girls where are you?

JOKER-I am here. Sorry... I am like a walking Zombie now. I get 1 to 2 hrs a night of sleep now. Just cant get comfortable. It hurts to lay on both sides and I get shortness of the breath if I lay on my back. Uggghh! I will be 35wks on tuesday. I was thinking about you, Joker. I am praying for you and Katarina and I am also throwing lots of babydust your way. Its going to happen for you two. I just know it. :o) KATARINA-Surgery will be just fine. I had 2 Myo's. :o)

Hello girls, I am here as well. I have 20 days left until my scheduled c-section. I am praying that I am able to make it to Jan. 29th. I have been praying for each of you and sending baby dust your way. I can feel it...you will be pregnant before you know it! Sandra-D and Katarina good luck on the myo. It will all be worth it in the end. Take care everyone!

GIRLS- I just got a new date a few minutes ago. I will now deliver on Feb 1st at 8am. Instead of 34 wks, I am actually 35 weeks now. When I deliver, I will be 38 weeks.

Ms. Monet..that is great! Are you super excited?

Thank you everyone for your words of support. For those who are having children soon after the myo congrats and God's blessing for you and your family. I understand what you are saying Joker in terms of dealing. My brother is expecting, my husband's brother is expecting and so is my cousin. That what makes it hard for me.. I don't wish this on anyone but it is hard knowing we were all going through this but I am no longer but they are. Does that make sense? I am trying to keep my spirits up and I am so glad I found this thread. Just reading about women who have been in a similar situation as me and have overcome or seeking to overcome this is just such an inspiration to me. God Bless to all of you.

HOPEFUL-How are you? I am excited but I think moreso nervous. Although, I have my due date... I dont know if I will deliver early. If so, will my water break? Will I bleed? Contractions? I can only deliver with a C-Section. Could the babies start coming v____ally? Gosh, I am happy but scared. Last night I slept an hour. My stomach was cramping so bad and I am nervous. Uggghhh!

KM WILLIAMS-I will pray for you, girl. Keep believing in your dream. All will work out for you. I strongly believe it! :o)

Ms. Monet, I completely understand all of your worries. I am worried that I am going to go into labor naturally and then worried that the contractions will cause my uterus to give way where they removed my fibroid. Carrying twins to 38 weeks is awesome. Have they predicted the size of the babies yet? I am starting to have a lot of pressure in my pelvis. Do you have this at all? It is super uncomfortable. Well take care of yourself. We are so close, I can hardly believe it!

OMG! Girls I am so excited for you. I can't believe we went through this together! I know you girls did all the hard work but I feel such relief to know you girls are so close to delivering your babies, healthy, and at full term. I can't imagine how thrilled you all must be, like little busy bees buzzing around to get your home ready for the new babies! MsMonet, I still can't believe you are having twins, double the fun! It is such an inspiration to me to know you are carrying twins and through all your trips to the doctor and scares you had everything is just fine..Girl, if you can carry twins I know I can have one! Keep us posted..and if you girls don't mind, did you pick out names yet and how did you decorate the nursery. I have wanted to ask before but kept it in until now! WOW!! almost there. Take Care of yourselves and take it easy. I know I am in no position to say this..but at this point don't even worry about if you were to deliver early or if you start having contractions, you are far along now where everything will be fine and if you do start to have contractions then a quick trip to the hospital they can try to stop it and if you will go into labor they can still do a C-Section. Just think people go into labor all the time and then end up having to have a c-section and it is not because of a scare but sometimes the docs will do it if labor is making anything happen. You girls and your babies will be fine :-) KM Williams, I know how you feel. Everyone around you are having babies and now you are left in limbo, I had a friend have a baby 3 days after I loss my baby and I was so heartbroken to see her baby. I didn't wish anything bad and I wasn't angry she had hers, in fact I was very happy she had hers and very relief because I know what it is to loose one and I was just so amaze of the miracle of it, that this little baby was here. It is OK to feel the way you do. It is such a deep feeling that words can't express how you feel. It is like you feel every emotion at once. You just have to let yourself cry when you can and look to the future in hopes of getting your dreams come through. When you start to feel down and think it will never happen to you think about the women here who have been through the loss, the surgery, and now have or will soon have their baby. I know how you feel because I was there. You are in limbo, you can't move forward and you can't go back. We get hit twice with the bat all at once, you suffer a loss and unlike some women you can't just jump back in and try again. You have to decide on doing the surgery, then wait, then have the surgery, then wait, then try. Hang in there, anytime you feel like venting, or asking any questions, come here and we will try our best to help you. Take Care Everyone.

HOPEFUL-I really feel the babies when I sit on the toilet or in a chair. I am so uncomfortable its not funny. I cried while watching Roseanne. Dan died... I've seen this episode so many times... Ugghh! JOKER-Girl, you know that I have been through alot. If I can do it, anyone can. In the beginning I had so many warnings about the fibroid being on top of Baby B's placenta. Nothing ever became of it. The kids ended up taking control of the blood supply and the fibroid bean to degenerate. The boys name is Kenyatta Miles and the girls name is Samiya Elizabeth. They will have a Winnie The Pooh Nursery. I love Winnie!!! As a kid, I wanted him to be my best friend! Lol! Thanks for the inspiration, Joker. Get ready for your twins! :o) JOKER/KWILLIAMS-I am sorry for your losses! But God will make it up to you! I believe it! I don't know how but he will rather it be twins or extra blessings in addition to a singleton. God bless! Keep the faith!

Hi ladies tommorow I go to see the RE my gyno reffered me to any suggestions as to what I should ask how do I know she is going to be the right one? how long should my consultation be? please help I want to make sure I make the right desicion I have not be able to sleep well since I know I have to have surgery but I have to do it if I want to have a healthy pregnancy and not loss another baby

Hi Ladies. Happy New Year to all of you. Lid27, I went through this same dilemma just a couple months ago, wondering what to look for in a surgeon, what to ask etc. I did some research and found out that you should only consider a doctor who is very open to answering your questions about their surgery experience - how long they've been doing this type of surgery, and how often they do them, what kind of complications they've seen, do they mainly do laps or abdominal myos, etc. If they're reluctant about answering your questions beforehand, they probably won't be much help afterwards. Only go with a surgeon that you feel confident enough about, and get a second opinion if you don't feel comfortable. I did.

Thanks for the advice Lexie I do have a list of questions I have for her but I have added the ones you wrote im scared I dont choose the right one I do want to feel confortable with her I hope she is it and I can have my myo soon I just want to put this situation in my past and for me to finally get a good night sleep eventually the most thing that scares me is the part they have to put me completly to sleep is so scarry to me