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Ok, well, I'm not a mother yet, but I am in my 30s and have taken one of your possible paths, so I see no reason to discount my opinion on the matter. It all depends on you, of course, but consider what types of things you want for yourself and your husband before a child is in the picture. If you're 25 and working on your doctorate, then you have obviously never had a life outside of school. As a person working toward a doctorate myself, I know how little time that leaves for family life. You might want to consider that it would be good to have a couple years with your husband where there is no studying or publications or overtime hours or weekend work that has to be done. You could enjoy having free weekends to yourselves for awhile. That said, in some careers (like mine), the best time to have children is during your doctorate, because the responsibilities and travelling only increase later on. It's something to think about, and only you can really decide when is right. Have a good long think about it, and talk with your hubby about future plans, and I'm it'll become clear what's the right path for you. Good luck with it!

I just turned 32. I was pregnant a few weeks ago, but had a miscarriage at 8.5 weeks. Before we got pregnant, like you, we toyed with the idea. While we were not actively "trying" to get pregnant, we also purposely did nothing to prevent getting pregnant because we felt ready to have a baby, but did not want to become obsessed with conceiving and ovulation and all that jazz. So it dodn't take long to become pregnant. But I miscarried. SO my point is, once I did get pregnant and was pregnant for a mere 8.5 weeks, I absolutley know, without a doubt that this is something I want. Sometimes a person doesn't know just how ready they are until it actually happens, so I say, if you feel ready and are in love and have good jobs, then go for it, and see what happens!

Hi Amy... sorry, I'm another non-mother answering your question, but I thought it might give you some more food for thought. I'm 35 and just started trying to have a baby this year. I did a master's degree and started my own business first. I had a miscarriage in August and I'm now wishing that we had started trying for children 2-3 years earlier. Everything does get more difficult as you get older and I've found that we really do have no control over the timing of pregnancy or the possibility of miscarriage. I'm not trying to scare you, but just give you some more insight. Good luck to you in whatever path you choose.

I guess it really depends on the situation. I am 34 and we got pregnant the very first time we TTC. (V, I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. I can't imagine trying to deal with a m/c. I feel pretty thankful for my situation.) Amy, I think it is really just up to you. 25 is certainly a good physical age to ttc. I would have liked to have tried back then but my DH wanted to wait more. In the end, we waited for him and it was nice to have that time alone together. Just make sure you have had enough time to yourself would be my advice. Once you have a child there will be no more spontaneity in life. Hot dates with your DH must be planned. No more going at it on the living room couch, lol. You'll have to plan things around your child. If you have had that time for just you and your DH and feel that you are ready, then I say go for it! It's something only you and your DH would know. But it sounds like you have everything else (money, stability, etc) all set. :) Good luck!

First history. I'm 25, married 7 yrs, with 3 miscarriages, 1 tubal pregnancy and 2 children under my belt. I say go for it. Will you ever really have enough security or have enough time. There is never a perfect situation for having children. Just when its the perfect time for you. Its your life and you get to decide others opions don't really count or matter. Good luck. Hope you find what your looking for.