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I'd be kinda disappointed but of course understanding. I'd be behind her 100% of the way.

I'd be upset, thought she would learn, but I'd tell her her options, and give her a big amount of responsibility. The most I'd do is watch her child while she still went to school, and that includes college, because that is the most important thing. But she'd HAVE to get a job and HAVE to stay in school. If she dropped out I'd have nothing to do with her.

God this is a hard one. I don't want to sound cruel but I'd kill him and then die! I have a little different angle because you two have girls and I have a boy, and my brother was a teen parent (twice) and I didn't like what I saw. First I'd want to die because thinking about my baby having s_x to get a girl pregnant is...oh my god it's killing me now! Then I just don't like the situation-he will get off so easy compared to the girl. If he is a Harold or like T's hubby-okay-I could deal with that. But some little high school fling where he got his rocks off for some girl to do all the work and have her life completely twisted while his greatest obligation is finding a way to help, while he has all his free time, can go to college and so can she but come on....it's waaaaayyyyy different for her with a child compared to just him and him visiting every now and again. My bro was a chump! It's a trend we see a lot and it isn't fair and if he turned out to be one of those guys or even considered it a "mistake" he made-oh god I'd just feel like a total failure. Now don't get me wrong, I can deal with the reality of my son having s_x someday and having a child with a woman he loves, and hey if that's the case at like 16, and maybe three years down the line they don't work out-okay! But if he's just "doing the thang"-unhhh uhhh!!!!!!

Ha ha I am the same as V - the thought of my bubba girl EVER having s_x is just tooooo much for me to handle haha - but the reality is it will happen! I would be a bit disappointed also (mainly thinking how hard it will be for her and all the things she may miss out on in her youth) however in saying that I would like to think I would be supportive and let her know I would be there for her 100% - also like A&VMommy I would let her know this was her responsibility and she better get used to being an adult real fast - and I would also want her to finish school and or university. But all in all of course I would still love her no matter what. :)

I had my first child at 18. My parents always just told me "Don't have s_x!" So, needless to say I was a teen parent. They were supportive. My son is 12 now and we already talk about s_x. I also have 2 daughters and one on the way. I will always encourage them to talk openly to me when they decide to have s_x. That way maybe the pregnancy can be prevented instead of me just saying "Don't Have S_x!" That is unrealistic in today's society. Of course I will let them know why they shouldn't have s_x but it will ultimately be their decision when it comes time. So I will teach protection, protection, protection!! If all else fails and I am a young Grandma then I will definately be supportive for any of my children!

Well I have two boys and people seem to think it is worse if their daughter gets pregnant apose to if their son get a girl pregnant. I thinkit is all the same. I think it is a little worse if a teenage son gets a teenage girl pregnant, just because, you never know what the girls parents may do or handle it. It is rightfully the girls sides decision on what happens (if they keep the baby ect) and it may be against the teenages boy and his families wishes....Anyways I would like to think that my kids will always feel comfortable to talk to either dh or myself. So the way i picture it, is that we would know when they are having s_x. Though we would do all we can to make sure they are safe about it, i think we all know that doesnt always happen. So if one of our sons came to us and told us they got a girl pregnant. It wouldnt be as much of a shock know that they were already having s_x. I would be disapointed but i would be by their side 100%. They would be more then welcome to live at home but they would need to take full responsibility of their own child. I would just be grandma. I also have put thought into. What if they couldnt afford anything for the baby, or there is a time when they didnt have money to buy formula or diapers...I would on some occasions buy it for them and keep tabs of how much they owe us...Not to be a b___h or to nit pick at them, but to show them that even if they dont have the money then, that they still have to have it eventurally. Other times i would tell them sorry not helping you out this time, and then pull a fast one like slipping money in one of their pairs of pants so they think it was money that they misplaced or didnt know they had. Cause face it. There is NO way i would let my grandbaby go without something he/she NEEDS, but i wouldnt want my kids to think that they can run to mom and dad every time they are in a rough spot.. Then i think by the time that i knnow that they are making enough money to have their own place and make it on their own, then i will nicely tell them that i thinkit is time for them to branch off, get their own place and start liveing as their own little family.....maturally there is way more thoughts that i have put into this but it would be too much to type and things dont always work out the way you plan them....but i would be by their side 100%!!

guys i think i not ready to have a kid.. i didnt even bloody ever thought about that situation.... omg ill kill my son for real..... seriously my son will have a very hard life if he ever does that...... not with me or his father but with his grandparents... thats why im praying to god and hopeing that doesnt happen... but if it did hmm......... ill do what most of yall said already.. but in the west indies where im from trinidad and my husbands from jamaica we try and keep the family together and support both my son and the girl... but db is right they will have to have it hard at some point or else they will go back and do the same thing a second time because they think its easy for them to just pop out a baby and give it to us to take care of...... sorry if my thoughts are not really being written properly on this post.... its only because that question really freak me out....

It's a very valid question which is why I asked it. From what I know, most teen parents have a young parent themselves. It's not unlikely that some of us will have this conversation with our young ones someday.