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You guys do realise that this message was put here in November 2004! - I'm sure she has made her decision by now

it is not really his decision...and doubt usually means don't...he needs to take responsibility for his actions..you need to not worry about what other people think or say..and it sounds like it is time to kick him to the curb and sue for child support

Yes, if you want to have the baby; have the baby. It's your body and if you don't want to terminate, please don't. If he can dry his tears and stop throwing up and think about you for a split second instead of himself, this is not all about him.

LOL! Vee, this situation makes u wanna just start writing! I just happened to look at what veronica wrote. Girl I was about to start typin away! LOL I hope she did the right thing. He sounds like a jerk, but it happens all the time. A woman is good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to have a child with. Men like that need to not have s_x at all.

I was very sad when I read your story although I have never had an abortion I am a 26 year old single mother of four kids. No matter what the man thinks, you have to make the right decision for you. If you have the abortion then he might be happy for now, but in the back of your mind you would always wonder. No one can tell you what to do, but you should really take some time to yourself and think about you, not him. Also you can't take all the blame because he was there too. Your six year old might be estatic about having a brother or a sister. I hope things work out for you!

i am so going through the same thing right now but we just had a baby 6 1/2 months ago he has a daughter and i have a son from previous relationships.he wants me to get an abortion but i cant bring myself to do it . We are living together and all the whole nines yards except marriage i mean what did he expect sleeping with each other without condoms now im about 3 1/2 months pregnant.i feel that i am way to far along for an abortion,and i completly understand where your coming from when it comes to not being financially stable at the time being and all the others mentioned i feel that is very selfish and heartless.The way i see it is you have the choice to keep your baby alive why would you waant to murder it????men are A**holes

My dear, HE doesn't want to be 40 with a 7yr old! I am 41 and TTC and there are MANY families starting at 35-40. Go see "Pregnant over 35" it is fully of people having kids at 35+. Age has nothing to do with having a child. I am so pro-life, so I would have to say you are doing the right thing to keep that baby. You saw it, it is a little person waiting to be big enough to come into this world. I have been a single mom of three for years. You find a way. In this relationship, it will be the first time WE are having a child, and WE will raise it. My first husband, was never there but to conceive them. After three babies and hoping it would change, I divorced him. I have no regrets either. If this man doesn't truly love you and your kids, another man will. Trust me!!!

Hey I saw a post you made in a thread and I hope you dont mind me emailing you. But I really need to vent. Heres my story. Im a 24 year old who works at night and also model. I havent been on birth control since I was 18 and had 3 boyfriends within that time frame and we always had unprotected s_x and Ive never been pregnant with them. Well over this past summer I met a guy and he was the most sweet non tattoed, had a steady good job all the qualities my mom and dad would have liked me to be with basically. Well after 3 months I decided to get back with my ex. Well it ended up not working out and I started talking again with the guy 2 months ago now. Weve been having s_x and now i am 6 weeks pregnant. He is 26. He thinks we are not ready and very firmly thinks i should quickly as possible take the abortion pill. I see his side that we are very young and have not known each other that long and that bringing up a baby into this world would be worse than terminating it. Im so torn because as though I understand whole heartedly his side. I have this weird gut feeling I should keep it. I feel as though theyre less fortunate people in this world who have it a lot worse than him and I. We both have amazing and very financially well families. I know they would be there for us. Only one day has pa__sed since weve found out and last night while we were sleeping he kept waking me up saying things like "c___p" out loud and "S---!" It would wake me up and I would be like "whats the matter baby?" And he would reply "im not ready for a kid" It almost makes me feel bad about wanting to keep it. Ive told 4 of my girlfriends and my stepmom they all have mixed feeling but all agree that Ryan would be there no matter what and he is one of the best guys theyve seen me with. But I know deep down in my heart having the baby is the responsible and right thing to do. I feel as though god has sent me this gift with Ryan and not my other boyfriends for a reason. And it only took 3 weeks after reconnecting with him to get pregnant. I want us to make this decision together because it is both of our child. But I also dont want to rush the decision either. I just need some guidance and thoughts I think. Thank you for hearing me out.