My Story I Really Need Advice
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well i know this isnt exactly postpartum stuff but i dont know where else to put it....well lets see...im 17 and my boyfriend (who is the babys father) is also 17....and our son is 14 mos. he is a very very busy boy....recently i have hurt my hand so i have to wear an ace bandage and i can barely pick up my son....but ive also been very hormonal (from my birth control) and just been up and down with emotions....happy...sad...angry....annoyed...you name it...ive been it...but my boyfriend....he is there for us most of the time...but lately things have been bothering me...like when i ask him to come over and spend time with our son or spend time with me (bc we really need it) or things like that....it always seems like there is some excuse to not come to my house...but yet im always going to his house...no problem....i mean is it fair? i know its kinda silly to be annoyed or upset about it but honestly it does bother me...and im tired of trying to explain my feelings to him bc it always ends up bad like an arguement or something...i dont know what to do anymore...i mean i love this boy to death and we always work things out when things go bad...its just im tired of having to always ask him to be there for us....it breaks my heart seeing our son look at the phone saying..."dada"...he shouldnt have to associate the phone with daddy....so i mean what can i do to try to get him to come over more or whatever???..i mean he already knows how i feel about it...sooo any ideas?? please respond!! im going out of my mind here! thanks!
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hi i totaly understand you. it isnt fair and you have the right to feel that way. it seemes he is trying to get out of caring for his son. i was in the same situation only im married and we live together. he always made exuses and always would do something. i mean he loves him, but didnt want to hold him and stuff. so i ignored him like he ignored the baby and he finaly realised i was realy upset and that he was being a bad father. and we did get into lots of arguments about it. i told him when he grows up he wont apreciate him. that struck him deep. i hope you can work things out. I know how much it hurts to see that.
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Sorry to hear..... im a millitary wife and for 7 months while my husband was in Iraque my son called the phone daddy its hard and especially because you have no reason or excuse for the phone to be daddy.....this may sound harsh but stop making the most effort and make him come to you....use the same excuses he does when he wants you there at his house. only for a little while and then ask him how he feels being on the other end....it sounds like he puts less effort because he can get away with it in a way. Work it out so that you both are happy with the conclusion not just him. good luck !
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what does going to school have to do with handling a relationship and a baby?
your rude. get a life.
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umm jenn what in the world are you talking about?? i said nothing about school and neither did anyone who posted back....why dont you go on somewhere and get a life!
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I dont think she said it to you. At least I dont think. I have seen where rude comments are posted then disappear all of a sudden. Dont know who removes them. But going back to the subject, that is what I am scared of and dont want to happen. It just breaks my heart, my bf is in jail awaiting sentencing. Dont know how long he will get, but Im afraid that my baby boy will only see his dad through a picture and maybe a phone call.
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