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I think what your husband is doing is normal I've been married for almost 2 years we now have a baby girl she was born in march but before that we were together 13 years school sweet hearts we knew we wanted kids but when we talked about it my husband would say maybe we should wait after some disscussion I told him it had to be now or not at all we are both in our early 30's now I didn't want to wait till I was too old! I think men are just as scared as we are to be a parent just talk with him now my husband can't be prouder and she looks just like him which he finds to be the greatest thing.Hang in there and just talk he probably has fears they just don't like to admit it. Good luck

I tell my husband that he would make a good dad all the time. We are even raising my 15 year old sister. He is so wonderful with her. They are very close and he would do anything for her. We consider her our own. But when I talk about having children of our own, he says I am going thru "a phase". He knows my fear of never being able to give birth to our own children. The more I talk about children, the more he doesn't talk. I have even given him an altimatom. I said we were not going to be married four years before we have children. If I have to wait that long, I feel my husband isn't in the relationship whole-heartedly. I told him I would doubt his love for me if I have to wait that long. Is there any way to pursued him to see my point of view? When I baby-sit my friends' kids, he makes appoint to not be around. Is this normal?

I also want children really bad, and my dh thinks we should wait. We are younger(I am 22, he is soon to be 23) but that doesn't bother me at all. I am completely ready, but he thinks we should wait...he thinks we need more money, and he's not quite ready to give up his "kid" status in the family..he's spoiled too, by everyone, and he's not ready to give that up. I've also told him that we are having one in the next 2 years, and like you the more I talk about it the less he wants to do with it...and sometimes he even gets really mad at me, and says that's all I talk about, even though it's definately NOT all I talk about. If I am ever going to keep my niece or nephews or little brother for the weekend or just the night, my dh pitches a huge fit...I had to quit babysitting for people because he would always get really mad when I did. He wants kids, just not right now, and I have ALWAYS wanted to start having them young. But it's like what I want doesn't matter at all in regards to children, it's just all about when HE is ready...it's so frustrating!

I know just how you feel. I support my dh with his farming. It is quite expensive to get into. Farming has been my dh lifetime dream. If it means that much to him, why not make him happy. I wish he would feel the same towards my dreams. I refuse to get back on bc. It screwed me up so bad!!! But he insists on getting back on it. I won't. How should I tell him that I don't want to get back on bc?

I totally understand about the farming thing....my dh is really into golf...and that is an expensive hobby, especially when he plays in all these tournaments...and it takes up quite a bit of his time too. But I support him, because I want him to be happy...just like you said about your dh!!! But I still feel like, when is it going to be my turn to do the things I want to do??? We talked a few months ago and decided I should go off the pill....my dh doesn't like taking medicine at all if he doesn't absolutely HAVE to, and he was leery about me taking the pill, especially since I'd been on it about 6 years....anyway we decided it'd be best if I went off it. But he also doesn't want to have a baby...he wouldn't be devastated if I got pg, but he doesn't want to try for one right now, and he'd still be upset if an "accident" happened. Maybe you could just try explaining to your dh that when you go off the pill it can take your body up to a year or even longer to get back on track, so even if he isn't ready for kids right now, it's best for you to stay off the pill, get your cycles somewhat regulated, and get to know your body/cycle somewhat, before you all start trying, even if that isn't going to be within a year...tell him when he does decide he wants kids, you want to be able to somewhat know the best time for you all to try, so it doesn't take you forever to get pregnant. I'm on my third month off the pill, and my first cycle was 31 days, my second was only 25, and I have had different pms symptoms every month, and I can't tell when I'm ovulating.... Anyway maybe it will work if you tell him that. I hope so! Good luck!

Mine has been pushing it off too. He has been saying that we would start our family in 5 years for the last seven years! I told him I will be 30 in two years and I want a baby for my 30th birthday. He said OK =)