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Personally, I don't think it's postpartum...I think it's just being a mom...whether this is your first child or your tenth. I've yet to return to my former job, after giving birth to my fifth child, and am working very hard with my husband to avoid going back. We can't afford child care, don't have any available anyway (other than some short-term babysitting that my youngest daughter can help with, if need be), and besides, I feel, as you do, that I want to be the one raising my child. My husband's trying to either get supplemental work, change jobs so he can get a different shift (then we can alternate child care duties), or I'm attempting to get work that can be done with baby in tow (those jobs do exist, and I've temporarily taken on one during my maternity leave, but they don't all pay the greatest). On another part of this discussion board, I've read of SOHOjobs.com. Some women who want to stay at home with their children have learned of work from SOHO. You might want to check it out. While it's really nice of your mother-in-law to watch her grandchild (don't hold it against her that she's helping out, I'm sure she's only loving her grandchild and not trying to take over your position as mom), it's still understandable that you want to be home with the baby. Seriously, see what you can do to earn the same, or near the same, amount of money by changing jobs. Hopefully, your husband supports you, and what you want to do. If you want some ideas (ones I've checked out for myself), I'd be glad to let you know what I've found, thus far. Maybe it'll help.

i dont think its postpartum either. I had the same feelings when i went back to work when my daughter was 8 months old (and i was only working nights 3 nights a week and hubby was home with baby) Its totally natural to want to be with your child all day. i am a sthm, my husband picked up a 2nd job becuase i was only making 200$ a week so he said why work?? stay home with the baby. Im sorry that your hubby doesnt understand you.

HannahBaby, how long did you work outside the home before your husband said it wasn't worth it to have you do so (smart, and kind, man!!)? While my husband continues to look for a job with a different shift, or tries to get supplemental work, I anguish (I mean ANGUISH) at the thought of leaving my son. I'd like to know how you coped until you could be a STHM. Since my extended maternity leave runs out in another week, at the very least, I've suggested to my employer about reducing my hours (to four a day), but haven't told him it's mostly to make it more bearable than the six I'm ordinarily scheduled to work. I'm hoping I can handle even that without breaking down crying, and continue to pray that my husband will get something squared BEFORE the maternity leave ends so I don't have to return at all (don't get me wrong, I don't mind working from home or with baby in tow). Actually, he HAS to come up with something soon because we don't have the ability to afford child care and my youngest daughter has a job she's postponing, and reducing the hours, to help us out by watching her baby brother. She can't do that forever, though, nor should she be expected to. While it's not always the case, sometimes I stress over this situation BIG TIME!