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you DO have an unheatlhy compulsion to put everything out there. I think you do need serious intervention. NObody gets raped and then on first instinct pops on the internet forum states they've been raped, doesn't want to talk about it (but does). I think you are either making this up for attention, becasue you're run out of things to talk about that will give you attention, or you really are that sad and have no friends in real life. Rape is a serious matter - it's not something someone could possibly be so frivulous about and laugh it off and continue with your day to day business like nothing happened. I think you need help and you need to get back on your meds.

Hm well you're right I don't have any friends but that doesn't have anything to do with anything... except why I'm on here so often haha. This wasn't my original post. I posted about it because I had a question about the Plan B pill. This was simply a thank you for everyone's concern on the last post... and rea__surance that I'm okay. DB asked me a teensy weensy little question so I answered it. The reason I don't want to talk about it and tell the whole story is because I don't want to think about it or anything like that. In fact I'd be happy to share the story.. The reason I didn't want to is because I know everyone would be like OMGGGGG I'M SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SORRY! And I already have enough of that at home, as I stated before. I am open about my life, I really don't mind admitting that. I'm not ashamed of anything therefore see no reason to hide it. You can pick me apart if you wish, because that's what you seem to do. And you can not like me or think I am... I dunno, whatever you think of me. I'm not perfect, and if my flaws, or the flaws that you seem to think are there, bother you so much... then we'll just have a mutual dislike for each other, and stay out of each other's way. Mkay?

Unless you are either A) A psychologist or B) Have first hand experience with multiple rape victims you don't know anything. Literally. Who are you to say what a rape victim would or wouldn't do? And no, saying "I was raped once, I know it first hand" isn't a logical explanation either, because one person doesn't base a whole. Amanda is dealing with it the best way she can and is and not just for her own sake, for her daughters, for her family, for her fiance. You've got no right to tell her how a rape victim would act or how she would do things. Are you Amanda? No. Are you feeling her feelings? are you in her shoes? No. So until you can put yourself into her body, feel what she feels, does what she does, you can't say a thing. She deals with everything differently just as you do just as I do just as everyone does. Everything deals with situations differently. Something that may hurt one person may not hurt another. Something that makes one cry may not make another. Not saying she isn't hurting or is or isn't dealing with things badly. She is doing it the way she feels is best, who are you to say she isn't, or has problems? You don't know. You never will. Go to college, become a psychologist, then your opinion MIGHT hold water, but you aren't and you won't.

how pathetic that some people cannot just leave one peson alone when they need it most, seriously do you people sit there and wait for someone to post something that is hurting them and then just pounce and tell them they are dealing with it wrong?? Who are you to tell her that she needs back on her meds, who are you to judge how she is handling what she went through its a shame, she came HERE for the support of people who LIKE her, and all some of you can do is nit pick things about her life. As addysmomy said get a degree and then come back and tell her shes handling it wrong, Amanda- im sorry that you post something so personal and there are just some bone heads just looking for a fight, i hope you know there are people on this board who support you :D

although i am now a social worker my masters degree is in psychology. but preppy is right that it is a serious matter. amanda if you have no friends at home but you do on here it might be theraputic for you to talk about it with them. the group of girls you have connected with here could give you what you need, even if that need is to purge all the painful details. i'm sorry that it happened to you (even more so that it was not the first time). but rape isnt something that "just happens". its great that you've accepted that you cannot change it but please dont brush it aside either. i know what i say or what preppy says will hold no water because we seem to be pretty hated here but if you need to talk about it then do so with the girls that you regularly thread with. create a thread for just your girls or get a phone number. it may not be bothering you now but you recently had a child and if any kind of postpardum sets in you want as much support around you as you can get.

Does anyone else find it awful funny that preppy and mandy disappear and reappear within hours of each other? And only when someone else has started something?

AddysMummy- Howd your appt. go? You off bedrest?

Mandy, I appreciate you not jumping down my throat and actually approaching the situation in a polite manner. I don't have friends by choice. I'm a pretty emotionally independent person. I'm a teenager, so naturally my age group is interested in drinking or partying... Which are things I've never really enjoyed. Instead of changing my ways I just accepted we have different lifestyles and moved on. I'm happy, the happiest I've ever been. I don't feel like I need a lot of the things most people do to be happy. There are c___ppy people out there who do c___ppy things.. But as long as I have my health, a happy daughter and a wonderful guy in my life... I really don't see any reason to be upset.

Amanda, do YOURSELF a favor and give the W W W a break. Now you are saying--after being raped 3 times,,,That you are the happiest you have been in your life!?!?!?!? YIKES!!!

Blarg. People are so silly these days.

Technically yep, off bed rest. But I'm underweight ( metabolism problem ) and my blood sugars are low. Anemic still but the iron levels are getting higher ( my husband force feeds me good food lol, says no this no that you can't have this you can't have that.. which I don't mind, he's making up from when he wasn't here I guess!) So I need to gain a POUND a WEEK! Or more! 1-2 lbs!! It's nuts but oh well lol. I am measuring normal though.

Where does it say Amanda can't be on here? Can't post as much as she does? Etc? Let her be, jesus.

Well thats good you're off bedrest. The average weight gain expected is about 1 lb a week when you start the 2nd trimeater. Im still not back up to my starting weight b/c i lost so much being sick. But if gestational diabetes set in like they did with Rylie ill be over what they want me to weigh. They said they only wanted me t gain 23 lbs and i was like yea ok. I crave fresh fruit and vegetables and stiil pile on the lbs :(

Tess I didn't know you had a doctor's appointment. What was it for? Just a check up?

Jeeze. I was talking to this girl who gained 85 pounds through her pregnancy, she's back to her pre-pregnancy weight at 5 months! I was like STOP MAKING ME LOOK BAD hahaha

Aww it's alright, some people it comes real easy to.