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i cant speak for anyone else... i know i am ready to have a baby... i was ready mentally/emotionally years ago but decided to wait a little longer to be ready financially... of course things never work out how i plan but i couldnt be more happy to have my baby on the way... no matter what my situation is... and like i said in a different post... as long as i have what it takes to make sure my child is healthy (mentally emotionally and physically) than i dont think what anyone else thinks matters... i dont have a "career" to fall back on... and ill just be starting college this fall... but i have more life experience than a lot of people i know who are much older than me and i feel i have a lot to offer a child (a loving, safe, and secure environment... a wonderful family, and a mother who will love him/her above everything else) i also know having children is all about sacrifice and i know that no sacrifice is too big for my child... i know what raising a child involves... and i know it helps to plan ahead (i already have stacks of diapers...) but i dont believe anyone is totally ready until the baby is here and that was the point of my earlier post... knowing what to do and actually having to do it are so different... good luck to everyone young, old, and in between....
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Katie00 I did understand you said GENERAL i was putting in information about myself. That doesn't mean I think you were talking at ME I'm stating what I feel or think or do, understand? I don't feel the need for college, yes it helps when life doesn't go as planned but I don't feel the need at all. That does not make me immature, that does not mean I will be an irresponsible parent. That is a dumb comment. And if you know people who think it is the women's role to be home without question then that's terrible but that is not very common or atleast not around here. I don't take things personally lol but if that's what you think then ok go ahead and think that. I say what I think does that mean I take it personally? I'm pa__sionate about everything but that does not mean I take it personally so why not find out the difference. You keep calling me immature based on what? My feeling of me personally not needing college? It takes a hell of a lot more to tag someone then a statement that you do not agree with. People who throw that comment out everytime they don't agree arnt the most mature of the bunch. But I've stated what I wanted, have a good day.
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okay shannon and ktlee "ready" is when u are financially stable on your own not on your parents. "ready" is when you know u can devote the majority of your time to your child not going to highschool. "ready" is when u are emotionally stable to handle the responsiblity of another human being. not going on AFDC(county), not living with mom and dad, not colleting WIC vouchers. no matter your age true is true 18 or 40 y/o. but for sure not a 13-17 y/o would be ready. i am not even sure if an 18 y/o is ready but since they are legal they do what they want to. now u see.
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To me being "ready" is when you are financially ready, emotionaly ready, and physically ready..When YOU and YOUR husband or "partner" both agree that you can do it and are 100% sure that you can, when you don't have to ask other ppl if they think you are ready or if its a good time in your life, when you aren't still relying on other ppl such as parents to help you out and or support you financially if one cant even support theirself financially then they aren't ready to bring another life into the world for them to support if they can't even do this for themself.. When you are ready you will know you are it takes planning and a lot of thinking and talking with each other to decided on this and yes of course everyone will always have those little "what ifs" to theirself about becoming new parents its only normal but when you don't have any truly bad doubts about it and KNOW that you are ready you have time to give your child what he/she needs you have the money to not only support yourself but another life as well and KNOW that you and your "partner" can take on the resonsibility of having your first child then you are ready.. But you need to be sure before you try and do this both of you need to feel the same way about it and know that it can happen and its the right time.
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