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S_x can be extremely difficult and uncomfortable during the last part of pregnancy. Often times (as in my case) the doctor will forbid intercourse towards the end depending upon the situation. I would try to be understanding and speak with your wife about how you feel. Perhaps try other ways of being intimate.

In some women their s_x drive goes down towards the last part of the pregnancy. Maybe she doesnt feel attractive enough or is just wore out from 3 kids plus another on the way. Good luck to you but remember she is your wife and maybe if you sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel it might make you feel better. She may not even realize she is cutting you off or it is bothering you like that. Hope evrything works out :-)

Well, she's not making up the aches and pains. Show her you understand.... Here is something to get her to show her you know what she's going through. Just google Bed-Pal maternity straps. A little sympathy for her can really go a long way. It's new so she'll be impressed that you've found it on your own. Then tell her (when it's getting sooner) that you've heard that s_x may actually help things move along. Hope this helps!

you seem to have 2 hands to type with - put them to other use and let the poor woman alone - she's carrying your FOURTH CHILD! geeeesh.

ok, so I'm not for writing harsh replies, but seriously, this is what has you all stressed out? You should be very happy for any s_x during pregnancy! honestly between all the pains, aches, heartburn, sleeplessness not to mention crazy hormones and mood swings etc. s_x might not actually be a first priority. I would try ask your wife about how you can help make her feel better, ma__sage her feet, draw her a bubble bath, make her dinner? perhaps? maybe if she feels pampered she'll be in the mood for some intimacy (read intimacy does not = s_x), if not suck it up and deal with it, being pregnant especially at the end is no picnic and your wife deserves all the support she can get without feeling like she has to take care of you as well, sounds like she has enough to deal with. As for "fair" I don't think it's fair that women have to go through all the rigours of pregnancy and some men just don't get it, that's not fair!

Unfortunately she probably is not making it up but what you could do is let her know that if she has s_x then it will probably help her go into natural labor and have the baby earlier. I honestly have not wanted to have s_x at all due to being pregnant and all the motions that come along with being pregnant but the past couple days I have been doing it just because I want to have the baby otherwise I probably would be waiting until after my son is born. I am also on my 4th pregnancy and my due date was this last Saturday. The pain is just getting worse as well as the heartburn, hip pain, contractions that are braxton hicks but are still painful, etc. Being pregnant can really make you feel extremely uns_xy and its hard to have it with a big bump in the way all the time and with the pain as well. Just make sure you are thinking of how she feels and what she might being going through but definitely let her know s_x works and that is something the doctor will suggest if there are no complications. Good luck!

You are definitely being selfish. Give your wife a break. Do something really nice for her and stop asking for s_x. Call a really nice spa and get your wilfe a pregnancy ma__sage and manicure and a pedicure. If you don't get any s_x for the next 9 to 12 weeks then that is just the way it is. Don't pressure her or try to make her feel bad, she will only resent you for it. Honestly, after having three kids already, I would think you would know the drill. Back off and be there FOR HER.

Are you for real??? No offense, but seriously, how can you blame her for not "giving you any?". Listen to all the other posts - they have great advice.

Well I have to put in my two cents here. Number one, she's most likely not making it up. Those are all valid complaints. And number two, she obviously didn't avoid you before getting pregnant since she is, in fact, pregnant, so I wouldn't worry that she's just trying to make excuses to avoid having s_x with you. Honestly it is physically uncomfortable to have s_x sometimes during pregnancy. I thought my friends who told me that were making it up but I've experienced it myself. I don't hold out on DH too often, but I don't initiate s_x like I used to. Don't worry, your wife will get back to herself eventually but don't expect everything to go right back to normal after the 6 weeks is up. Having a new baby is hard and you don't feel like your body is your own anymore since you have a baby dependent upon you 24 hours a day and sometimes what your wife will need most is just an offer by you to take the baby so she can be alone and have her body back to herself. So to answer your question, it's most likely the "real deal" and will get better. Just give her time and support and if you really really feel like you need s_x with her, let her know and be happy with a quickie. :)

this screams of a fake post... come on this is his FOURTH child and he doesn't know about the symptoms of pregnancy? right...ok. (note my sarcasm)

I would just like to point out that not getting any isn't any picnic for us, either. There have been quite a few days I've wanted it but have been too downright miserable to be able to go through with it. Not to mention it really is upsetting to know your DH isn't getting any and you can't remedy the situation. Since this is your fourth child, I'm a__suming this hasn't happened with her previous pregnancies and you're confused as to why it would happen now... well, stick around these boards a while and you'll learn really quickly that even when it's the same woman, one pregnancy can be vastly different from the next. And if you're really concerned about whether or not her symptoms are real, do some reading up. There is a ton of material out there, both online and in bookstores on the different stages of pregnancy and the symptoms that may be experienced throughout those stages. Also, remember, you may not think it's fair that you're doing without s_x... but she's having to deal with being a living incubator for your child. Would you rather go without s_x or deal with carrying an extra 30lbs around, having your stomach knot up in to a ball at the slightest disturbance and/or for no reason at all, having someone kick and push and poke your ribs/stomach/bladder/and intestines, have two times as much oxygen and blood demanded out of your heart but half your normal lung capacity, a sharp pain in your hips every time you so much as shift in your seat, and constantly feel like you've been through a day of hard physical labor even when it's early and you haven't done much of anything? Shoot, the only reason why WE put up with it is because we love our husbands, enjoy having s_x with them, and want to have children with them. Just the fact that she's done this 3 times before and is still willing to do it a 4th time around should tell you how much she really cares about you and wants to have a family with you, and yes, WANTS TO HAVE s_x WITH YOU, lol. Besides, I'm sure that once she's ready for it again, you both will probably more than make up for lost time. ;)

C,mon you need to give her a break, the last month is so uncomfortable with nausea, braxton hicks, back pains, front pains, side pains, pelvic pains, leg cramps and ACHING EVERYTHING not to mention the fact that if shes anything like me she feels worn out and not at her most attractive, this is my 4th baby too and my hubbys in same boat as you but is being really good bout it. think you should be content with hugs for the next couple of month now and look forward to how good it will feel when your s_x life is back on :=)

Thank u ladies thank u, seriously I thank you. Some more than others, I love the way u all keep it 200%. The way I honestly feel is that I'm left out and knowing that once she drops the baby, then its another 2 months of really bein left out, might as well call me Dr. Dry D. Lol, the other ways of bein intimate don't get any further past the thought in my house, BC she says its always leads to s_x, but if I know I aint gonna get none, then how do I fix that? I was crackin up when I read the one about "having two hands to type, why not use them for somethin else" well I do but its not as fun, wish I can get dw 'I think that's darling wife, correct me if I'm wrong, to take care of me that way since she is jus so miserable. She says that it will be better once she has the baby but its hard to believe her or even stay optimisti about some exciting make up time that we will have. I know she hurts and has constant pains, but even when I try to rub, touch, offer bath, etc. Its more likely denied than not, ern though we know aint nuthin gonna happen, I can't even get somewhat physical? Its jus crazy at times

Oh my goodness. I don't think she's making anything up as I can certainly vouch for the heartburn and leg aches, back aches, shooting pains. The last thing I think about when I get in the bed is s_x, I just want to go to sleep.

this has got to be fake, if not then i feel more than inclined to smack this person...with the way i'm feeling i'm so not thinking of "pleasing my man" right now. also sounds to me like you are looking for proper justification to go out there and satisfy your needs. grrrrrr stuff like this gets under my skin, have some courtesy and kindness, being pregnant isn't the most fabulous time for us either.

ladies, ladies....lets be nice to the man. i mean, u got to give him credit for getting on here......lol.....and asking the question in the first place. i mean, really, think about how funny it is. he gets on a third trimester board and asks a group of hormonal, tired, large and uncomfortable women if his wife is "faking" her aches and pains. i almost feel sorry for you man. anyhow, i just thought we could all see humor in it and give the guy a break. most men really dont understand and never will understand what we are going through. perhaps we can let him know that she is for sure not faking it and that it is not the end of the world. your s_x life will resume once baby is out and mommy is healed. my hubby is very s_xually active with me and always wants it but has been wonderful to me in understanding that i cannot per doctors orders. its a short amount of time in all of our lives and such a small sacrfice to have to make for the gift that we get in return. i wish you luck on your quest to "get some" before baby comes. :) but do keep in mind mommy needs attn in other ways right now.