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oncemore I have two boys. One is almost 3 and the other is almost 5. I just found out that we are having another boy! Although I am a little disapointed that it is not a girl, at least I know what is coming. We know boy! I don't know if I will get pregnant again after this if the baby makes it. It has been so stressful. Besides, we will probably have our hands full with 3 kids. If the baby does not make it, I know I will want to try again. I would not want a tragedy to be my last memory of being pregnant. I know how wonderful it can be.

bpack- so sorry about your bleeds! It is so hard to deal with the "not knowing". I haven't bled as of yet (besides the small spotting twice), and I am so scared to bleed. You take it easy! How fun having boys! I always thought I wanted 3 boys and a girl... but got one boy and two girls, lol! I am now thinking that this one is a girl, since I lost my 2nd boy... just wonder if that is how things "work"... got what I wanted, but didn't get to keep it...so to speak, ugh! You will do wonderful with 3 kids. I have three. It's even more fun then 2 kids! I think over 4 kids has got to be a bit crazy, but...if someone can handle it...then go for it! LOL. I feel the same way as you about not wanting to end my reproductive times on a bad note. That is what I told me dh after losing Joey at 14 1/2 wks pg. I just couldn't bare to think of just ending it like that. PLEASE take it easy and let that sch of yours get better!

oncemore, thanks for you message. Still bleeding but it is not as dramatic as before. I am just going to wait and see what happens. I am sure the doctor is tired of seeing me at this point! My husband is freaking out about all this and said he never wants me to get pregnant again. I hope he will understand if this pregnancy doesn't hold and I want to try again. In terms of having lots of kids, my husband has 5 siblings and his parents said it was all the same after 3. I guess at that point you begin to have helpers to spread out the workload. They ran their house like a work camp!

Bpack- lol about the work camp comment! It is how it works. Yep, my older two are starting to be bigger helpers around the house and with their younger sister. I want to stop at 4 kids. My dh would be fine with 3 or 4. Says the same thing about this pg, that he doesn't know if we should have done it. I think men just don't know how to process emotions that well and so they "run" from it typically, ya know. Woo hoo! I am 11 wks pg today!!!! Still having cramping (not regular pg cramping either- I know what that is like) but- no major bleeding, so I am happy about that. I just got the doppler I ordered in the mail yesterday and have been lucky a few times to catch the heart rate of this little one, but it's hard. I hope I have better luck as I get further along. It gives me some comfort to be able to hear the h/b when ever I want to. Have a great weekend ladies!~Lori~

Thank you, all of you for posting your stories. I am 45 years old....joyfully surprised to find that we are expecting a baby however, started bleeding today. I am 7 weeks pregnant. I called the on call doc and he suggested rest, stay hydrated and come in tomorrow for an ultrasound. Your stories are helping me not to freak out and to have faith! Thank you! We lost a baby at 14+ weeks 3 years ago. No bleeding, his heart just stopped. I thought that bleeding almost always means miscarriage. I am grateful to know that it doesn't always mean that! Thank you!

CindyE- so sorry you had a loss a few years back. Sound like what happened with me in May of this year. My little boy's heart just stopped... all the tests (and there were alot done!) came back normal and no signs of anything wrong. All we can say is that his heart just stopped. I am due this week to have him...so this week is a bit hard on me. I felt the same way you did about bleeding... I was sooo worried about it all. But I have talked with some great gals about the SCH thing and how you can bleed like crazy and still have a healthy baby growing. I am hopeful that you are gonna pull through your bleeding, and that all will be fine! I am 11wks1day pg today, and still no major bleed from my sch... but I sometimes feel like I am waiting for the shoe to drop... and that is no fun. Hopeful that all goes well for you!!!!!! REST! (((hug)))!

OnceMore - Thank you for your kind response. I think I have read and re-read these stories a ton today just for encouragement. I truly appreciate your well wishes and prayers. I am also sorry for your past loss and both hopeful and prayerful for you now and the next 24 or so weeks for you! Every day is a milestone isn't it! Take Good Care! Thanks again!

CindyE- I hope all is well with your pg now. Have you had an u/s to check on things?

Thank you for checking up on me. Very confusing day! The Nurse Practioner was anything but kind and gracious. All she talked about was miscarriage until I brought up other possibilities. Bottom line, I could be off on my dates which would put me only at 3.5 or at the most 4.5 weeks. If that is the case, that explains why my levels are low and we will re-test (blood) on Weds. Likewise, they could not see anything on the U/S. The tech was awesome...telling me MANY stories about other women too early to see anything and bleeding with SCH. She also told me about women that had "periods" for their first few months. Have you ever heard of that? I have had thsoe stories shared with me too. I am really standing on faith with this even if the NP was soooo not. She took that stance verbally and in her mid before she even examined me. Thoughts?

I was diagnosed with SCH at 14 weeks when I started to bleed while at a business conference. I was mortified and convinced I was losing my baby. The ER folks were incompetent and insensitive as usual and I was left waiting for 2 hours before the performed an ultrasound and I saw the rea__suring heartbeat. I was put on complete bedrest by my OB. I considered seeing a specialist put I decided to wait to see if the bleeding stopped in a few weeks. I bled for about 3 weeks with the bleeding slowly tapering off after the first 10 days. I am now 38W1D and looking forward to a c-section next week(baby is transverse)!! None of the gloom and doom predictions came true. I did not miscarry and I did not deliver pre-term. I had strong faith and strong family support throughout this time which I know had an impact on outcome. The doctors tend to be very cautious about giveing too much hope in these situations but you must keep positive and use your support systems to believe and trust your body. I wish you all many blessings and a successful pregnancy.

Bluemoon - Your situation sounds very similar to mine. I too had a bleed at 14 weeks and was stuck in the emergency room for 4 hours freezing and bleeding all over the place until they checked the baby. I was sure it was a miscarriage. I appreciate you sharing your success story. It gives us all hope that we will make it! It is tough seeing your baby so much through the months and constantly worrying that you will loose it.

CindyE - Sending positive thoughts your way. My initial due date ended up being 10 days off so don't give up hope.

Here is my update. I am so confused. I am almost 18 weeks pregnant and although the baby is healthy and doing well, I have been bleeding for over 10 days. No pain or cramping, just bleeding. The strangest thing is that during the day it is pretty much just spotting. At night, it gushes. I wake up once or twice a night and the blood just pours out. I have no energy and am light headed all the time. I just don't know how much longer this can continue without it being dangerous to me. I also can't figure out where all the blood is coming from. The doctor said it is not the placenta because I would feel pain if it were separating. It could be from my bleed but it is not that big. She said it is on the small to medium size. Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has experienced this kind of very, very heavy night bleeding. All I can do is wait and see if it goes away. Thanks to all who have made this board active again.

bpack, I can definitely relate. You should ask your dr to check your blood count - my hemoglobin went really low after bleeding for a few weeks and it made me very dizzy and tired. Check it in case you need extra iron and to make sure it doesn't get any worse (if that's what it is). Good luck.

BLUEMOON- Thank you so much for your story! Good luck with your c-cection too! It is so nice to hear happy endings! CINDYE- Good luck with your blood work! I have heard of woman having periods throughout their pg...sounds weird to me, but it happens I guess. I also wanted to tell ya that I read this story of another girl that had a sch but for a while they couldn't find that that was causing the bleeding, because they couldn't see it. Finally one u/s they saw it, and just told her that it must have not shown on the u/s just after her heavy bleed. But she was like in her 3rd trimester when she wrote the story so all worked out for her I'm sure. BPACK- I know this may be a stretch... but here is the story... with my 15 mo old dd, my water broke in the middle of the night...but it was like a small trickle at first and not a gush... thing is, when I would get up to go see if I needed to go pee, the "leaking feeling" would go away... but then when I would lay back down, the trickle would happen again... this happened like 3 times before I finally figured out that, yep.. my water broke! When I got to the hospital I explained it to the nurse and she said that the baby acted like a 'cork" and when I was up standing, the head would "plug" the cervix up. But when I would lay down, the baby would lighten up against the cervix and I would gush some fluid. so maybe with you up and about all day... you are only getting some spotting even though the blood may be building up inside your uterus, and then when you lay down, the flow is easier to get out. Just a thought. I would have your dr check your blood level to see if you need some extra iron, or if you need further care for the light headedness and such. You take care and try to not be so busy. I have heard from two other mom's to be (on the miscarriage site I go to) that their SCH's only got better and left when they were on bed rest and took it very easy. My dr. told me to modify my activity and no s_x and no lifting and that I should go to "bed rest" if I bleed, or have really bad cramping. So far I have done that and havent had any major bleed as of yet. Today I had an ob appt and an u/s (11 1/2 wks) and all looks great with baby! My SCH is a little bit bigger, but not much and all is ok still. There is such a difference in dr to dr with regards to activity level and bed rest. You all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!!!! I am off to Calif. to see my side of the family and wont be back until Sunday. Take care ladies!!!!

jccf2003 - thanks for your response. Just wondering what you doctor did to get your hemoglobin level back to normal. I have been taking iron and that doesn't seem to be helping much. I had a blood test yesterday so we will see if that is problem.