He Slep With A Prostotute
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Hi, I have been with my husband for 4 years and we have been married for a year. Last year after i had our son i found out that he slept with a prostotute when he was single. I know that what he did when he was single had nothing to do with me but i didnt think he was like that. Why do you think he waited to tell me after i had my son? I was upset that he didnt tell me earlier and he said it wasnt and isnt erelavent. Do you think thats true? and do i have a right to be upset that he didnt tell me earlie and all he says it's erelavent? Plz help i need some one to talk to about it.
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Honestly - what he did when he was single is done and over. He can't go back and undo it. And it was when he was single. I know it must be hard to imagine your dh doing something like that - it's always amazing when our loved ones pull something totally unexpected. And I don't know why he would wait to tell you now - other then it's something to tell. Personally, I would have kept that to myself. But, whatever the reason he told you now - now you know. I wouldn't get upset as again, it happened before you were married and it's over with. I would file it under stupid things my dh has done and move on.
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maybe he kept it to himself because it was one of those things from his old life that he really wanted to forget. sometimes, when people do dumb things before they settle down they try and forget what they were like and what they had done. it may have been really hard for him to tell you that, and that is why he waited for so long. he might have not picked the best time, but that could of just been when he was ready. you can't force things that you are uncomfortable with. my boyfriend did many many stupid things before we started dating, and i don't care anymore. the point is he doesn't do them now. there is no reason to freak out over things that he did when you weren't together if it doesn't directly effect you because it could cause more problems than you need. good luck with everything.
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You're going to have to let it go. Tell him you are disappointed to know this about his past , if you haven't already made that clear, and then let it go so it doesn't poison your relationship. There is nothing he can do about it now.
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