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no its not to late i have a friend thats was 15 and had a baby, they thought about adoption but the baby came early so she did get a chance to pick a family, so she took the baby home and kept her for 2 1/2 weeks before she found the right family. if u want to talk u can email me at kate_wee22@yahoo.com

I'm sure its not too late to give up a child for adoption, though only you can decide if that's what you really want to do. There are loads of childless couples desperate to adopt who would give an excellent home to your child if that's what you want to do. You need to think about it very carefully though.

the decision to place is not your moms its yours no disrespect to yout mom but depending on your situation it sounds like youve given good thought and the others are right there are a ton of couples that would take your baby and provide a wonderfull home...you can usually find some in the local phone book under adoption call around and find the one thats best for you and fits your questions and requests. God bless!

I would agree with your mom in that respect that it can be very normal for a woman/girl to be overwhelmed after childbirth, even when their situation is entirely different to yours! Is it only your mothers opinion that has stopped you for the last three weeks from placing him for adoption? Did you feel the same way about adoption already during your pregnancy? I think you should talk to a professional about this as your mother naturally has strong feelings about this. But it is you not her who must decide. All the best to all three of you.

new mom...please disreguard the last girl some poeple dont take into account that they are not aware of the full situation! Weather you've acted irresponsible is not the issue the issue now is whats best for you and your baby, whatever that may be. Make sure your decision is about the future of your baby....I dont know your whole situation ither so only you can determine whats best for both of you....your mom will have good advice and bad sometimes but i can a__sure you as a mom she just wants best for you both as well. Just sit and talk to her be very specific in how your feeling and give her hard reasons why you feel the way you do. Sometimes just talking about things out loud will present options and ideas you had never come accross or it can back the ideas you have already presented...like i said best of luck you in my prayers. keep us posted.

'New Mommy' , you should be listening first to your heart then to your mother more then anyone on this sight. She is your mom, you should go to her and talk to her. If you two have any kind of relationship then she'll be able to help you. That is her grandchild and maybe she wants to see it grow up and be a part of it's life. Just as she was in your life. It's easier, in my opinion, sometimes to have a better relationship with your grandchild then with your own child. If she doesn't want you to give your new baby up then maybe she's willing to help you and be a good support person for you and your child. It would break my heart to lose one of my grandkids. I felt that way as soon as they were born. Just as I did with my own kids. It is your decision but remember that baby is a part of you but also a part of your mother. My daughter in law suffered from post partum depression after her second child and with help and support from her husband and her mother and myself, she is doing a fantastic job and finally bonded with her baby and is now trying to conceive again. takecare

It may be that you are depressed. This is called post partum depression. Talk to your doctor about it. If your feelings persist, do what is right for your baby. Good luck.

it could be right for you but remmember, in your childs heart, she or he will feel trated for, or unloved, sence of loss, and she or he will always want to see or meet you. my dad didnt care for me and didnt want me. though i never saw him i always think of him. i have a step father that is realy nice and realy cares. but a mother giving up her baby-how can you? even though the baby might be better off with someone nicer, it will always suffer because it was given away, and was unwanted by its mother. thats the most painful thing in this life...

I dissagree im adopted and i have a wonderfull mom and dad...my mom was young and had not even finished highschool if she had kept me at that time she may not have finished school and we would have always been struggling just to get by...i respect her and love her for putting me first and allowing me and herself to reach the full potential in life. My mom an dad could not have children and they are gratefull to my birth mother for her gift. No family should suffer through life if they have the chance to really succeed. I think you are a wonderful mom already for realizing that there are options. .... but i do agree that post-partum is a possibility i would make absolutly sure this is not the cause of your feelings before looking or going through with adoption....that is a choice you have to be 100% sure of in order to have peace about it.....god bless you both and what ever you choose make it whats best for both of you.

It is definitely not too late. My husband and I have always wanted to adopt a child anywhere from age 0-3. Take your time and decide if this is right for you and your baby. There are always nice couples who want to adopt.

most new mothers go through this. i did too. my daughter is 7 months old now and i would claw anyone's eyes out who tries to take her or hurt her in any way. don't let postpartum blues cause you to give your child up. your child will forever be hurt that you didn't want him/her. think about it carefully. people with barely any money are able to care for their child as best as they can. you can too. this decision will be hardest if ever you feel regret about it. you cant take it back. if giving this baby up is about your happiness then you wouldn't be in position to give it up imho.

Hi There, I know it has been some time since your original post and I hope you have come to a decision that you are at peace with. It is true post partum can play a huge role in how you are feeling, so I hope maybe you have talked to someone. But if you are still thinking about adoption I would love to talk to you about your options also and invite you to visit our website www.child2love.com. Good Luck on whatever path you choose.

jess just wants to find a way to take your kid. so many hrd up mothers out there looking for a baby and not a toddler or older kid. watch out for these groups!