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so this may sound like i am a bad person BUT here it goes...
i was with a guy for almost three years, we didnt use protection or the pull out method this whole period of time and i never once got pregnant. when we broke about 4 months ago we still were s_xually active with one another. in the month of april i met a boy who i ended up dating. we had s_x towards the end of that month. BUT before i met him in the beginning of april i had also had s_x with my ex boyfriend but this was before. i took a pregnancy test in the beginning of may because my period was spotting and i had morning sickness i tested positive! .... i havent went to the doctor yet so i dont know who i am pregnant by, but most likely its not my ex boyfriend because i think if it was his i would have gotten pregnant sooner. SO someone told my ex boyfriend that i was and he ask me about it i didnt want to tell him yes but then tell him it wasent his so i told him it was his, which it could be i dont know yet! the boy i am dating i dont think would be there for me, he never calls, he parties, he acts like he isnt interested..on the other hand my ex boyfriend i know will be there, he is happy, just everything that i want, he cares! i would give anything in the world if it was his. BUT i am thinking even if it isnt his to just not say anything...i am so confused on what to do? it would be so hard to tell him that this child wasent his...he would be a great father! SO should let him think its his if it isnt or should i just stay with the person who it really belongs to?
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Well yeah I'd say it's probably not his seeing as how he was shooting blanks for three years... Honesty is the best policy and leading him to believe the baby is his is like trapping him into being a father. If he's really as good of a guy as you claim, he'd want to be there for your child regardless of who the father is. Get a test to see who the real father is before you jump to any conclusions though.
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i have to disagree amanda. i thought the same thing with my ex husband and would talk to my friend about how he shot blanks and so she got with him and then he got her pregnant right away. it might not have been him. it might just not have happened.
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Is there some hidden reason you refuse to use birth control!?!?! Tell the truth, yes it makes you look bad, but that is just the way it is. You put yourself into this pickle. I just do not understand why on earth you would have unprotected s_x with a guy you hardly know and you do not even like...Anyway, good luck! Maybe your mom can help...?
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It does not sound like you are a "bad" person. We all make mistakes, you made a huge one! Now make it better, tell the TRUTH to your ex, your new dude, and your mom and dad. This really sounds like a messed up he said, she said high school drama....well I guess that is what it is.
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wait until you get your dates back from the doctor / hospital and then you should be able to work out the conception date
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Sweetie, it sounds like you've wanted to be pregnant for a long time now. That's the only reason I can think of that you would have unprotected s_x for 3 years. Just goes to show...be careful what you wish for. You absolutely CANNOT deceive this person into thinking that the baby is his. It is wrong and will undoubtedly come back at some point to bite you in the a__s. You obviously think you're mature enough for pregnancy and motherhood, so be mature enough to come clean.
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Teddy- Hmmm... Of course it's possible that either one could be the dad, which is why I said get one of those DNA tests... But is it still really likely that after three years of no baby all the sudden one would pop up? I was just thinking that it seems like a pretty big coincidence that this new guy comes into the picture and she gets pregnant right away. *Shrugs* I could be wrong I don't have any experience on the matter.
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Just because you didn't get pregnant by him before doesn't mean it isn't possible that it happened now. It sounds by the dates that it may be this other guy's baby, but there is no way to tell for sure until you get the pregnancy dated or get DNA testing done when the pregnancy is far enough along or when the baby is born. You don't have to STAY with anyone, but when it comes to parenthood you need to be honest with whomever is the father. And if you ever expect to be able to get child support, you'll need to do a DNA test anyway.
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Hmmm, got yourself in a little pickle... be honest with the guy. That's my only advice on this one...
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I may be reading this wrong but it sounds like you were saying your period was due at the begining of may and you were spotting instead so you tested, and you had s_x with this other guy at the end of april, but you didn't have s_x with your ex in april? I'm just asking b/c more specific dates would be helpful, like the first day of your last period and how long your cycles are usually. That might help pinpoint the date better. But from what i'm reading i'm leaning towards this other guy and not your ex. Usually you ovulate towards the middle of your cycle, or about 2 weeks before your period is due, does that help any? I think no matter what you need to come clean to everyone and once the baby is here you can do a dna test to find out for sure. Good luck i hope it all works out for you.
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Call The Maury Povich Show.
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There's no point in going oo it may be his, it may not be his. Decide what you're doing about the pregnancy. Speak to your ex and be totally honest with him. When the baby is born you can have a DNA test to set your minds at rest but don't lie to your ex otherwise things with come back to bite you in the a__s.
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