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My husband and are going to begin trying to conceive next month. I am so excited in that cheesy kind of way, but he doesn't act all that excited, and it makes me feel like I am forcing him into this. He isn't a real heart-on-his-sleeve kind of man anyway, but I wish he'd say "Yeah, I can't wait either." The other day while we were having ice-cream in the kitchen he asked me if I realized that we won't have time like this anymore once we have a baby. He does want to do it (although he won't agree to go ahead and try to do it this month) or at least he hasn't said he doesn't want to do it. Are most men like this? Am I just being paranoid because I am so excited?
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Hi Melissa - I dont know your husband at all (obviously) so I can say whether this is normal for him or not but there are a few warning signs there that he may not be ready right now - Its like he is trying to drop hints or let you know without coming straight out and saying it - especially if he is saying he doesnt want to try this month? I am not saying he doesnt want to have a baby at all - maybe he is just not ready right now. I know when me and my hubby started trying we were both really excited - but not everyone is able to show emotion etc etc - my advice would be to talk to him about this before trying and tell him you really want to know how he feels and not push him into anything. Dont know if that helps at all but thats really the only advice i can give. Good luck.
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**Ops meant to say dont know your hubby at all (obviously) so I CANT say....
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We are both teachers so trying this month has never been in the plan; for that matter, trying next month wasn't really in the plan. We want to aim to have a baby at the end of school. We discussed this and decided we're both ready, but he just isn't as in to it as I am. We talked about having children during our marriage preparation courses and even thought about it last year, but changed our minds and decided on this year. He told me one night coming home from a movie the exact date when he decided that he was ready to have a baby. Now it's so close and I guess I'm getting worried so when I've nagged him about whether or not he wants to do it, (after getting annoyed) he told me not to worry. I guess I just want to see that he is excited so I don't feel I am pushing him into anything.
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Hey Melissa, like I said its hard to comment cause I dont know him but if you guys have had marriage preparation courses and have talked about it then I am sure he is okay with it - maybe he just wont get excited until you are actually pregnant - maybe he is just wanting to wait until you say - guess what honey and then he will be excited. From what you said in your last post I dont think you should feel you are pushing him into anything expecially if you have asked him straight out and he has told you not to worry - I know its hard, but maybe try not to worry about it so much and just have fun when you do start trying!! :) I hope to read a post on here from you guys soon saying "WE ARE PREGNANT!!"... :)
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Sometimes men just don't get quite as excited as we do or express it the way we do. My husband wanted to try years before I was ready, so when I wanted to try I knew he was ready, but I can't say I remember him being excited (except that he was going to be getting more s_x). He will be excited when you get pregnat and that's what matters! Good luck.
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Men just don't show it the same way. That is why we carry the babies and they don't. Not that they care any less than we do, we are just biologically different. They don't have the biological clock like we do. They have one, it just isn't as "urgent" as ours. My hubby is the same and it was the same when we got married. I got so offended at his lack of excitement, then realized if he didn't want to do it, he would SAY SO!!! We have had a few talks because sometimes I feel like I am the only one trying, but he told me he will be more committed to it. I know my hubby would be excited and scared if I was pregnant, but I think that is normal.
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I think guys are more nervous than excited. They have to adjust to the thought of providing for a family. Even when I found out I was pregnant, my dh didn't seem excited, it's probably just nerves or the thought of the adjustments.
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