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Hi Everyone! I'm still in disbelief that I'm a mommy. I just never thought that it would happen! My son is 1 month 6 days today. I just can't believe it. There are so many worries that come along with parenthood but I wouldn't change it for the world. I have 3 weeks left before I go back to work but I'm seriously trying my best to figure out how to get out of it! It really makes me sad that after such a long hard journey to get here I have to leave my little blessing every day for 8 hours, 5 days a week. Not to mention that my mother took off a total of 5 years when my sister and I were born and my sister took off 1 year with both of her children so I feel like not only will my son miss out on that extra time with me but I will miss out on that experience as well. One thing that I'm a little curious about is after the c-section I had a nurse in the hospital tell me that during her exam she thought she felt some fibroids. I have not seen my dr and will not see him til later this month for my final follow-up so I'm not sure if the fibroids grew back or not during my pregnancy. I still get scared though. Some days I look at my son when he's sleeping and I've actually waken him out of a sleep on at least two occa__sions thinking that he's stopped breathing. I don't think that you ever get over the loss of a pregnancy. Losing my Antoine last year so far along into the pregnancy really opened my eyes to the fact that nothing in life is guaranteed. I'm hoping that one day I'll be able to calm down a little and let my guard down enough to trust that my baby boy Dean will be ok and that I dont have to worry about losing him. What a journey it's been to get here! The women on this forum who are getting the myomectomy or who have already gotten one you have so much to look forward to! I can't wait til you guys are able to hold your little ones in your arms and share that joy with us! This time last year I had just recovered from my myomectomy and was diligently ttc'ing! It's still so hard to believe! KB

Hi ladies, I just wanted to post and let any newbies that might be casing this forum know that we are still here. I haven't posted in awhile because I am in the black hole of TTC. No its not quite that morbid. I just never "tried" that hard before. KB I am surprised that they didn't pick up any new fibroids on an ultra sound. I know I fall in the category of people who's fibroids will grow back. Having multiple and some large. So, not that I want to manifest anything like that I just feel that it is a reality. I am just hoping for one healthy child before they grace me with their presence. I will let you guys know when I get the +. Actually in light of everything that happened last time I probably won't tell hardly anyone except you guys:) Thanks SJ

Hey don´t be so discouraged, believe all of us its possible! I also had multiple fibroids, and a big one. I got pregnante six months after myectomy, had a fibroid free pregnancy and in my last ultrasound they found no fibroids. I know that I am lucky and it doesn´t happen this way always, but it can happen this way. My conseil is to do your best to stay positive and you will get what you want. Maybe it takes a more or less time but you will get it. Good luck!

Hi everyone, me& Misha are doing fine. She is 2 months already. Times fly. I have a question for those of you who had myo and pregnancy after, how long you were told to wait before next pregnancy. I had Misha on August 27th and was told to wait only 6 months before next pregnancy. It seems to me add that I was told to wait 1 year after myo. I believe c-section was the same surgery plus my body just went through pregnancy. I want another one ASAP before new fibroids kick in. So if it is only half a year that I will only wait half a year, just wanted to hear from you. Misha is going Tuesday for her 2 months vacination, I am so scared. I am reading all the posible side effects which are very rare, but very scary at the same time. I pray all will go well. Love you all and can't wait to hear from you.

Katarina1, I did not discuss another pregnancy with my dr however I have my annual exam scheduled for December and I plan on discussing that with him then. Although I do have a stepson from DH's prior relationship, he does not live with us and we don't see him that often so I do want to have another baby so that my son won't feel like he's growing up an only child. Ideally I would like to wait a couple of years to give my body a rest and to prepare myself mentally for another child. Unfortunately, I feel like with my history of fibroids if I plan to have another child then I may not have the option to wait that long unless I want to have another myomectomy before ttc'ing again. The dr left one fibroid in me so I'm afraid that either that one will get bigger over the next two years and/or I will have more to grow back. If that remaining fibroid gets larger or more grow back then I absolutely would not try to get pregnant until they were removed but I just don't want to go through anymore surgeries unless it's to bring another child into the world by c-section. I definitely will wait longer than 6 months just because I really do need to give my body a rest but I feel like I have some decisions to make in regards to how soon we'll try again since I don't want to go through another myomectomy. Oh and my dh doesn't want anymore kids so it will take some time to convince him to have just one more!!! ;-) P.S... are you back at work yet? I have a couple more weeks before I'm scheduled to return to work. I was supposed to go back this coming week but I'm so heartbroken over the thought of leaving my baby to go back to work that I requested a couple more weeks off! If you have gone back to work how is that going? Any advice on how to make the transition back to work more easy with a baby that you don't want to leave?! KB

KB yes I am back at work. I was already working for past two weeks. It is horibble feeling to leave her, but I just try not to think about it since I DO NOT HAVE A CHOICE. I am a health insurance carier in our family since my husband is self-employed, so I have no choice to stay home. I DO NOT THINK there is anything you can do to make it easier, it will be heartbraking no matter what you do. Your heart will bleed. I am from Europe and there is paid maternity leave for 1 year and they have to keep your job for 3 years. And after having the little one a regret my decesion to move to USA. I stronly believe baby needs mom at least for first year. Baby is like little bird that felt out of nest and can't survive without our help, love, touch. I believe it is shame to United States to make mom go back after 6 weeks (like I had to)I don't believe any other country does that. I just did it, tried not to feel sorry for myself, concentrate on work when I am at work and tried not to think about her, because it hearts soo much. Especialy knowing that we have only one life to leave and baby is the best think what will ever happen to us, to go back to work and not to see it doing all the "first's" (smiling, talking, walking) doesn't make sense to me.

Hi katarinak1 My doctor asked not to try not get pregnant again six months after conceiving. He said that I will have a complicated pregnancy if I do so. But 10 months after conveiving he told me that it is the best time to get pregnant. Hope this helps.

katarinak1 I have heard that you should wait at least a year between pregnancies to give your body time to recuperate. With that in mind I know lots of people that have gotten pregnant before that and everything was fine. I know when I lost the baby they said at least 6 months and I don't know if that was because I didn't carry to term and it is a longer wait if you do or what? I was also only told three months after myo. I don't know why some doctors say 3 and some 6. I think the majority say 3. I guess it has to do with your uterus healing. Anyhooo hope that helps.

Hi ladies, Thought I'd just send a quick update. I've finally pa__sed the 12-week mark and am feeling a little less anxious about the pregnancy...but still cautiously optimistic. Although I rather not tell people just yet, it's getting more difficult to hide, since I've started to show. Anyway, I continue to pray that this time, things will go well. I'll keep you posted. AJ2009

Hi everyone, I am 4 weeks pregnant! Second month of trying-four months after the myo. I am sort of just going through the motions. I probably won't tell many people this time around. I haven't even told my parents. The next hurtle I have to worry about is the Cervix Incompetence (painless dilation of the cervix at the second trimester) diagnosis the doctors gave me at the hospital. They said "you probably have cervical incompetence but, I would have those fibroids removed". Although I had excruciating pain for 4 days before I lost Olivia and had what I thought were contractions the whole day before, they still think I have Cervical Incompetence. They think this because the day I lost her I dilated from 3cm to 9 cm in a course of 5 hours with seemingly no pain. It is such a hard one for me. I don't think I have this condition as I think the 10+ fibroids caused the loss. I don't want to get unnecessary surgery (it has its own side effects one being preterm labor), but also don't want to take the risk. If I decided to get the cerclage it would be put in around 12 weeks. So I realize I am not to that point yet, but you guys know what its like to worry. Most people say why take the risk? Well, you guys would know after losses, surgery, pending c-section who wants MORE surgery.....possibly unnecessary. Thanks for letting me vent. SJ

Congratulations sjt23!!! That's such wonderful news! Sorry I don't have any advice about the cerclage, based on personal experience, however, a friend of mine had one in a subsequent pregnancy (following a loss) and things turned out well for her. I also know a couple who had four successful pregnancies following a pre-term loss (due to incompetent cervix), and she had a cerclage with all four (full-term). Will be praying for you, AJ2009!

Hi the same happens to me on personal experience on cerclage, but a close friend of mine after loosing one pregnancy she had a baby and now she is on the fifth month of the second pregnancy, and everything is going perfectly well.

Thanks guys for the posts. I think my husband doesn't want to take any chances. Just like me he says he can't live through another loss like the last one.

sjt23-even thought with my first pregnancy I had fibroid which was 10 cm the doctors were still mentioning cervix incopetence as posible reason for my loss. With second pregnancy maternal fetal medicine was doing ultrasound every other week from week 12 too watch my cervix and do a cerclage if needed. I was given progesteron shots once a week (they told me the shot should prevent a preterm labor) and ended up not needing cyrclage, since my cervix wasnt changing at all during pregnancy. I ended up going into labor at 38 weeks and I believe if somethink helped me that it was a shot a was given weekly. Misha is now 2 months old and I am preparing my body for next pregnancy ASAP (I was adviced to wait half a year after delivery). Can't wait to experience it all over again. Sjt23- GOOD LUCK I will keep my finger crossed, don't worry everything will turn out right and you will hold your little bundle of joy before you know. Just believe in Good and pray a lot. Tell him how much that little person in your belly means to you. Love: Katarina

Thanks katarinak1 I have done a bit of research and I am going to bring that to the table. I think I will opt for just exactly what you did. I just hope my overworked back mountain ob's can handle it. I can go to a specialist as well but he's 4 hours away. So its better if they can do it in house. Thanks so much for the positive words and support. I have A LOT of hope this time. And I am trying my best to keep positive. THX-SJ

sjt23...I went through the same thing - I was 4 months preg and lost my son ...the dr.'s still do not know why and incompetent cervix was also thought to be the culprit. But as my reproductive endocrinologist stated had it been an incompetent cervix I would have never felt any pain at all. I had horrible pain for almost a week and then went into labor. I ended up having 12 fibroids removed after that. I am now 31 weeks pregnant and having my csection at 37 weeks. I was monitored for incompetent cervix but every ultrasound I have had shows my cervix is nice and long (as the u/s tech put it). Congrats on being pregnant!! The most important thing I can tell you is pray over your child daily and stay hydrated...hydration is soooo very important. I wish you the best. And congrats to the ladies that have already had kids that had their myo's close to when I had mine. I have not posted in well over a year but I read the posts and I am so happy for all of you and look forward to being in your shoes in about 7 weeks.