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Kristy--I wonder if anybody has Yahoo messengers. We could create a chat room under the Health & Wellness folder and chat there. There are already a few pregnancy chat rooms on Yahoo, I just figured we would need to make one tailor-made for our situation. You and Katharine let me know. Sounds like you are going to have a wonderful evening! We have my 4 year old step-daughter this week. Whew am I exhausted!! How do you mothers do this 24-7??? Good luck with the BD. Drink a gla__s for me! Love and dust to everybody!!

HI Amy and Kristy - I would love to talk anytime and I use messenger to chat with friends, I think the only way to do it is supply email???. Let me know how to contact you and we are good to go....however I am really not sure of the time difference between us! All I know is that every time a friend goes to the USA, it is impossible to get hold of them on phone because of the time difference. I will look into it...I am going on holiday next week to Far North Queensland, and will have a lovely 1 1/2 week getaway in the sun. If nothing has happened on the AF front by the time I get back, I will be visiting my doctor (would have anyway as was advised to by hospital for 6 week check up). I mayn't be able to often check the Net over the next 10 days, as I will be pooside and oceanside 24/7!!! (goody!!!)...looking forward to chatting after my holiday! X Katharine

Katharine--OOOhhhhh!!! Take me with you!! I need a holiday!! Enjoy your sun and fun. We will check our calendars and get things figured out. Meanwhile, relax and enjoy. Build a sandcastle for me! Love and Dust!

Thanks for all your warm thoughts. Today has actually been a better day. I have only cried two times and am doing best by keeping busy. My daughter is keeping me laughing and my mind off everything. If you gals want to set up a Yahoo Group that is a great way to chat all of the time. Let me know and I can look into setting it up. We would all me on an email list that would go out to all of us when ever we wanted to write something. I am in a group now with young monthers who are TTC #2 and they have been so helpful. Let me know. I ran into a lady today that told me I am most fertile RIGHT NOW while I am still miscarrying!!! WHAT IN THE WORLD???? Is she right?

Sara--I'm glad you are doing better. Yes, the research says you can be more fertile right after mc or actually giving birth. So, good luck!! You can actually ovulate as early as 2 weeks after mc. You are welcome to join us in chatting. Kristy and Katharine--I was thinking if you wanted to exchange emails, we could use an email address that my hubby and I have set aside for junk email, then from there I can send you my actual address. If you want to do this, let me know and I would be fine posting it on this site. Love and Baby Dust to all!

This is new to me, but I have spent the last hour reading women's stories. Mine is very similar, m/c at 12 weeks (baby only survived to 8wks), had D&C, waited one normal cycle (took 7 weeks) and then tried again. It is now almost 6 weeks since last af and I took a pregnancy test (very nervously, convinced myself there was no way). It came back positive. I have taken another test, because I am paranoid, and it too came back positive. I have a doctor's appointment for next week, but I was wondering if it could be left over hcg from the first pregnancy. My D&C was march 18th. I guess I am doubly nervous because I do not have any of the same pregnancy symptoms I had last time - mainly my b___sts are not tender like they were before and my doctor did not check my hcg after the m/c. I know you all know how it is to be second guessing everything, so it would be somewhat rea__suring for me to know that someone else has the same thing going on, it really helps to have other people that truly understand where you are coming from. Thanks! By the way, my doctor said it was no problem to start trying right away without a cycle, he said if your body wasn't ready to get pregnant, it wouldn't, so go for it ladies. Look forward to hearing back.

Tracy--CONGRATULATIONS MOMMY!! You wouldn't have any hcg left from your previous pregnancy at this point, so it looks like it worked! I'm so envious, but happy that one of us has made it this far! Let us know how your visit goes. I'll pray for a healthy pregnancy. Good luck and keep us posted. Kristy and Katharine--How is summer treating y'all? Let me know when it's time to start getting anxious about a pregnancy test. I figure I will test around June 25th. I go June 6th for an ultrasound to see if the Clomid worked and see if I will be ovulating this month. Keep your fingers crossed and say lot's of prayers! Keep me posted on how things are going with you two. Love and Baby Dust to all!! Amy in Texas

Thank you so much Amy for your response. I figured that because I had a D&C and that I had a regular af, that it is a good possiblility that the positive is just that - a real positive!! I just worry about the lack of pregnancy symptoms and every other little thing there is to worry about. I am not sure when to allow myself to be happy about it, I mean it is with very mixed emotions that I venture into this again. I am very happy, don’t get me wrong, this is what I want, but the fear and constant “what was that?” is very difficult. It is unfortunate that after a m/c the feelings of naivety about pregnancy are gone and reality of all of the possibilities set in. Anyway, I am going to try to be as “up” as I can be because it is good news. Good luck to you on the 6th with your ultrasound the test on the 25th. I will keep you in my thoughts - with crossed fingers of course!!

Tracy--From what my doctor says and from the research I have done, each pregnancy is different...including the symptoms or lack of certain symptoms. Try not to worry--I know that is impossible after what all of us have gone through--but try anyways. My b___sts weren't that tender right away before I mc. It is different with each person and each pregnancy. Good news is since you are 6 weeks along, there should be a heartbeat by now. Hopefully you will hear it soon. I understand what you are saying about having the naivitee stripped away. I feel the exact same way. I waited until I finished both of my degrees to get pregnant (I'm 32) so I feel like my clock is ticking. My mc devastated me, and like you, when I get pregnant, it will be hard to believe or trust it until way into the pregnancy. Just keep coming here and we will help you remain positive. Some of us are thinking of forming a chat room to visit. I might list a generic email account for everybody to email and from there we can exchange our personal emails. You are welcome to join in. Meanwhile, get your hubby and go celebrate sweetie!! You both deserve it and probably need it! Good luck at the doctor! Keep us posted! Love and Baby Dust to all!! Amy in Texas

I posted on here a while ago, it was after my miscarried at 6 weeks. This was on May 12th and it was a natural miscarriage. My husband and I continued trying like the doc said we could. I ovulated on the 27th of May. Now my b___sts have become tender ans some what bigger again and I am getting dizzy off and on. Do any of you know if this could be due to an early pregnancy, or just because I should cycle soon? I have also had hot flashes and some lower abdominal discomfort but not cramping. I am nervouse, and I also don't want to get my hopes up. I just don't want to get all down again, I hate the waiting game. Any Advice? Thank you and baby dust to all of you.

Coreen--Don't you just love how our bodies are so confusing?? It is definitely possible that you are pregnant. I would suggest taking a test. If it isn't positive, I'd wait a week and repeat if 'af' hasn't come and you still have the symptoms. Make sure you buy one of the tests that can detect hcg at an early stage. The following link gives a comparison of the various home pregnancy tests: http://www.babyhopes.com/pregnancy-test-sensitivity.html Good luck and Baby Dust to you! Meanwhile enjoy Baby Dancing! :-) I hope you have an angel on the way!

Amy - I would love to join in a chat room, it is just so good to have people to talk to who can keep you some what sane during a very trying time. I too waited until I was older to start a family and now I am 34, so the ticking certainly is a factor in the game (plus my husband is 4 1/2 years younger, so his clock is not as loud as mine). The worst part really is the hurry up and wait time, the mind can do funny things to a person when you are so unsure of so many things. I am not sure my husband truly understands the psychological trauma behind all of this. Such a roller coaster, maybe that is why I hate those things so much!! Anyway, thank you again and I will continue to come here for moral support, it is always easier to go through something if you do not have to do it alone. Coreene, I too agree with Amy - get a test, close your eyes and just leap, it does not get any easier the longer time that has gone by. I always kind of feel that it is just better to know. When it came my time to test and I couldn't wonder about it any longer, I had convinced myself that it would be negative, that way I would not be devastated by it(of course, this is a defense mechanism and you still hope for a positive). But I am not good wth disappointment, so think of it not being what you want and then you will not be too disappointed, or you will be pleasantly surprised - not to "up" of an att_tude, I know, but that seems to work for me. Good luck to you and keep us informed.

hi everyone.....its now 6 1/2 weeks since my last miscarriage and I think I ovulated today !!!! We have done the baby dance a few times in the last week and I have had one af and another bleed which started shortly afterwards so I am hoping my body has finished sorting itself out ! Fingers crossed eh?! Congratulations Tracey ! Im sure it will all be fine. I know exactly how nerve wracking it is because although I have one son I have tested positive for pregnancy 5 times and have lost 4 babies each at a different stage...I always get so anxious in early pregnancy convinced that the more anxious I get, the more likely I am to miscarry because my body would see it as stress. My midwife said that if an embryo was healthy it would take a hec of a lot to shift it and that stress was not the cause ! So try to relax as best you can .... Im sure it will all go great. Amy, I hope you have some good news soon, you sound really nice - Baby dust and hugs Clare x

Okay ladies, I created an email address we can all contact each other. As soon as you email it, I can email you back with the pa__sword. That way it won't be public knowledge. Or if you would like, you can email the address requesting other lady's email addresses. Maybe from there we can set up chatting on our messengers whether it be through yahoo, MSN, or AIM. Here is the address: loveandbabydust@yahoo.com. Y'all just let me know if you want me to moderate the email address or share the pa__sword with everybody. I hope to hear from everybody soon! Have a great weekend! Smile and the world smiles with you!! Baby dust to all!!

Thank you Amy and Tracy for the advice. I am going to take a test on Monday because that is only 3 days before af will be due. I will let you know how it turns out. I just hate waiting. I hope all of you will be testing again soon, baby dust to all of you! :)

Tracy, what wonderful news!!!! I hope we are all so lucky very shortly. I will email my address to Amy's addr, I am set up for Microsoft messenger but I will figure out how to set up yahoo messenger too. I found out the time difference between me and Amy in Texas is about 15 hours and Kristy in NY is about 14 hours. So unless you ladies are up early (doing a test perhaps? lol) we mightn't be on at the same time, but that doesn't mean we can't share emails!! Friday/Sat was 28 days since my d and c, no news yet!!! I did a test last Tues which was negative. This was about 25 days after my d and c. I think it is extremely unlikely pg has occurred, given that we haven't been trying, but who knows??? Like I said in an earlier post, if nothing has happened on the af front by the time I get back from Queensland, I will be going to the doctor to see if I can do something to bring it on!! in the meantime, bring on the sun and fun!!! I have been having twinges now and then and feeling "wet" (sorry if too much info) every couple of days, and keep convincing myself that I am ovulating/af happening/something's happening/nothing's happening, the mind plays funny tricks on us in this situation doesn't it? Like I am leaping on every twinge and a___lysing it to the nth degree. Amy I think it was you who coined the phrase earlier "naivete stripped away", what a brilliant summation of how we are all feeling and will feel when we get pg again. Unfortunately we have had an experience that is so horrible and heartwrenching, it would be lovely to go back to being that innocent and hopeful as before our miscarriage/s, but that won't happen. I am convincing myself that this happened for a reason, but that reason may not be revealed to us for a long time or ever.....I know how strong I am now and how much I am loved, I mean I knew this before but this has been a test that my husband has pa__sed with flying colours. Keep in touch, and I will be sending my email address to you Amy.....lots of baby dust to all....Katharine in Australia...