Young Pregnant And Scared
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h__lo,,
i am 19 pregnant and don't know what to do. I can't tell my BF that i am actually pregnant he wants to go back to school and such. He loves me and would stay with me, but i can't tell him. I can't have an abortion. I have taken 3 tests and all say positive. Can i get a postive test if i am ovulating? someone said i could. I figured i am about 2 weeks pregnant and i am on my own. Things with my parents are ok but they would prolly disown me if they knew i was pregnant. What do i do.
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A woman ovulating would have no effect on a pregnancy test. It is the pregnancy hormone (HCG) that makes a pregnancy test positive. So that means you are most definitely pregnant if you have gotten 3 positive tests. As far as what you should do, I think you should tell your boyfriend. You might be surprised at his reaction, he might even want to keep the baby. If you have decided to keep this baby, you are going to have to tell him anyways. He is going to wonder when you start growing a belly...lol. If you are living on your own, as an adult, then I see no need why you should tell your parents right away if you do not want to. But, the support system would be great.
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Might I add, you do not ovulate when you are pregnant =)
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You say you can't tell your boyfriend because he wants to go back to school? Having a kid does not mean you give up on your goals! If you aren't getting an abortion you have to tell him either way. In about 6 months it will be oh-so-obvious. You seem to be making this a lot worse than it is... I bet a lot of people will be happy for you. 19 might not be as young as you think.
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You really need to tell your boyfriend. He has a right to know also and like Melissa said he may have a completely different reaction to this. Your parents will not be happy, but you say your relationship with them is good so I am sure once it settles in they will be supportive. Having a baby is hard but it doesn't mean it is the end of the world! You need to make sure you have thought really hard about everything before you make any decisions as to rather you keep the baby or not. I have a friend who gave her son up when she was 19 and she has told me it was a mistake because she missed him so much. So it needs to be something you are really sure about and know you could handle. But, there are lots of families who would love to adopt so please don't consider abortion.
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One positive test is enough. Your parents will be shocked, but in the end everyone likes to see the next generation on the way, and I am sure they will support you. Sit your mom down after you have helped her clean house tomorrow, and say "Is there such a thing as a false positive on a pregnancy test?" Good luck!
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why would having a baby stop him from going back to school? having a baby does not stop you doing anything you want to, maybe you will have to wait a bit longer but ultimately you can still go back to school or have a career just like anyone else. i was 19 too when i got pregnant and my mum surprised me. she did cry and tell me she was disappointed but then she just hugged me and we went on as normal. she absolutely adores my daughter now and spoils her and her cousins. i am glad you decided against abortion, have you considered adoption? or do you want to keep the baby? things have a way of working themselves out, just be strong and concentrate on looking after you and your baby.
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tiny: it's backwards. being pregnant can give you a positive ovulation test. if you're 2 weeks late, then you're actually about 6 weeks pregnant. you should tell your boyfriend, though. and not to look down on the situation, but he may not take it as well as you may hope so be ready for it.
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Sweetie. I was 15 when I became pregnant and my family was disappointed but supported my decision of my desire to keep my baby. although it may feel like the end of the world it's not the end for you! I would not suggest abortion. You should tell the father if you haven't yet. I see you wrote a couple weeks ago I am curious to know what has happened? Did you tell him and your family?
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