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I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now we have a wonderful relationship. He has a very successful business and I am finishing up school in about a month. I will be 21 years old in december and I am dying to have a baby. I have worked in a daycare with infants and toddlers since i was 16 in high school and through out college. I love kids more than anything and want one of my own so bad I can't seem to think about anything else. I live with my boyfriend and we really just stay home most of the time besides going to dinner and a movie occasionally. So i know when most people say live your life first they don't understand that I don't care about partying and going out I'm over that now. My boyfriend thinks we should wait but we have unprotected s_x and I stopped the pill like 5 months ago and he knows that so I think if it happens he will accept it. I hope to persue my education online regardless if I have a baby or not. His mother lives with us upstairs and wants me to have a baby and will be there to help me with everything. We are more than financially stable and my career does allow me to work from home if neccessary. Can i please have some opinions!
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 | HH - October 22 |
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Why not get married first? It doesn't guarantee anything, but it does say something about the level of committment.
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I agree with HH, I think that you should get married first.... there are tax breaks too... there is nothing wrong with marriage first, you can just go down to the justice of the peace, or have a small intimate affair, or you can have the wedding of your dreams. Having a baby is a lifelong situation... do you guys have any pets, like a dog, or cats, marriage can be very tough, you will learn more about each other than any other person. I was 19 when I got married, and I thought that I wanted a baby right a way, but decided against it. We wanted to spend time just the two of us, get a house.... then think about a baby. Now we've been married for 16 months and I still don't think that the time is right for us to have a baby, even though we have everything that we have ever wanted.. If your boyfriend wants to wait then I think that you should respect his decision, it takes "2 to tango", and a family to raise a child (no disrespect to any single parents). Good Luck with whatever you choose.
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To me, it sounds like you pretty much got things together. However, you should have another baby discussion with your boyfriend. I understand he wants to wait, but what if you got pregnant and he suddenly got really scared? He NEED TO UNDERSTAND that unprotected s_x can very likely lead to pregnancy and that it is not only your responsibility to prevent it. It's his too. Please do not a__sume he'd be OK with it. Sometimes guys are like brick walls and he might be thinking that if he told you he doesn't want kids yet, that you will make sure it doesn't happen. As far as the marriage advice, that is entirely up to you both to decide.
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 | *X* - November 16 |
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"Partying" is not "living your life." Have you done any travelling yet.? Are you really willing to get only a mediocre education (because with a child you will only have the time to do a half-a__sed job of it)? Getting drunk with your friends isn't the only thing you'd have to give up.
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