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I went through the same issues. My baby is 5 1/2 weeks old and was born 4 weeks prematurely. She was in the NICU for 3 days. So we went home without her as well. Being separated - I feel that we didn't bond at all - so when she did come home - it felt like we just picked up any old baby at the hospital and brought it home. I don't feel a connection. We tried for 4 years to get pregnant - and now I wonder why? The crying has stopped - but I still have doubts. I did go to my doctor for my postpartum checkup and did discuss these issues. She said that I should talk to a therapist. You probably have a case of postpartum depression. I would go to your doctor and discuss your options. Also, there are other websites especially for PPD with other women sharing their stories - it makes a difference when you know other people are going through the same thing. But definitely have your husband give you a couple hours break when he gets home - and have friends visit for a little while during the day - it makes a difference!! I still have doubts - but as time goes on - the fear and uncertainty lessen. Sometimes it's also helpful to keep a journal to jot down your feelings, etc. - to get them off your mind. It does get better - hang in there!

im goin thru the same thing, my baby just turned a month yesterday... & I feel like a crazy lady... literally.. Ive got 2 other children.. & all 5 & under so u can imagine how i feel. This baby is by another guy who doesnt want him... & has made things very hard fer me... my two other boy's father... dont really bother with them... I feel so angry at the world... that most days i just wanna go bury my head in the ground & stay that way until things get better... & im so wishin their lives away... just so i can feel normal again, if there is such a thing!

Yes. See your doctor. Your OB to start with and possibly ask for a referral to a psychaitrist. After the birth of my daughter, I had postpartum depression. Same sort of symptoms. Crying all the time, not wanting my husband to leave for work, not interested in the baby. I would mechanically make sure she was fed and clean, but I couldn't enjoy her. The first 3 months of so after she was born are a blur now. The OB started me on some meds and it took the psychiatrist a couple of months of tweaking the dosages to get it right, but at about 3 months I could finally enjoy the baby. What a difference that made! Not everybody necessarily needs medication, but if your doctor recommends it, I wouldn't shy away from it. One thing also that helped me was to read to her. Like I said, I was feeding and cleaning her but I couldn't talk to the baby at all. Someone suggested to me to read to her since I couldn't think of anything else to say. I think it helped although many times I was reading and crying at the same time. But at least it made me feel a little closer to the baby.

Thank you for your advice. I did try to get into see my doctor but unfortunately, I can't see her for two weeks unless there is a cancellation. I think there is a PPD support group in my area so I will look into it some more. I am starting to feel a bit better but most days it is a roller coaster of emotions. I am crying uncontrollably one minute and half an hour later I am on top of the world. This is definately not normal behaviour. I don't want it to interfere with my bonding with my baby so I know I need to get help and am going to. I am no longer embarra__sed to ask for help.

I felt pretty close to the same way as you're feeling. I wouldn't admit that I was depressed though until I had to go to the er because I was dehydrated. I had quit eating but pretty much didn't even notice. The thing that helped me was just getting up and getting me and my baby ready and just riding around our small town. I would ride for a little and maybe go to the next town to the mall. Once I realized my life was still my life just with a few changes everything settled down.