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RAIN---I'm so sorry!! I know what you mean, though--about even this horrible news being some kind of relief. I think part of the reason I'm doing pretty well now is that I still recall how AWFUL the waiting and anticipation was. . . and still feel somehow "better" compared to that. I'm sending you lots of strength and comfort. Are you "hoping" to spontaneously m/c?--or would you prefer a D&C? I'm on a business trip now--and have my D&C scheduled for next Wednesday. At this point I'm showing no signs of m/c and, honestly, am just hoping to get the D&C next week and be "done". Will your doc consider doing a D&C sooner than 2 weeks if that's what you decide you want after a few days of processing this news?? Sounds like you're right behind me in age. I'm 34.5 now, so no matter what #2 will be post 35. Oh well. . . you can't plan everything in life. Maybe this sounds crazy--and I shouldn't be rushing things forward so much, but what would you (and Katie and all the other "graduates" of this board) think of us starting a Yahoo chat group or something--to stay in touch and keep each other up and supported---and to share each others struggles and celebrations??? ELAINE--are you going in tomorrow to get your results and u/s? --or would you have to wait for the u/s until after the weekend?? I'm anxious FOR you!! (an indicator of just how prone I am to get anxious) Good luck sister!! Becky

p.s. Elaine and Lesley. . . no offense, but I do NOT want you two on the invitation list for the chat room idea above!! :) Becky

Rain - I am so, so sorry for your loss. I was so hoping that you would have good news today. I just dont know what to say, I just so wanted a good outcome for you. Please keep posting and let me know how you are doing. Again I am so sorry.

Becky - your such a great lady! I wont actually go into the dr's office tomorrow I will find out over the phone how the bloodwork went. I guess we proceed from there. I still feel pg - sore chest and nausea so we shall see. I decided not to give up on this baby yet - I think in the beginning of the week I just accepted the fact that I would lose the baby. I just dont want to give up before it does. I think your idea of a Yahoo group is great. I would love for us all to stay in touch and to be able to continue to support each other. It would be nice to have this be a bit more private - right now any one who goes on the net can read our posts - not that that isnt good - it is how we all have found each other but it now feels like a more intimate group. Let me know if you decide to do it. I hope that you are doing okay on your business trip! Please keep your fingers crossed for me!

TERESA--Are you out there?? Are you doing ok? How did it go today. I'm thinking of you and sending you hugs. I hope all is well--at least as "well" as it can be. Please drop us a note when you can so we know you're ok! Becky

Oh geez, Rain, I am SO sorry :*( I can't believe that this is happening to every one of us! I'm sure it has been a horrible day for you. Let us know how you are doing over the next few hours / days. Sending you a huge hug....Lesley

Becky - great idea re: chat room. I would sure like to keep in touch with you AWESOME bunch of women. ps - I understand re: conditional invite ;)

Elaine - I guess it's down to us, girlfriend. SIGH. Wishing you tons of luck for tomorrow xoxo

Hi All RAIN~~~I am so sorry about your loss and believe me the easy way out is a D&C and even if you pa__s at home they still may end up soing one, I hope you are doing ok, let us all know!!! Anyhow i am fine and yes i was good togo yesteray not no pain at all but today and i just woke up so things may change i am really cramping , so i am gonna take it easy today......i had harldy any pain whe i came to, and hardley any bleeding and last night i had no bleeding at all and i din't see any on the pad this morning either and that is normal cause the suck most of it out.... but I only wish i could take a bath and another thing is that i seen a bainaide on my arm last night they gat me a shot, the bad part i have no idea what it was or when they done it.......Anyone know how long they say to take showers and no baths?????.....hopeto hear from you all soon.......You are in our prayers rain!!!!!..........Teresa

Becky, Elaine, Lesley and Teresa. Thank you so much for the kind thoughts. I'm doing okay I guess. It did seem like my doctor's plan was that I m/c naturally and do the d&c if I don't m/c within the two weeks. We'll see how I feel after a few days. I haven't had much time to process this yet. Can you guys believe that after my morning, I had to go to my friend's mom's wake? Geez. That took a lot of my energy to support someone else, but at the same time it was almost a welcome distraction. Becky - I think the yahoogroup would be a wonderful idea! There's nothing like the support of people who have been through the same thing together. BTW, I think we're around the same age. I'm also 34.5. I was hoping to get my next little bean safely going before I turn 35 is what I meant yesterday. Lesley - I'm here rooting for ya! Elaine - same goes for you - we're all here hoping for great results! As always, please post ASAP, we're going to be here waiting to hear from you both. Wishing you both tons of luck - this group is due for some good news! Hugs all around. ~Rain

Teresa - I'm glad to hear that you're doing fine after your procedure. I may try and see if I can schedule it for Friday next week instead of having to wait two weeks. I'm still not sure though. I was told by the doctor that he might still have to do a d&c if I don't pa__s all the tissue. I don't know why at the moment I'm okay with waiting it out. That may change though. Hopefully that by today you are feeling less of the cramping. Thanks for posting your experience, it helps a lot. Hugs to you. Take care of yourself, okay? ~Rain

RAIN~~I was fine waiting for my D&C also after i found out there was no hope and i dont know hwy i felt this new energy for two days and then yesterday morning on the way to the hospital i cryed my eyes out knowing that i had to seperate from what should have been mine for keeps.....I am almost terrifyied right now though to try again i don't want a repeat of what just happened. I felt empty all day yesteray and still do alittle bit right now but i will be fine....I look at my three year old and thank the good lord above for her...(I had alot of bleeding with her) and knowing that after this it could have been her I lost, so i am atleast thankful for her and she keeps my hopes up, so i may tell myself that there will be another little one probally sooner then i can let myself believe........please stay in touch hugs and prayers to you and hang in there!!!! BECKY~~ How are you doing out there? please let me know.......teresa

Theresa - I'm glad to hear you made it through the D&C okay. I have no idea what kind of shot they might have given you. Make sure you take it easy! Write and let us know how you are.

Well it is finally Friday - Lesley good luck today I hope you hear some great news. I will be of the computer untill I get my phone call from the Dr but then I will let you guys know right away! Take care everyone and have a good day!!!

More bad news: I had my u/s, and there was still a heartbeat, but it has gone from last week's 100 to this week's 82. So not good. Waiting to hear back from my dr. (she didn't do it) about where to go from here. Kind of the worst case scenario b/c I was hoping for either an improvement or no heartbeat so I could move forward. :*( very very sad ......

ps - becky - guess I get to join your yahoo chat after all ;)